What’s it like being married to a medical doctor (MD)?

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Anonymous wrote:My good friend is married to a surgeon. He's the most self-centered man I've ever met.

Yep. Neurotic, insufferable and awkward. They disregard properly cultivating their personalities because they were so focused on becoming doctors for 15 years. Many of them are mollycoddled momma’s boy who had a snow plow tiger mom doing everything for them until they were married. They in turn expect their wife to take over all of those duties. Grown *ss men who act like adult babies.

If a guy routinely works 60-70 hour weeks, his wife ought to take care of everything else, nitwit. That wife knew what the deal was when she married him.

I don't understand this. Both my wife and I work 60-80hrs/week each. When not working, we split childcare and house work.

If you are both working those hours, it’s doubtful there is much childcare left to split.

Children are not trophies.

We consider these hours mild and spend lots of time with our kids every day. Again, I don’t understand what you are talking about.

When exactly does this 60-80 hour week happen? Are you those annoying people who claim you are working from home when you’re actually doing childcare -those people who ruin it for everyone else? Or do you work during the school day and then all night?

We both work a normal work day and after kids go to sleep go back to work (evening WFH).

I see, you are a typical hot shot who barely clears 40 hours but claims to be working 80? Like Elon Musk who “sleeps at the office” but spends most of his time posting on Twitter? At least he does not say he spends tons of quality time with his kids

80 hour weeks is 13 working hours per day, 7 days a week.

We both used to work over 80 hrs per week. Now working 60-80 is pretty mild. I don’t understand you at all. Your math is also way off which is concerning.

I don’t really see how you do this either. We used to both work 80 hours a week during residency:

2 overnight calls: 30 hours (6am-noon)
1 long call: 12 hours (6am-6pm)
1 short call: 8 hours (6am-2pm)
1 day off

We had normal daycare hours and arranged our schedules so that we were never both on call at the same time. It was a lot. We had almost no social life and were always exhausted.

Not sure why this has so much interest.

M-F 8am - 5pm = 45hrs
M-F 8pm - 12am = 20hrs
Weekend work = variable 0-15hrs

Total = 65-80hrs

When are you eating, taking a shower, getting in a workout, going to the pediatrician and the dentist and mechanic, and paying your bills, and checking homework and school recitals and afterschool activities and researching summer camps etc etc etc and spending a ton of quality time with your kids. I worked in Finance and the guys working 80 hour weeks were bachelors or married with SAHM + tons of help, and barely saw their kids for dinner. Even with that many were doing Cocaine or Modafinil to keep up. I am sure you and your partner are special and not delusional.

Wake up 6am. Kids don’t wake up until 7am so we have time then. Weekends are largely free. Rare appointments get scheduled.

Not sure why this is interesting.

It’s not that interesting. It’s just that you say this isn’t a big deal, and then you give this schedule where you only sleep like 5 hours a night, and you do nothing but work and take care of your kids.

Sleep 6hrs/night, weekends mostly free, minimum 3-4hrs/day with kids. This is for two adults and flexible.

I think your schedule is fiction, but if not your life sounds absolutely miserable.

DP in a two-doctor couple and this is quite typical in the young kid years.

What are you doing as a doctor where you work 60+ hours a week, are off from 5-8pm every day, and have most weekends free?

Apparently, posting on DCUM and perfecting the art of lying.

Now I'm curious. What about this bothers you so much?

There is obviously something wrong with the pp, not the doctors. Anyone can know different specialties have different demands. We know surgeons who operate only 1 day per week. Some work only 4 days total. Dermatologists have better hours than most professionals. ER and anesthesiologists do shift work.

My husband operates 3 days per week and out of 5 days per work week, he is home for dinner 4x. Usually he has one late day and even on that day, he can pick up kids from sports on his drive home.

Does he also work 65-80 hours a week as pp claims?
I’m not saying that doctors can’t be home or work fewer hours. I’m a doctor and work part time.

I’m saying that the hours pp posted (8am-5pm, then 8pm-midnight five days a week with weekends off) are not typical doctor hours.

