Helicopter parents and their presence out of control?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Young people’s brains do not fully develop until age 26. After age 26, they are finally capable of making sound, adult, decisions.

Before that age, our children need our guidance; it’s as simple as that.

I’m not going to apologize for being a good parent.

Lol, at 26 I had already finished grad school, had a job and one kid. You can function independently with a prefrontal cortex still developing

Are you 80? I know no one who had a baby at that age unless it was an accident from generations subsequent to my grandparents.

DP: I had finished grad school at 24, married at 22. Chose to wait until 29 for a kid. But There are plenty of people who choose to have kids in their mid to late20s who are only in their 40/50s.

I’m in my 40’s and no way in hell was I or any of my peers/collegues looking to marry right out of college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel bad for some parents. It is really hard to be a parent. If you do your job correctly, you raise a kid that doesn’t need you.

I can see why some people struggle with their children not needing them. Especially when they based their whole identity on it. Those “mama bear” ladies don’t have much else going on. I mean how many “live, laugh, love” signs can you make with your cricut?

Wow, what a misogynistic piece of sh--- you are. Guess what? I'm a professional, FT working parent. You can't just lump all "mama bears" together, or women generally, and then think you're making a valid point. Or any point whatsoever.

But, given your kids apparently seem fit to be rid of you the minute they're in school, I can see why those who have close bonds with their kids irk you so much. (And ftr, mine isn't in college yet).

Hit a nerve huh?! My kids and I get along great because I have never been a helicopter parent. But sure go ahead and create whatever negative image you need, Mama Bear. 😂😂

Good for you. And other ways of parenting have children who get along with their parents as well. Sorry if that hits a nerve with you.

You didn’t hit a nerve with me. You just need to understand boundaries then get some.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Young people’s brains do not fully develop until age 26. After age 26, they are finally capable of making sound, adult, decisions.

Before that age, our children need our guidance; it’s as simple as that.

I’m not going to apologize for being a good parent.

Lol, at 26 I had already finished grad school, had a job and one kid. You can function independently with a prefrontal cortex still developing

Are you 80? I know no one who had a baby at that age unless it was an accident from generations subsequent to my grandparents.

DP: I had finished grad school at 24, married at 22. Chose to wait until 29 for a kid. But There are plenty of people who choose to have kids in their mid to late20s who are only in their 40/50s.

Wtf gets married at 22?

Mormons. If you aren’t married by then you are considered weird. Try getting out of your bubble.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel bad for some parents. It is really hard to be a parent. If you do your job correctly, you raise a kid that doesn’t need you.

I can see why some people struggle with their children not needing them. Especially when they based their whole identity on it. Those “mama bear” ladies don’t have much else going on. I mean how many “live, laugh, love” signs can you make with your cricut?

Wow, what a misogynistic piece of sh--- you are. Guess what? I'm a professional, FT working parent. You can't just lump all "mama bears" together, or women generally, and then think you're making a valid point. Or any point whatsoever.

But, given your kids apparently seem fit to be rid of you the minute they're in school, I can see why those who have close bonds with their kids irk you so much. (And ftr, mine isn't in college yet).

Hit a nerve huh?! My kids and I get along great because I have never been a helicopter parent. But sure go ahead and create whatever negative image you need, Mama Bear. 😂😂

Good for you. And other ways of parenting have children who get along with their parents as well. Sorry if that hits a nerve with you.

You didn’t hit a nerve with me. You just need to understand boundaries then get some.

The irony of you trying to tell someone to get boundaries when you tell parent's what to do with their own children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Young people’s brains do not fully develop until age 26. After age 26, they are finally capable of making sound, adult, decisions.

Before that age, our children need our guidance; it’s as simple as that.

I’m not going to apologize for being a good parent.

Lol, at 26 I had already finished grad school, had a job and one kid. You can function independently with a prefrontal cortex still developing

Are you 80? I know no one who had a baby at that age unless it was an accident from generations subsequent to my grandparents.

DP: I had finished grad school at 24, married at 22. Chose to wait until 29 for a kid. But There are plenty of people who choose to have kids in their mid to late20s who are only in their 40/50s.

Wtf gets married at 22?

Mormons. If you aren’t married by then you are considered weird. Try getting out of your bubble.

The bubble of not being married at too young of an age. Okay, you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel bad for some parents. It is really hard to be a parent. If you do your job correctly, you raise a kid that doesn’t need you.

I can see why some people struggle with their children not needing them. Especially when they based their whole identity on it. Those “mama bear” ladies don’t have much else going on. I mean how many “live, laugh, love” signs can you make with your cricut?

