Why do women stay after their husbands affair(s)?

[Anonymous]

Why do women stay after their husbands affair(s)? If my wife were to have an affair no second change and she knows it too. I have been faithful for 20 years and will continue to do so for.another 20 years or longer. Yet on this forum I see women after women day after day give all kind of excuses and reasons for staying with a man who cheated on them. Is it the fear of being alone? I hope not because being alone for the next 50 years is far better than sharing the same bed, bodily fluids etc with someone who betrayed you.

Maybe I am different from other men, but I think most men would leave after the first affair.

[Anonymous]

They have kids together whom they don’t want to grow up in a divided family, like their life otherwise, money, don’t want to be dating again in their 40s, etc.

[Anonymous]

If my husband wanted to have an affair and stay married, I’d probably say yes. I think I’d prefer to know, but if it has already happened I would rather not.

Honestly this just isn’t my thing, sexual fidelity is not my most important kind of fidelity. But a relationship would really bother me.

[Anonymous]

I know this is a tired thing to say on here, but women generally view marriage differently than men. I don’t know that sharing a bed and bodily fluids or not being lonely is most of it.

I can’t speak for all women, but I think a lot of women think of the purpose of marriage is to create and raise a family. Many young mothers feel like a man distancing himself from family life, childcare, and housework, particularly if they had discussed splitting those things evenly, is as big of a betrayal as a brief affair.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. It’s interesting isn’t it?

Imagine that you aren’t particularly interested in sex like three weeks a month and that it wouldn’t really devastate you if your wife had an affair.
How much more annoying would your wife be?
That’s what it’s like to be a married woman.

Frankly, it’s kind of shocking that women stay married at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do women stay after their husbands affair(s)? If my wife were to have an affair no second change and she knows it too. I have been faithful for 20 years and will continue to do so for.another 20 years or longer. Yet on this forum I see women after women day after day give all kind of excuses and reasons for staying with a man who cheated on them. Is it the fear of being alone? I hope not because being alone for the next 50 years is far better than sharing the same bed, bodily fluids etc with someone who betrayed you.

Maybe I am different from other men, but I think most men would leave after the first affair.

You sound immature. Men can cheat even when they love their partner and want to stay in the marriage. They are wired differently. This is why most women don’t throw everything out after the first strike. It’s when the cheating becomes repetitive and disrespectful that they leave.
Women tend to cheat when the love is gone and the marriage is broken beyond repair. That’s why men leave after the first affair because there is nothing left to save.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do women stay after their husbands affair(s)? If my wife were to have an affair no second change and she knows it too. I have been faithful for 20 years and will continue to do so for.another 20 years or longer. Yet on this forum I see women after women day after day give all kind of excuses and reasons for staying with a man who cheated on them. Is it the fear of being alone? I hope not because being alone for the next 50 years is far better than sharing the same bed, bodily fluids etc with someone who betrayed you.

Maybe I am different from other men, but I think most men would leave after the first affair.

You sound immature. Men can cheat even when they love their partner and want to stay in the marriage. They are wired differently. This is why most women don’t throw everything out after the first strike. It’s when the cheating becomes repetitive and disrespectful that they leave.
Women tend to cheat when the love is gone and the marriage is broken beyond repair. That’s why men leave after the first affair because there is nothing left to save.

What haha....you are insane. I don't know any woman staying after repetitive cheating...
Women do have self love in case you are not aware

[Anonymous]

I think women are just afraid to be alone. At least the ones who choose to stay despite the fact that they can survive and thrive on their own. For a lot of women as much they say publicly they don't need a partner not having one seems to bother a lot. I don't know why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do women stay after their husbands affair(s)? If my wife were to have an affair no second change and she knows it too. I have been faithful for 20 years and will continue to do so for.another 20 years or longer. Yet on this forum I see women after women day after day give all kind of excuses and reasons for staying with a man who cheated on them. Is it the fear of being alone? I hope not because being alone for the next 50 years is far better than sharing the same bed, bodily fluids etc with someone who betrayed you.

Maybe I am different from other men, but I think most men would leave after the first affair.

Divorce rates not high enough for you huh?

Sounds like you have some personal issues, going by the comments and descriptive phrasing you used.

[Anonymous]

Desperation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They have kids together whom they don’t want to grow up in a divided family, like their life otherwise, money, don’t want to be dating again in their 40s, etc.

+1

Cheating Men (65% or more) will say they are very happy in their marriages. It’s very different than women cheaters where less than 30% say that and most are looking for exit affairs.

If it’s a happy household- women will stay for their kids’ well-being and not have divided time or other women raising them part of the time. They will keep the strong family unit together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know this is a tired thing to say on here, but women generally view marriage differently than men. I don’t know that sharing a bed and bodily fluids or not being lonely is most of it.

I can’t speak for all women, but I think a lot of women think of the purpose of marriage is to create and raise a family. Many young mothers feel like a man distancing himself from family life, childcare, and housework, particularly if they had discussed splitting those things evenly, is as big of a betrayal as a brief affair.

^ most would say it’s a bigger betrayal than cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They have kids together whom they don’t want to grow up in a divided family, like their life otherwise, money, don’t want to be dating again in their 40s, etc.

+1

Cheating Men (65% or more) will say they are very happy in their marriages. It’s very different than women cheaters where less than 30% say that and most are looking for exit affairs.

If it’s a happy household- women will stay for their kids’ well-being and not have divided time or other women raising them part of the time. They will keep the strong family unit together.

But even after the kids are gone many of these women still choose to stay. To me it seems like the fear of being alone as an older woman. And this shouldn't even be the case because it's pretty much accepted today that women date younger and society doesn't care anymore.

[Anonymous]

I dunno, but I think it can be hard to leave. I never thought I would stay after being cheated on but I was like 7 months pregnant when I found out about a prior affair. If it had been a long term, emotional affair I think it would be different. But I felt a need to stay for the sake of the child who had nothing to do with it, and was in a vulnerable time. plenty of men know when a woman is most vulnerable and wait until they "have" a woman in a soft spot and that's when they begin the BS. And leaving can take a lot of effort- sometimes it's easier to just emotionally tune out and ignore. But I agree that it's a huge betrayal and the love will never, ever be the same.

[Anonymous]

Interesting. When a woman starts a thread saying she is filing for divorce due to an affair she is encouraged and defended. When a man then ask those who choose to stay why they do so, suddenly the women are doing the right thing. Lol. Which is it?!