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Anonymous wrote:Pediatricians tend to be kind. They also don’t get courted by pharma reps.

lol. You’re very naive.

They also tend to be majority female.

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Anonymous wrote:My good friend is married to a surgeon. He's the most self-centered man I've ever met.

Yep. Neurotic, insufferable and awkward. They disregard properly cultivating their personalities because they were so focused on becoming doctors for 15 years. Many of them are mollycoddled momma’s boy who had a snow plow tiger mom doing everything for them until they were married. They in turn expect their wife to take over all of those duties. Grown *ss men who act like adult babies.

If a guy routinely works 60-70 hour weeks, his wife ought to take care of everything else, nitwit. That wife knew what the deal was when she married him.

I don't understand this. Both my wife and I work 60-80hrs/week each. When not working, we split childcare and house work.

If you are both working those hours, it’s doubtful there is much childcare left to split.

Children are not trophies.

We consider these hours mild and spend lots of time with our kids every day. Again, I don’t understand what you are talking about.

When exactly does this 60-80 hour week happen? Are you those annoying people who claim you are working from home when you’re actually doing childcare -those people who ruin it for everyone else? Or do you work during the school day and then all night?

We both work a normal work day and after kids go to sleep go back to work (evening WFH).

I see, you are a typical hot shot who barely clears 40 hours but claims to be working 80? Like Elon Musk who “sleeps at the office” but spends most of his time posting on Twitter? At least he does not say he spends tons of quality time with his kids

80 hour weeks is 13 working hours per day, 7 days a week.

We both used to work over 80 hrs per week. Now working 60-80 is pretty mild. I don’t understand you at all. Your math is also way off which is concerning.

I don’t really see how you do this either. We used to both work 80 hours a week during residency:

2 overnight calls: 30 hours (6am-noon)
1 long call: 12 hours (6am-6pm)
1 short call: 8 hours (6am-2pm)
1 day off

We had normal daycare hours and arranged our schedules so that we were never both on call at the same time. It was a lot. We had almost no social life and were always exhausted.

Not sure why this has so much interest.

M-F 8am - 5pm = 45hrs
M-F 8pm - 12am = 20hrs
Weekend work = variable 0-15hrs

Total = 65-80hrs

When are you eating, taking a shower, getting in a workout, going to the pediatrician and the dentist and mechanic, and paying your bills, and checking homework and school recitals and afterschool activities and researching summer camps etc etc etc and spending a ton of quality time with your kids. I worked in Finance and the guys working 80 hour weeks were bachelors or married with SAHM + tons of help, and barely saw their kids for dinner. Even with that many were doing Cocaine or Modafinil to keep up. I am sure you and your partner are special and not delusional.

Wake up 6am. Kids don’t wake up until 7am so we have time then. Weekends are largely free. Rare appointments get scheduled.

Not sure why this is interesting.

It’s not that interesting. It’s just that you say this isn’t a big deal, and then you give this schedule where you only sleep like 5 hours a night, and you do nothing but work and take care of your kids.

Sleep 6hrs/night, weekends mostly free, minimum 3-4hrs/day with kids. This is for two adults and flexible.

I think your schedule is fiction, but if not your life sounds absolutely miserable.

DP in a two-doctor couple and this is quite typical in the young kid years.

What are you doing as a doctor where you work 60+ hours a week, are off from 5-8pm every day, and have most weekends free?

Apparently, posting on DCUM and perfecting the art of lying.

Now I'm curious. What about this bothers you so much?

It’s not that bothersome. Just odd. Why are you lying about your profession?

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Anonymous wrote:My good friend is married to a surgeon. He's the most self-centered man I've ever met.

Yep. Neurotic, insufferable and awkward. They disregard properly cultivating their personalities because they were so focused on becoming doctors for 15 years. Many of them are mollycoddled momma’s boy who had a snow plow tiger mom doing everything for them until they were married. They in turn expect their wife to take over all of those duties. Grown *ss men who act like adult babies.

