Same. I was valedictorian at a high school in the South, in the 80s, with 99%ile SAT score. Neither my parents nor the guidance counselor had a clue (University of Georgia was kind of the pinnacle where I was from) and I went to a school that sent me a brochure in the mail and offered me a scholarship (and got me far, far from Georgia, which I don't regret). My life turned out well, but living in a place where so many people make assumptions about you based on where you went to school can be hard. I try not to have a chip on my shoulder about it. |
Not getting out of my marriage sooner. I don’t regret the marriage because I have a DC from it, but he showed me who he was way before I accepted it and moved on. |
Congratulations on you for achieving A.S. degree. Most people who drop out of high school rarely even pursue higher education. Some don’t even get their GED either. Even a four yr degree doesn’t necessarily mean great options. Ask me how I know. |
I wish I had taken academics more seriously in HS and College. And I wish I drank less in college. |
Staying married to an alcoholic after he cheated on me.
I was terrified of him and also stayed to have children. Now I have children but a husband whom I have issues with. |
I listed law school and my regret was going to law school and becoming a lawyer. |
Said every damn lawyer in the DC-VA-MD area. |
Not playing football in middle school. I was fast, strong and tall. I played backyard football with my brothers, and I was great. I was not deluded to think I could play HS.
I asked my dad and he said no, I asked the coach (my friend's dad) he said yes. My dad said, "I'm not worried about you getting hurt or not being successful. What I'm worried about is the boys feeling bad that a girl is beating them and how their dads will react to their son being tackled by a girl" FF to 8th grade, I had the fastest time for the Presidental Fitness. A boy in my class said, he'd have a faster time, but he didn't run his fastest none of the boys did, because they didn't care. I challenged him to race me at recess. He did and I destroyed him. Almost every boy stopped talking to me for the rest of 8th grade. I know there are a ton of studies that show girls do this in academics for my generation, pretending not to be as smart so boys don't feel bad. FF to college... a guy challenged me to a basketball 1-1, I said yes and he was going to spot me 5 point play to 10, I didn't take the 5 points and I beat him. I was no longer invited to that house for parties. Here comes the rest of the regret. After that... I stopped trying to win... pool, darts, cards, boardgames. I would not beat guys because I didn't want to deal with their ire. This continued at work and life in general. I'm kind of bummed I just didn't say f it I don't own their feelings, I'm just doing my thing. |
DH here: NGL, “I look for him in airports” got me right in the feels. PP: I kind of know what this feels like, I’d say reach out, the worst can say is “still taken” and take it from me you don’t want to wonder “what if” for decades. |
Not marrying the hot guy with the huge package. |
Trump has entered the room |
Spending ten years in grad school (changed majors, took some undergrad classes, went for a PhD but dropped out after my masters). Resulted in a lot of lost earning potential, and a late start to my career (where I'm fairly happy and successful). Some parts of it I wouldn't change, but when I look back at it, there was a lot of wasted time spinning my wheels. |
Seems most posters regret:
-relationships: marriage person they married -education: college or lack of, law school -career: lawyer for example |
Not realizing my own childhood was less than ideal until I was middle aged. |
Going to college at an Ivy in the 80s/90s where so many people would have made assumptions about you based on where you grew up, would have been hard, too. |