How much would you accommodate sibling?

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Anonymous wrote:One of my siblings had a pretty bad eating disorder among other issues like anxiety. She is 26 and still lives at home, but my parents walk on eggshells with her and have never forced her to get help.

My parents, siblings and their families are all coming to visit next month so there will be 14 people that we are responsible to feeding and entertaining for a few days. This is totally fine, but my sister with the ED has. Very restrictive diet and my parents have asked me to try to accommodate her for all meals so she has something to eat.

Given the number of people, we wanted to keep things easy and were planning to order pizza and salad for one meal, grill burgers and hot dogs, etc. My sister doesn’t eat any of those things - no bread, no red meat, no dairy. She really only eats things she cooks herself so there is no oil or anything she won’t eat. I am really not sure how I would accommodate this unless I let her cook her own meals, but not thrilled about that either since she always makes a humongous mess that she never cleans up.

How accommodating would you be here? Don’t want to encourage her not to eat the entire weekend, but always don’t want to make things even more complicated and messy.


What does she eat? So far her diet is similar to mine (no white flour, no red meat, and no dairy - among other things), but I do eat fats like olive oil, avocado, fish. Mine is based on medical issues. On pizza night, I would need a protein to go with the salad.
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So you are an adult and can pack a protein shake or peanuts or a can of tuna in your bag or bring some protein with you. It is rude to expect a host to cater to your needs when they are trying to feed a bunch of people.


You bring up an interesting thing here. The sister never asked for anything. It was the parents who asked OP to accommodate.

Isn't the obvious answer here for OP to simply call her sister and talk about it?


It sounds like they asked her because they knew it wouldn’t occur to her to help her sister. Also, maybe they are on eggshells because they don’t want her to kill herself.

This thread is seriously sad.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:How’d you end up so normal with a freak like that for a sister?


I guess being a dramatic jerk is normal on DCUM.
Anonymous
When will we have an update from the OP?
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