If a guy routinely works 60-70 hour weeks, his wife ought to take care of everything else, nitwit. That wife knew what the deal was when she married him.

I don't understand this. Both my wife and I work 60-80hrs/week each. When not working, we split childcare and house work.

If you are both working those hours, it’s doubtful there is much childcare left to split.

Children are not trophies.

We consider these hours mild and spend lots of time with our kids every day. Again, I don’t understand what you are talking about.

When exactly does this 60-80 hour week happen? Are you those annoying people who claim you are working from home when you’re actually doing childcare -those people who ruin it for everyone else? Or do you work during the school day and then all night?

We both work a normal work day and after kids go to sleep go back to work (evening WFH).

I see, you are a typical hot shot who barely clears 40 hours but claims to be working 80? Like Elon Musk who “sleeps at the office” but spends most of his time posting on Twitter? At least he does not say he spends tons of quality time with his kids

80 hour weeks is 13 working hours per day, 7 days a week.

We both used to work over 80 hrs per week. Now working 60-80 is pretty mild. I don’t understand you at all. Your math is also way off which is concerning.

I don’t really see how you do this either. We used to both work 80 hours a week during residency:

2 overnight calls: 30 hours (6am-noon)
1 long call: 12 hours (6am-6pm)
1 short call: 8 hours (6am-2pm)
1 day off

We had normal daycare hours and arranged our schedules so that we were never both on call at the same time. It was a lot. We had almost no social life and were always exhausted.

Not sure why this has so much interest.

M-F 8am - 5pm = 45hrs
M-F 8pm - 12am = 20hrs
Weekend work = variable 0-15hrs

Total = 65-80hrs

When are you eating, taking a shower, getting in a workout, going to the pediatrician and the dentist and mechanic, and paying your bills, and checking homework and school recitals and afterschool activities and researching summer camps etc etc etc and spending a ton of quality time with your kids. I worked in Finance and the guys working 80 hour weeks were bachelors or married with SAHM + tons of help, and barely saw their kids for dinner. Even with that many were doing Cocaine or Modafinil to keep up. I am sure you and your partner are special and not delusional.

Wake up 6am. Kids don’t wake up until 7am so we have time then. Weekends are largely free. Rare appointments get scheduled.

Not sure why this is interesting.

It’s not that interesting. It’s just that you say this isn’t a big deal, and then you give this schedule where you only sleep like 5 hours a night, and you do nothing but work and take care of your kids.

Sleep 6hrs/night, weekends mostly free, minimum 3-4hrs/day with kids. This is for two adults and flexible.

I think your schedule is fiction, but if not your life sounds absolutely miserable.

DP in a two-doctor couple and this is quite typical in the young kid years.

What are you doing as a doctor where you work 60+ hours a week, are off from 5-8pm every day, and have most weekends free?

Apparently, posting on DCUM and perfecting the art of lying.

Now I'm curious. What about this bothers you so much?

There is obviously something wrong with the pp, not the doctors. Anyone can know different specialties have different demands. We know surgeons who operate only 1 day per week. Some work only 4 days total. Dermatologists have better hours than most professionals. ER and anesthesiologists do shift work.

My husband operates 3 days per week and out of 5 days per work week, he is home for dinner 4x. Usually he has one late day and even on that day, he can pick up kids from sports on his drive home.

Does he also work 65-80 hours a week as pp claims?
I’m not saying that doctors can’t be home or work fewer hours. I’m a doctor and work part time.

I’m saying that the hours pp posted (8am-5pm, then 8pm-midnight five days a week with weekends off) are not typical doctor hours.

DH works 50-60 hours per week. The one good thing he got out of Covid is that one of his clinics is now virtual so he can work from home on that day. He can order tests, book surgeries and see follow up patients virtually.

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BIL is also a doctor and he actually does work 65-80 hours per week. He spends more time on each patient, takes longer to do similar procedures and takes MUCH longer doing paperwork and coding/billing.

