Top regrets in life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not marrying the hot guy with the huge package.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seems most posters regret:
-relationships: marriage person they married
-education: college or lack of, law school
-career: lawyer for example

More proof that lawyers are the most miserable creatures.

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Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

He may be separated. Neither of us have social media, but he’s accepted a professorship distant from his home and I hear his wife hasn’t moved. She has a serious career, so they may be doing LD. I have been separated for years. I feel like he would find me if he were meaningfully single.

To the snickers lady: Ahahaha, you are my hero

I found this one of the hardest regrets to read. I think we need a spinoff thread where everyone convinces you to reach out.

What if he is not separated, though? Or only kind of testing the waters. That would be so awful. He is one that would never, ever cheat, nor would I. I look for him in airports 😬

DH here: NGL, “I look for him in airports” got me right in the feels. PP: I kind of know what this feels like, I’d say reach out, the worst can say is “still taken” and take it from me you don’t want to wonder “what if” for decades.

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I might consider it if I get strong clues that it’s a perma-separation or a divorce, but I really think if he’s free he will find me.

[Anonymous]

Just because the moderator complains. how did he know, yes regret is having not been in a band. Never too late I suppose.

[Anonymous]

Spending teen years and 20s partying and drinking too much and wasting time in friendships with others who did the same. I stopped drinking at 29 but regret that waste of time and energy on stupid things.

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I regret that I didn't pay closer attention to warnings (and do more research myself) into marrying someone who had children.

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Poor job choosing relationships, I have a mom who is totally devoted to my narcissist dad and I wished I had guidance on how to pick a partner.

I regret breaking up with an ex in my early 20s, he was really a gem but I was so young and hadn't dated much. Of course now he's a great dad and husband, and I am stuck with an addict who untreated mental illness who refuses to get help and hid the extent of their issues. It's going to be hard to get out.

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Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

He may be separated. Neither of us have social media, but he’s accepted a professorship distant from his home and I hear his wife hasn’t moved. She has a serious career, so they may be doing LD. I have been separated for years. I feel like he would find me if he were meaningfully single.

To the snickers lady: Ahahaha, you are my hero

I found this one of the hardest regrets to read. I think we need a spinoff thread where everyone convinces you to reach out.

What if he is not separated, though? Or only kind of testing the waters. That would be so awful. He is one that would never, ever cheat, nor would I. I look for him in airports 😬

Don’t make this another regret! Can’t you send him a casual catch-up email? Or call as you would an old friend?

[Anonymous]

Marrying my husband. Ruined my life.

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Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

He may be separated. Neither of us have social media, but he’s accepted a professorship distant from his home and I hear his wife hasn’t moved. She has a serious career, so they may be doing LD. I have been separated for years. I feel like he would find me if he were meaningfully single.

To the snickers lady: Ahahaha, you are my hero

I found this one of the hardest regrets to read. I think we need a spinoff thread where everyone convinces you to reach out.

What if he is not separated, though? Or only kind of testing the waters. That would be so awful. He is one that would never, ever cheat, nor would I. I look for him in airports 😬

DH here: NGL, “I look for him in airports” got me right in the feels. PP: I kind of know what this feels like, I’d say reach out, the worst can say is “still taken” and take it from me you don’t want to wonder “what if” for decades.

I agree. This is romantic yet sad at the same time.
I wish I had married "the other guy," and I think of him often.

OP of this part of the thread: What is the worst that can happen? He says "nice to hear from you, hope all is well, I am still married to my wife" or he doesn't answer. Who knows what the best case could be. If the answer isn't what you want, will you be more crushed? In 5 years, will not reaching out be another big regret?

Please do it and come back to report! Let us live vicariously through you! Do it for DCUM!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

He may be separated. Neither of us have social media, but he’s accepted a professorship distant from his home and I hear his wife hasn’t moved. She has a serious career, so they may be doing LD. I have been separated for years. I feel like he would find me if he were meaningfully single.

To the snickers lady: Ahahaha, you are my hero

I found this one of the hardest regrets to read. I think we need a spinoff thread where everyone convinces you to reach out.

What if he is not separated, though? Or only kind of testing the waters. That would be so awful. He is one that would never, ever cheat, nor would I. I look for him in airports 😬

DH here: NGL, “I look for him in airports” got me right in the feels. PP: I kind of know what this feels like, I’d say reach out, the worst can say is “still taken” and take it from me you don’t want to wonder “what if” for decades.

