Helicopter parents and their presence out of control?

[Anonymous]

It's funny, my parents didn't care at all about my living experience, where I slept, if I had food to eat or enough money for necessities. I look back on it and it's hard to comprehend, because they were generally very good parents and are nurturing people and not remotely poor. I would be mortified if my kids lived the way I lived in college. So I believe there is a middle ground.

[Anonymous]

Was recently on a campus, and at the big intersections, there were signs reminding students to look both ways. It was pathetic but I guess necessary in the era.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's funny, my parents didn't care at all about my living experience, where I slept, if I had food to eat or enough money for necessities. I look back on it and it's hard to comprehend, because they were generally very good parents and are nurturing people and not remotely poor. I would be mortified if my kids lived the way I lived in college. So I believe there is a middle ground.

Yes college is like high school used to be. High school is like middle school. Middle school is elementary

The children aren’t ready for any independence until after grad school and 2 years living at home.

[Anonymous]

College kids are much less happy than they used to be.

It’s sad.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny, my parents didn't care at all about my living experience, where I slept, if I had food to eat or enough money for necessities. I look back on it and it's hard to comprehend, because they were generally very good parents and are nurturing people and not remotely poor. I would be mortified if my kids lived the way I lived in college. So I believe there is a middle ground.

Yes college is like high school used to be. High school is like middle school. Middle school is elementary

The children aren’t ready for any independence until after grad school and 2 years living at home.

They are starting life much later and the sad thing is I’m worried they are going to die much younger. The lack of exercise and sunlight along with so sich sterile germ/mold free surroundings while their bodies grew is potentially going to wind up deadly I fear .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Three cousins all went to bigger Southern schools. They were raised by Gen X parents. One set of parents quite literally bought an apartment where the daughter goes to school so they could attend all of the football home games. They say they give their daughter space and don't sit next to her at the games, but they quite literally fly in every single weekend there is home game at the school where the D goes. Same for the other 2 cousins. Parents bought a house in the city where the S goes to attend all of the games. They also go down to the city where their other D goes all the time, like probably 15+ weekends during a school year.

Is it just a common these days for parents to be so clingy? These kinds of helicopter parents were unheard of when I was in school. Who wants to go to college and have their parents even remotely close to them for the whole weekends for 85% of the academic year?

Unless you are BFF with the girls and they have complained to you about it or asked you to do something, MYOB.

I went to a big football school and there were ALWAYS parents around on game days. You probably went to a small liberal arts college.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny, my parents didn't care at all about my living experience, where I slept, if I had food to eat or enough money for necessities. I look back on it and it's hard to comprehend, because they were generally very good parents and are nurturing people and not remotely poor. I would be mortified if my kids lived the way I lived in college. So I believe there is a middle ground.

Yes college is like high school used to be. High school is like middle school. Middle school is elementary

The children aren’t ready for any independence until after grad school and 2 years living at home.

They are starting life much later and the sad thing is I’m worried they are going to die much younger. The lack of exercise and sunlight along with so sich sterile germ/mold free surroundings while their bodies grew is potentially going to wind up deadly I fear .

Are you drunk?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny, my parents didn't care at all about my living experience, where I slept, if I had food to eat or enough money for necessities. I look back on it and it's hard to comprehend, because they were generally very good parents and are nurturing people and not remotely poor. I would be mortified if my kids lived the way I lived in college. So I believe there is a middle ground.

Yes college is like high school used to be. High school is like middle school. Middle school is elementary

The children aren’t ready for any independence until after grad school and 2 years living at home.

They are starting life much later and the sad thing is I’m worried they are going to die much younger. The lack of exercise and sunlight along with so sich sterile germ/mold free surroundings while their bodies grew is potentially going to wind up deadly I fear .

Agree. The youth population looks sickly compared to before. I was a beach lifeguard and they used to have no issue at all filling jobs. I’m told by the captain that it’s difficult to find young people that can pass the physical tests. The military is saying the same. Standards are dropping in the physical fitness areas.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny, my parents didn't care at all about my living experience, where I slept, if I had food to eat or enough money for necessities. I look back on it and it's hard to comprehend, because they were generally very good parents and are nurturing people and not remotely poor. I would be mortified if my kids lived the way I lived in college. So I believe there is a middle ground.

Yes college is like high school used to be. High school is like middle school. Middle school is elementary

The children aren’t ready for any independence until after grad school and 2 years living at home.