DH has about twice the volume and earns twice as much as his either but works less hours than his brother. They are both well respected physicians in their fields.

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Anonymous wrote:My good friend is married to a surgeon. He's the most self-centered man I've ever met.

Yep. Neurotic, insufferable and awkward. They disregard properly cultivating their personalities because they were so focused on becoming doctors for 15 years. Many of them are mollycoddled momma’s boy who had a snow plow tiger mom doing everything for them until they were married. They in turn expect their wife to take over all of those duties. Grown *ss men who act like adult babies.

If a guy routinely works 60-70 hour weeks, his wife ought to take care of everything else, nitwit. That wife knew what the deal was when she married him.

I don't understand this. Both my wife and I work 60-80hrs/week each. When not working, we split childcare and house work.

If you are both working those hours, it’s doubtful there is much childcare left to split.

Children are not trophies.

We consider these hours mild and spend lots of time with our kids every day. Again, I don’t understand what you are talking about.

When exactly does this 60-80 hour week happen? Are you those annoying people who claim you are working from home when you’re actually doing childcare -those people who ruin it for everyone else? Or do you work during the school day and then all night?

We both work a normal work day and after kids go to sleep go back to work (evening WFH).

I see, you are a typical hot shot who barely clears 40 hours but claims to be working 80? Like Elon Musk who “sleeps at the office” but spends most of his time posting on Twitter? At least he does not say he spends tons of quality time with his kids

80 hour weeks is 13 working hours per day, 7 days a week.

We both used to work over 80 hrs per week. Now working 60-80 is pretty mild. I don’t understand you at all. Your math is also way off which is concerning.

I don’t really see how you do this either. We used to both work 80 hours a week during residency:

2 overnight calls: 30 hours (6am-noon)
1 long call: 12 hours (6am-6pm)
1 short call: 8 hours (6am-2pm)
1 day off

We had normal daycare hours and arranged our schedules so that we were never both on call at the same time. It was a lot. We had almost no social life and were always exhausted.

Not sure why this has so much interest.

M-F 8am - 5pm = 45hrs
M-F 8pm - 12am = 20hrs
Weekend work = variable 0-15hrs

Total = 65-80hrs

When are you eating, taking a shower, getting in a workout, going to the pediatrician and the dentist and mechanic, and paying your bills, and checking homework and school recitals and afterschool activities and researching summer camps etc etc etc and spending a ton of quality time with your kids. I worked in Finance and the guys working 80 hour weeks were bachelors or married with SAHM + tons of help, and barely saw their kids for dinner. Even with that many were doing Cocaine or Modafinil to keep up. I am sure you and your partner are special and not delusional.

Wake up 6am. Kids don’t wake up until 7am so we have time then. Weekends are largely free. Rare appointments get scheduled.

Not sure why this is interesting.

It’s not that interesting. It’s just that you say this isn’t a big deal, and then you give this schedule where you only sleep like 5 hours a night, and you do nothing but work and take care of your kids.

Sleep 6hrs/night, weekends mostly free, minimum 3-4hrs/day with kids. This is for two adults and flexible.

I think your schedule is fiction, but if not your life sounds absolutely miserable.

DP in a two-doctor couple and this is quite typical in the young kid years.

What are you doing as a doctor where you work 60+ hours a week, are off from 5-8pm every day, and have most weekends free?

Apparently, posting on DCUM and perfecting the art of lying.

Now I'm curious. What about this bothers you so much?

It’s not that bothersome. Just odd. Why are you lying about your profession?

Not lying.

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Anonymous wrote:Obviously on paper an MD is a serious catch. Educated, fairly high to very high income (surgeons), community status and professional network. Any noteworthy looming issues or are MD wives generally a very satisfied cohort?

Men reveal their true colors when they suddenly become the breadwinner and have power and status at work. It often goes to their head. Like a middle class dunce from your high school who was bullied in his teens and then became a power drunk police officer.

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Anonymous wrote:My good friend is married to a surgeon. He's the most self-centered man I've ever met.