Wow, what a misogynistic piece of sh--- you are. Guess what? I'm a professional, FT working parent. You can't just lump all "mama bears" together, or women generally, and then think you're making a valid point. Or any point whatsoever.

But, given your kids apparently seem fit to be rid of you the minute they're in school, I can see why those who have close bonds with their kids irk you so much. (And ftr, mine isn't in college yet).

Hit a nerve huh?! My kids and I get along great because I have never been a helicopter parent. But sure go ahead and create whatever negative image you need, Mama Bear. 😂😂

Good for you. And other ways of parenting have children who get along with their parents as well. Sorry if that hits a nerve with you.

You didn’t hit a nerve with me. You just need to understand boundaries then get some.

The irony of you trying to tell someone to get boundaries when you tell parent's what to do with their own children.

+1. Thought the same thing!

[Anonymous]

That sounds like parents who want to party at football games OP, not like helicopter parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel bad for some parents. It is really hard to be a parent. If you do your job correctly, you raise a kid that doesn’t need you.

I can see why some people struggle with their children not needing them. Especially when they based their whole identity on it. Those “mama bear” ladies don’t have much else going on. I mean how many “live, laugh, love” signs can you make with your cricut?

Wow, what a misogynistic piece of sh--- you are. Guess what? I'm a professional, FT working parent. You can't just lump all "mama bears" together, or women generally, and then think you're making a valid point. Or any point whatsoever.

But, given your kids apparently seem fit to be rid of you the minute they're in school, I can see why those who have close bonds with their kids irk you so much. (And ftr, mine isn't in college yet).

Hit a nerve huh?! My kids and I get along great because I have never been a helicopter parent. But sure go ahead and create whatever negative image you need, Mama Bear. 😂😂

Good for you. And other ways of parenting have children who get along with their parents as well. Sorry if that hits a nerve with you.

You didn’t hit a nerve with me. You just need to understand boundaries then get some.

Reread your comment and then look up boundaries.

[Anonymous]

The kids have zero resilience. They are like blobs of weakness.

[Anonymous]

The truth is kids today have a lot of mental health issues because of the helicopter parenting.

All the swooping in to help them has undermined their confidence.

Helicopter moms wreck their kids' futures.

Short term gain for long term pain.

[Anonymous]

It’s going to go out of style and the kids are going to blame all their problems on the parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah... you know what?
I'm a little tired of people criticizing helicopter parents.

We all do what we think is best for our families. I don't think being close-knit and seeking family togetherness is inherently bad, quite the contrary. I speak as a member of an international family whose relatives are scattered all over the world.

If I thought doing something "non-traditional" for my family was helpful, or if it made me very happy and I could afford it... heck yes, I'd do it!

+1!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Young people’s brains do not fully develop until age 26. After age 26, they are finally capable of making sound, adult, decisions.

Before that age, our children need our guidance; it’s as simple as that.

I’m not going to apologize for being a good parent.

Lol, at 26 I had already finished grad school, had a job and one kid. You can function independently with a prefrontal cortex still developing

Are you 80? I know no one who had a baby at that age unless it was an accident from generations subsequent to my grandparents.

NP stupid comment. And apparently you don’t spend much time in the current world. Having kids when younger is on trend. Old moms are out

You’re wrong; the age of motherhood is still rising as of this year. Also, teen pregnancy rates are down. This information is easily verifiable.
Your comment is stupid and wrong.

Reading comp is not your strong suit apparently. I didn’t say that there aren’t any older parents but rather having children younger has become trendy among a class of people who you might have expected to wait like they did in older generations. See trad wife trend among UMC families etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Young people’s brains do not fully develop until age 26. After age 26, they are finally capable of making sound, adult, decisions.

Before that age, our children need our guidance; it’s as simple as that.

I’m not going to apologize for being a good parent.

Lol, at 26 I had already finished grad school, had a job and one kid. You can function independently with a prefrontal cortex still developing

Are you 80? I know no one who had a baby at that age unless it was an accident from generations subsequent to my grandparents.

DP: I had finished grad school at 24, married at 22. Chose to wait until 29 for a kid. But There are plenty of people who choose to have kids in their mid to late20s who are only in their 40/50s.

Wtf gets married at 22?

Mormons. If you aren’t married by then you are considered weird. Try getting out of your bubble.

My orthodox relatives get married around 19 or 20. 22 is old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The truth is kids today have a lot of mental health issues because of the helicopter parenting.

All the swooping in to help them has undermined their confidence.

Helicopter moms wreck their kids' futures.

Short term gain for long term pain.

Exactly