They are starting life much later and the sad thing is I’m worried they are going to die much younger. The lack of exercise and sunlight along with so sich sterile germ/mold free surroundings while their bodies grew is potentially going to wind up deadly I fear .

Agree. The youth population looks sickly compared to before. I was a beach lifeguard and they used to have no issue at all filling jobs. I’m told by the captain that it’s difficult to find young people that can pass the physical tests. The military is saying the same. Standards are dropping in the physical fitness areas.

Okay

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny, my parents didn't care at all about my living experience, where I slept, if I had food to eat or enough money for necessities. I look back on it and it's hard to comprehend, because they were generally very good parents and are nurturing people and not remotely poor. I would be mortified if my kids lived the way I lived in college. So I believe there is a middle ground.

Yes college is like high school used to be. High school is like middle school. Middle school is elementary

The children aren’t ready for any independence until after grad school and 2 years living at home.

They are starting life much later and the sad thing is I’m worried they are going to die much younger. The lack of exercise and sunlight along with so sich sterile germ/mold free surroundings while their bodies grew is potentially going to wind up deadly I fear .

Agree. The youth population looks sickly compared to before. I was a beach lifeguard and they used to have no issue at all filling jobs. I’m told by the captain that it’s difficult to find young people that can pass the physical tests. The military is saying the same. Standards are dropping in the physical fitness areas.

Magnets for disease

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny, my parents didn't care at all about my living experience, where I slept, if I had food to eat or enough money for necessities. I look back on it and it's hard to comprehend, because they were generally very good parents and are nurturing people and not remotely poor. I would be mortified if my kids lived the way I lived in college. So I believe there is a middle ground.

Yes college is like high school used to be. High school is like middle school. Middle school is elementary

The children aren’t ready for any independence until after grad school and 2 years living at home.

They are starting life much later and the sad thing is I’m worried they are going to die much younger. The lack of exercise and sunlight along with so sich sterile germ/mold free surroundings while their bodies grew is potentially going to wind up deadly I fear .

Agree. The youth population looks sickly compared to before. I was a beach lifeguard and they used to have no issue at all filling jobs. I’m told by the captain that it’s difficult to find young people that can pass the physical tests. The military is saying the same. Standards are dropping in the physical fitness areas.

Why don’t your kids workout? My DS is super tan from summer and has a gym membership. He works out with a group of friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's funny, my parents didn't care at all about my living experience, where I slept, if I had food to eat or enough money for necessities. I look back on it and it's hard to comprehend, because they were generally very good parents and are nurturing people and not remotely poor. I would be mortified if my kids lived the way I lived in college. So I believe there is a middle ground.

Yes college is like high school used to be. High school is like middle school. Middle school is elementary

The children aren’t ready for any independence until after grad school and 2 years living at home.

They are starting life much later and the sad thing is I’m worried they are going to die much younger. The lack of exercise and sunlight along with so sich sterile germ/mold free surroundings while their bodies grew is potentially going to wind up deadly I fear .

Agree. The youth population looks sickly compared to before. I was a beach lifeguard and they used to have no issue at all filling jobs. I’m told by the captain that it’s difficult to find young people that can pass the physical tests. The military is saying the same. Standards are dropping in the physical fitness areas.

Why don’t your kids workout? My DS is super tan from summer and has a gym membership. He works out with a group of friends.

They do. Plus they hunt / fish and ate dirt playing outside. I believe in no 47 gender playdates.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I went to college in the 90s and we used to give one of my roommates a hard time because her mom called her every single day. We thought that was so weird. The rest of us rarely saw or spoke to our parents. But we all still have good relationships with them now as adults.

We did not have smart phones in the 90's. We were waiting in line in the common area to use our calling cards for our Sun. night calls. Not the same when you can just call, FT, text, etc.

Additionally, very few ppl on here are advocating parents calling every day. So stop with that.

Lastly, I do not look to my Boomer parents' parenting as some ideal to live up to.

There is no ideal, so don’t be surprised if your own kids eventually realize that your omnipresence in their young adult lives wasn’t necessarily best for them.

Oh, well thanks Captain Obvious. I didn't say there was an ideal. I said my parents' weren't it. And check your assumptions before you anonymously spout off. My kid isn't even in college yet. And you know nothing about how present I am or will be. So shove it.

[Anonymous]

This thread has taken a weird turn and is no fun anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread has taken a weird turn and is no fun anymore.

Was it ever fun?