Yep. Neurotic, insufferable and awkward. They disregard properly cultivating their personalities because they were so focused on becoming doctors for 15 years. Many of them are mollycoddled momma’s boy who had a snow plow tiger mom doing everything for them until they were married. They in turn expect their wife to take over all of those duties. Grown *ss men who act like adult babies.

If a guy routinely works 60-70 hour weeks, his wife ought to take care of everything else, nitwit. That wife knew what the deal was when she married him.

I don't understand this. Both my wife and I work 60-80hrs/week each. When not working, we split childcare and house work.

If you are both working those hours, it’s doubtful there is much childcare left to split.

Children are not trophies.

We consider these hours mild and spend lots of time with our kids every day. Again, I don’t understand what you are talking about.

When exactly does this 60-80 hour week happen? Are you those annoying people who claim you are working from home when you’re actually doing childcare -those people who ruin it for everyone else? Or do you work during the school day and then all night?

We both work a normal work day and after kids go to sleep go back to work (evening WFH).

I see, you are a typical hot shot who barely clears 40 hours but claims to be working 80? Like Elon Musk who “sleeps at the office” but spends most of his time posting on Twitter? At least he does not say he spends tons of quality time with his kids

80 hour weeks is 13 working hours per day, 7 days a week.

We both used to work over 80 hrs per week. Now working 60-80 is pretty mild. I don’t understand you at all. Your math is also way off which is concerning.

I don’t really see how you do this either. We used to both work 80 hours a week during residency:

2 overnight calls: 30 hours (6am-noon)
1 long call: 12 hours (6am-6pm)
1 short call: 8 hours (6am-2pm)
1 day off

We had normal daycare hours and arranged our schedules so that we were never both on call at the same time. It was a lot. We had almost no social life and were always exhausted.

Not sure why this has so much interest.

M-F 8am - 5pm = 45hrs
M-F 8pm - 12am = 20hrs
Weekend work = variable 0-15hrs

Total = 65-80hrs

When are you eating, taking a shower, getting in a workout, going to the pediatrician and the dentist and mechanic, and paying your bills, and checking homework and school recitals and afterschool activities and researching summer camps etc etc etc and spending a ton of quality time with your kids. I worked in Finance and the guys working 80 hour weeks were bachelors or married with SAHM + tons of help, and barely saw their kids for dinner. Even with that many were doing Cocaine or Modafinil to keep up. I am sure you and your partner are special and not delusional.

Wake up 6am. Kids don’t wake up until 7am so we have time then. Weekends are largely free. Rare appointments get scheduled.

Not sure why this is interesting.

It’s not that interesting. It’s just that you say this isn’t a big deal, and then you give this schedule where you only sleep like 5 hours a night, and you do nothing but work and take care of your kids.

Sleep 6hrs/night, weekends mostly free, minimum 3-4hrs/day with kids. This is for two adults and flexible.

I think your schedule is fiction, but if not your life sounds absolutely miserable.

DP in a two-doctor couple and this is quite typical in the young kid years.

What are you doing as a doctor where you work 60+ hours a week, are off from 5-8pm every day, and have most weekends free?

Apparently, posting on DCUM and perfecting the art of lying.

Now I'm curious. What about this bothers you so much?

There is obviously something wrong with the pp, not the doctors. Anyone can know different specialties have different demands. We know surgeons who operate only 1 day per week. Some work only 4 days total. Dermatologists have better hours than most professionals. ER and anesthesiologists do shift work.

My husband operates 3 days per week and out of 5 days per work week, he is home for dinner 4x. Usually he has one late day and even on that day, he can pick up kids from sports on his drive home.

Does he also work 65-80 hours a week as pp claims?
I’m not saying that doctors can’t be home or work fewer hours. I’m a doctor and work part time.

I’m saying that the hours pp posted (8am-5pm, then 8pm-midnight five days a week with weekends off) are not typical doctor hours.

