I’m not moving the goal posts. I tell my daughter to deal with it if the kids all want to play tag together. It’s not okay to tell everyone that they have to choose between my daughter and this other little girl. |
I don’t know. My husband cares about his children and wouldn’t stand by and watch his daughter being assaulted, so I can’t really relate. |
We are talking about: - Excluding other girls - Making fun of other girls or boys (verbally or in notes/pictures that are passed around the classroom) - Telling kids not to play with or be friends with certain girls or boys. Many people are saying that it’s okay, developmentally appropriate, and that it isn’t really “mean.” |
And their moms are doing this to you also, as per the OP? Means girls and their mean mom? |
I bet you’d be the first one calling the cops if my husband had to pry your kid off of mine. |
I used to think mean girls and mean boys learned that behavior from parents and older siblings, until I had a mean kid of my own. I honestly don't know where it comes from. Our older child is the opposite of a mean kid, more apt to be targeted by mean kids if anything. But the younger one is so different from the rest of us -- loves creating drama, picks on people, constantly tries to be the center of attention, and somehow wields social power. Sometimes there is no explanation for it.
Not all of us parents of mean kids are secretly encouraging it. Some of us really try to model better behavior and tamp down the socially manipulative behavior. |
Again, my husband is pretty comfortable disciplining little girls without resorting to physical violence. I really can’t relate to what it’s like to live with a guy who might have the cops called on him during a field trip. That sounds rough. I’m glad he didn’t get involved. |
What do you think, pp? What’s your experience with girls who engage in this behavior? Are their moms volunteering at soup kitchens and trying to reach out to recent immigrants to teach them about PowerSchool? |
Some of us disagree vehemently that the things listed are "normal" or "age-appropriate" behaviors. I know plenty of girls who did not behave that way, esp. not in middle or high school, because we had parents that taught us that kind of behavior was not acceptable. Kids in middle and high school KNOW when they are being mean. Condoning being mean as part of growing up is flat out BS. |
DP. You are a troll or a mean girl. You should be ignored. That's the advice, right? Ignore the mean girls. |
And you and some of the other PPs can quit your gaslighting. |
Kids with learning disabilities can be part of that so called popular group and they can be mean. There’s no one scenario. |
Does it also include people who are incredibly dramatic and have a victim complex? “Burn us at the stake,” come onnnn |
It includes who we want and excludes who we want. The power of friendship |
Well that’s confusing since the whole thread is about how apparently excluding anyone, ever makes you a “mean girl” |