🫶

I might consider it if I get strong clues that it’s a perma-separation or a divorce, but I really think if he’s free he will find me.

Never assume! Maybe he is thinking the same thing.

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Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

He may be separated. Neither of us have social media, but he’s accepted a professorship distant from his home and I hear his wife hasn’t moved. She has a serious career, so they may be doing LD. I have been separated for years. I feel like he would find me if he were meaningfully single.

To the snickers lady: Ahahaha, you are my hero

I found this one of the hardest regrets to read. I think we need a spinoff thread where everyone convinces you to reach out.

What if he is not separated, though? Or only kind of testing the waters. That would be so awful. He is one that would never, ever cheat, nor would I. I look for him in airports 😬

DH here: NGL, “I look for him in airports” got me right in the feels. PP: I kind of know what this feels like, I’d say reach out, the worst can say is “still taken” and take it from me you don’t want to wonder “what if” for decades.

I agree. This is romantic yet sad at the same time.
I wish I had married "the other guy," and I think of him often.

OP of this part of the thread: What is the worst that can happen? He says "nice to hear from you, hope all is well, I am still married to my wife" or he doesn't answer. Who knows what the best case could be. If the answer isn't what you want, will you be more crushed? In 5 years, will not reaching out be another big regret?

Please do it and come back to report! Let us live vicariously through you! Do it for DCUM!

DP
The worst that can happen is they start an affair. How would you feel if this man happened to be your spouse?

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Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

He may be separated. Neither of us have social media, but he’s accepted a professorship distant from his home and I hear his wife hasn’t moved. She has a serious career, so they may be doing LD. I have been separated for years. I feel like he would find me if he were meaningfully single.

To the snickers lady: Ahahaha, you are my hero

I found this one of the hardest regrets to read. I think we need a spinoff thread where everyone convinces you to reach out.

What if he is not separated, though? Or only kind of testing the waters. That would be so awful. He is one that would never, ever cheat, nor would I. I look for him in airports 😬

DH here: NGL, “I look for him in airports” got me right in the feels. PP: I kind of know what this feels like, I’d say reach out, the worst can say is “still taken” and take it from me you don’t want to wonder “what if” for decades.

I agree. This is romantic yet sad at the same time.
I wish I had married "the other guy," and I think of him often.

OP of this part of the thread: What is the worst that can happen? He says "nice to hear from you, hope all is well, I am still married to my wife" or he doesn't answer. Who knows what the best case could be. If the answer isn't what you want, will you be more crushed? In 5 years, will not reaching out be another big regret?

Please do it and come back to report! Let us live vicariously through you! Do it for DCUM!

DP
The worst that can happen is they start an affair. How would you feel if this man happened to be your spouse?

OP already said neither of them would consider an affair as an option. But DCUM gonna DCUM

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Anonymous wrote:I did not marry the man I loved with all my heart and soul, because timing.

Decades on, I see timing was just an excuse for fear, and cost me the chance to live life with my soulmate.

Is he married now?

He may be separated. Neither of us have social media, but he’s accepted a professorship distant from his home and I hear his wife hasn’t moved. She has a serious career, so they may be doing LD. I have been separated for years. I feel like he would find me if he were meaningfully single.

To the snickers lady: Ahahaha, you are my hero

I found this one of the hardest regrets to read. I think we need a spinoff thread where everyone convinces you to reach out.

What if he is not separated, though? Or only kind of testing the waters. That would be so awful. He is one that would never, ever cheat, nor would I. I look for him in airports 😬

DH here: NGL, “I look for him in airports” got me right in the feels. PP: I kind of know what this feels like, I’d say reach out, the worst can say is “still taken” and take it from me you don’t want to wonder “what if” for decades.

🫶

I might consider it if I get strong clues that it’s a perma-separation or a divorce, but I really think if he’s free he will find me.

Never assume! Maybe he is thinking the same thing.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Definitely no regrets that messed up the course of my life, so I am very lucky. Certainly plenty of mistakes but I found a way to recover from them and move on. I grew up in a very loving family who placed great value on good educations and being good people and that set me on a good course.

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Same.