DH works 50-60 hours per week. The one good thing he got out of Covid is that one of his clinics is now virtual so he can work from home on that day. He can order tests, book surgeries and see follow up patients virtually.

I agree those are pretty typical doctor hours.

It’s rare that doctors working full time are working 40 hours/wk, but it’s rare that they are working 80.
50-60 sounds typical.

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When I was growing up in the 80s and 90s, having a doctor father was certainly a nice thing to have. I noticed the doctors tended to have the quintessential upper middle class lifestyle that people imagined of the 50s, with wives who didn't work and a nice house and private schools for the children and nice trips. All very nice and traditional. And because the wives didn't work or were known as not needing to have to work, the cliche of the spoiled doctor's wife did emerge, somewhat unfairly. I do remember petty people making implications about my mother that I greatly resented.

Today it seems like most doctors are married to other doctors. The doctor's wife cliche is no more, thankfully.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was growing up in the 80s and 90s, having a doctor father was certainly a nice thing to have. I noticed the doctors tended to have the quintessential upper middle class lifestyle that people imagined of the 50s, with wives who didn't work and a nice house and private schools for the children and nice trips. All very nice and traditional. And because the wives didn't work or were known as not needing to have to work, the cliche of the spoiled doctor's wife did emerge, somewhat unfairly. I do remember petty people making implications about my mother that I greatly resented.

Today it seems like most doctors are married to other doctors. The doctor's wife cliche is no more, thankfully.

I'm the PP who posted about how we moved to the south, and the cliche is very much alive here. I moved from DC where everyone we knew had peer partnerships in their marriages (at least education and income potential, if not actual income). Down here, the male doctors all have sahms, and their redeeming features are being blond and "really nice". I was just marveling with a friend (also from DC) that the "queen bee" mom at our school, who runs all the charity events and just seems to run everything and people cower in fear of.... was an unemployed event planner with a 2 year associates degree before she met her DH. It's bizarre to live in a place where people put so much emphasis on, well, being a doctor's wife.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was growing up in the 80s and 90s, having a doctor father was certainly a nice thing to have. I noticed the doctors tended to have the quintessential upper middle class lifestyle that people imagined of the 50s, with wives who didn't work and a nice house and private schools for the children and nice trips. All very nice and traditional. And because the wives didn't work or were known as not needing to have to work, the cliche of the spoiled doctor's wife did emerge, somewhat unfairly. I do remember petty people making implications about my mother that I greatly resented.

Today it seems like most doctors are married to other doctors. The doctor's wife cliche is no more, thankfully.

I'm the PP who posted about how we moved to the south, and the cliche is very much alive here. I moved from DC where everyone we knew had peer partnerships in their marriages (at least education and income potential, if not actual income). Down here, the male doctors all have sahms, and their redeeming features are being blond and "really nice". I was just marveling with a friend (also from DC) that the "queen bee" mom at our school, who runs all the charity events and just seems to run everything and people cower in fear of.... was an unemployed event planner with a 2 year associates degree before she met her DH. It's bizarre to live in a place where people put so much emphasis on, well, being a doctor's wife.

Sounds like you went through a time machine.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was growing up in the 80s and 90s, having a doctor father was certainly a nice thing to have. I noticed the doctors tended to have the quintessential upper middle class lifestyle that people imagined of the 50s, with wives who didn't work and a nice house and private schools for the children and nice trips. All very nice and traditional. And because the wives didn't work or were known as not needing to have to work, the cliche of the spoiled doctor's wife did emerge, somewhat unfairly. I do remember petty people making implications about my mother that I greatly resented.

Today it seems like most doctors are married to other doctors. The doctor's wife cliche is no more, thankfully.

I'm the PP who posted about how we moved to the south, and the cliche is very much alive here. I moved from DC where everyone we knew had peer partnerships in their marriages (at least education and income potential, if not actual income). Down here, the male doctors all have sahms, and their redeeming features are being blond and "really nice". I was just marveling with a friend (also from DC) that the "queen bee" mom at our school, who runs all the charity events and just seems to run everything and people cower in fear of.... was an unemployed event planner with a 2 year associates degree before she met her DH. It's bizarre to live in a place where people put so much emphasis on, well, being a doctor's wife.

