Sophomore’s new suite mate is 37

[Anonymous]

What is the suite setup? I had a 5 person suite that was three individual dorm rooms attached to a common bath area. Two doubles and one single. One year I was the single and barely even talked to the others.

[Anonymous]

No, call the school and make a stink.

[Anonymous]

It's a little weird that there isn't an age limit on undergraduate housing.

[Anonymous]

That is not OK. My DD is in an off-campus apartment and they were clear that they may place a random "townie" with her to fill a bedroom as they lease per bed and bath; on campus - no way.

[Anonymous]

Please have your friend tell her daughter about this (gifted article link, hopefully):

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/12/07/nyregion/sarah-lawrence-sex-cult.html?unlocked_article_code=1.GU4.Y0Dh.VTiW7zIrnkuI&smid=url-share

Bottom line: middle aged man, father of a student, moves into shared housing, and is so persuasive, he manages to wrap the roommates of his daughter round his little finger and gets them to do really unfortunate things. Pain and suffering ensue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a 18 year old male suitemate is better than a 37 year old suitemate.

The only reason I can think of would be that you are OK with her having sex with the 18 year old but not the 37 year old.

they probably thought they would get an 18 year old gay boy, trans woman or trans man. Very different from a 37 year old straight man. It’s quite creepy if he signed up for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be raising hell. Sorry. 37 is not 18. Creepy.

Agree. Why would a 37 year old want to live on campus?

[Anonymous]

It's ultimately a useful experience. It's nice to be inclusive in theory - trans, non-binary, all good. I guess age is the issue here. It's obviously not gender. So next time, make sure that's stipulated. Age is their red line. In the meantime, welcome to inclusivity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please have your friend tell her daughter about this (gifted article link, hopefully):

https://www.nytimes.com/2023/12/07/nyregion/sarah-lawrence-sex-cult.html?unlocked_article_code=1.GU4.Y0Dh.VTiW7zIrnkuI&smid=url-share

Bottom line: middle aged man, father of a student, moves into shared housing, and is so persuasive, he manages to wrap the roommates of his daughter round his little finger and gets them to do really unfortunate things. Pain and suffering ensue.

Op here-trust me, I told her about Sarah Lawrence cult dad (she had seen the doc already.)

[Anonymous]

I guess he can buy them beer…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why a 18 year old male suitemate is better than a 37 year old suitemate.

The only reason I can think of would be that you are OK with her having sex with the 18 year old but not the 37 year old.

they probably thought they would get an 18 year old gay boy, trans woman or trans man. Very different from a 37 year old straight man. It’s quite creepy if he signed up for it.

Well they don’t know if he’s straight. He could have his 37 year old boyfriends over too.

I would be flipping out, but also wouldn’t want an 18 yo boy in the room. A parent on our college board said that a suite mate of their daughter has been having loud sex in their suite bathroom at night, each night during freshman orientation. That would also make me flip out. Roommate issues are the worst.

[Anonymous]

I can’t understand why a 37 year old would have selected all gender housing.

[Anonymous]

which college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can’t understand why a 37 year old would have selected all gender housing.

A 37 year old should not be in dorm-style housing with traditional students, period.

[Anonymous]

He could be their dad.