Sophomore’s new suite mate is 37

[Anonymous]

No 37 year old wants to live with 18 year olds unless they are his children or he’s a predator. Nope. Not letting my kind live there.

Don’t be so “nice” that you aren’t protecting yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No 37 year old wants to live with 18 year olds unless they are his children or he’s a predator. Nope. Not letting my kind live there.

Don’t be so “nice” that you aren’t protecting yourself.

This is how I remember the Dateline or whatever murder trial show was like. Everyone bending over backwards to be so "nice" to the old creep student living with much younger age-appropriate undergrads. Well, turned out the old creep was violent and I want to say murdered one of the roommate's girlfriends? Or maybe it was another male roommate. I can't remember.

[Anonymous]

Anyone willing to summarize? My question is what is room setup? Is it kid was going to have a set roommate and so 4 known people were rooming together with 2 known people per room and the rooms open to main shared living room? Or rooms open to hallway? And what happened is one kid took time off so now the other 3 kids living elsewhere and this kid got an unknown 37 year old roommate. Is it 2 twin beds in 1 room or is this each has own room and those rooms open to shared living room or hallway? A lot of open housing has it so everyone gets single room and then rooms open to shared space or to hallway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes it’s weird but they are return to be inclusive or whatever and that’s what they got. A 37 year old guy.

Yes, he is 37, but identfies as 20 years younger. Sounds like you need to be more inclusive and less judging of other people's identity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be raising hell. Sorry. 37 is not 18. Creepy.

This. Absolutely not.

I would go public on the parent Facebook page for starters.

I would be at the college/ university housing office myself, in person, every day until this is resolved.

Of course, I think your friend's daughter was asking for trouble by signing up for "gender neutral" housing in the first place, but this is beyond even that low bar.

[Anonymous]

Old enough to be her dad in a lot of places.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes it’s weird but they are return to be inclusive or whatever and that’s what they got. A 37 year old guy.

Yes, he is 37, but identfies as 20 years younger. Sounds like you need to be more inclusive and less judging of other people's identity.

So perfect.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I wouldn’t want a 37 year old woman as my son or daughter’s suite mate either. They are at different stages of life. It’s inappropriate. The older person should have a single or be in grad housing. They are probably 15 years older than even the Residential Advisor.

I lived in grad housing in law school. I was older than some of the grad students who hadn’t taken time off between college and grad/law school. The difference in maturity was glaring. I was still in my late 20’s. Some of my law school classmates were late 30’s. We got along and studied together. The gap between them and the 21/22 year olds was huge.

Housing messed up and needs to fix it. It isn’t fair to all involved. Maybe this 37 year old is on serious financial aid and is afraid to make a stink because they don’t want to risk losing their aid. Who knows. Raise hell and let them know you’ll go public with the story if necessary.

[Anonymous]

This doesn't sound normal at all. This is allowed?

[Anonymous]

I would approach it as Being Over 21. Dude can buy alcohol. Even if campus is dry, he can. Even if it would be against housing policy, he has access. So, not age discrimination to segregate Over 21

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who was in the Navy through his early 30's and went back for an undergrad degree at a 4yr private university. He was married and not living on campus, but if he were not married and needed subsidized group campus housing to be able to afford going to college (which he 100% would have needed without his spouse helping to supporting him), he would have taken whatever they gave him. He would not have been happy about this type of setup, but would have been a mature adult and dealt with it with respect. It was already hard enough to be in classes with (and on group projects with) a bunch of 18-22yr olds. It's clearly more fun to live with all kids your age - everyone can reach out to housing with hopes for a change - but if not - treat each other with respect and don't make assumptions or have prejudices against someone who is not following the same (financially entitled/supported) path as you in college. Life is filled with learning moments....this is one of them.

If you're 37 and going to undergrad in 2024, you should pursue your degree at a university offering online coursework and/or have some sort of nest egg to live off-campus. It is very creepy and weird to ask for on-campus UNDERGRAD housing at 37 years old. This is not mentally stable behavior, it's just not.

There might be exceptions but I think pp is generally correct.

[Anonymous]

Update OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, on my freshman hall there was one nontraditional age student who was living in a double. She was 25, we were all 18. And her roommate was livid that she wasn't getting an 18 year old to room with. And this was same sex and 25, not opposite sex and 37.

There were no freshman dorms where I went so the ages were 18 - 23 yrs old. Our floor was all female dorm. I had a triple room with one girl but after the first week a 28 year old female moved in with us. She moved to another room after a week because we were too loud for her. Students switched rooms unofficially during the first two weeks