You sound rattled by the popular queen bee or jealous of her looks and/or personality. Not every male doctor wants to be married to an overeducated and stressed out careerist.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was growing up in the 80s and 90s, having a doctor father was certainly a nice thing to have. I noticed the doctors tended to have the quintessential upper middle class lifestyle that people imagined of the 50s, with wives who didn't work and a nice house and private schools for the children and nice trips. All very nice and traditional. And because the wives didn't work or were known as not needing to have to work, the cliche of the spoiled doctor's wife did emerge, somewhat unfairly. I do remember petty people making implications about my mother that I greatly resented.

Today it seems like most doctors are married to other doctors. The doctor's wife cliche is no more, thankfully.

I'm the PP who posted about how we moved to the south, and the cliche is very much alive here. I moved from DC where everyone we knew had peer partnerships in their marriages (at least education and income potential, if not actual income). Down here, the male doctors all have sahms, and their redeeming features are being blond and "really nice". I was just marveling with a friend (also from DC) that the "queen bee" mom at our school, who runs all the charity events and just seems to run everything and people cower in fear of.... was an unemployed event planner with a 2 year associates degree before she met her DH. It's bizarre to live in a place where people put so much emphasis on, well, being a doctor's wife.

You sound rattled by the popular queen bee or jealous of her looks and/or personality. Not every male doctor wants to be married to an overeducated and stressed out careerist.

Yeah, and being "really nice" is absolutely a great feature to have! Wouldn't we all rather be around somebody who is really nice than somebody who is not nice, regardless of what career they have? I don't think that people need any redeeming features besides that. And queen bees who rule by fear suck, regardless of what their career background is.

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What is up with all the stereotyping? We know tons of doctors and there is no one type doctors marry. Some marry fellow doctors. Some marry nurses. Most seem to marry other professionals. I don’t necessarily think the women are that pretty either. Some are but most aren’t.

We live in an affluent neighborhood with tech executives, finance professionals, politicians, lobbyists, doctors, lawyers, etc. These women all look kind of the same to me. We all clean up but have that Mackenzie Scott type of vibe.

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Anonymous wrote:When I was growing up in the 80s and 90s, having a doctor father was certainly a nice thing to have. I noticed the doctors tended to have the quintessential upper middle class lifestyle that people imagined of the 50s, with wives who didn't work and a nice house and private schools for the children and nice trips. All very nice and traditional. And because the wives didn't work or were known as not needing to have to work, the cliche of the spoiled doctor's wife did emerge, somewhat unfairly. I do remember petty people making implications about my mother that I greatly resented.

Today it seems like most doctors are married to other doctors. The doctor's wife cliche is no more, thankfully.

I'm the PP who posted about how we moved to the south, and the cliche is very much alive here. I moved from DC where everyone we knew had peer partnerships in their marriages (at least education and income potential, if not actual income). Down here, the male doctors all have sahms, and their redeeming features are being blond and "really nice". I was just marveling with a friend (also from DC) that the "queen bee" mom at our school, who runs all the charity events and just seems to run everything and people cower in fear of.... was an unemployed event planner with a 2 year associates degree before she met her DH. It's bizarre to live in a place where people put so much emphasis on, well, being a doctor's wife.

You sound rattled by the popular queen bee or jealous of her looks and/or personality. Not every male doctor wants to be married to an overeducated and stressed out careerist.

Yeah, and being "really nice" is absolutely a great feature to have! Wouldn't we all rather be around somebody who is really nice than somebody who is not nice, regardless of what career they have? I don't think that people need any redeeming features besides that. And queen bees who rule by fear suck, regardless of what their career background is.

No SAHM married to some Medicare scheming Florida doctor is ruling by fear. Give me a break. Sounds like something a passive-aggressive frumpy careerist would say because the gregarious and pretty middle aged sorority girl intimidates her.