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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My good friend is married to a surgeon. He's the most self-centered man I've ever met. [/quote]

Yep. Neurotic, insufferable and awkward. They disregard properly cultivating their personalities because they were so focused on becoming doctors for 15 years. Many of them are mollycoddled momma’s boy who had a snow plow tiger mom doing everything for them until they were married. They in turn expect their wife to take over all of those duties. Grown *ss men who act like adult babies.[/quote]

If a guy routinely works 60-70 hour weeks, his wife [i]ought [/i]to take care of everything else, nitwit. That wife knew what the deal was when she married him. [/quote]

I don't understand this.  Both my wife and I work 60-80hrs/week each.  When not working, we split childcare and house work.[/quote]

If you are both working those hours, it’s doubtful there is much childcare left to split.

Children are not trophies.[/quote]

We consider these hours mild and spend lots of time with our kids every day.  Again, I don’t understand what you are talking about.[/quote]

When exactly does this 60-80 hour week happen? Are you those annoying people who claim you are working from home when you’re actually doing childcare -those people who ruin it for everyone else? Or do you work during the school day and then all night?[/quote]

We both work a normal work day and after kids go to sleep go back to work (evening WFH).[/quote]

I see, you are a typical hot shot who barely clears 40 hours but claims to be working 80? Like Elon Musk who “sleeps at the office” but spends most of his time posting on Twitter? At least he does not say he spends tons of quality time with his kids  :roll:

80 hour weeks is 13 working hours per day, 7 days a week. [/quote]

We both used to work over 80 hrs per week.  Now working 60-80 is pretty mild.  I don’t understand you at all.  Your math is also way off which is concerning.[/quote]

I don’t really see how you do this either.  We used to both work 80 hours a week during residency:

2 overnight calls: 30 hours (6am-noon)
1 long call: 12 hours (6am-6pm)
1 short call: 8 hours (6am-2pm)
1 day off

We had normal daycare hours and arranged our schedules so that we were never both on call at the same time.  It was a lot.  We had almost no social life and were always exhausted. [/quote]

Not sure why this has so much interest.

M-F 8am - 5pm = 45hrs
M-F 8pm - 12am = 20hrs
Weekend work = variable 0-15hrs

Total = 65-80hrs[/quote]

When are you eating, taking a shower, getting in a workout, going to the pediatrician and the dentist and mechanic, and paying your bills, and checking homework and school recitals and afterschool activities and researching summer camps etc etc etc and spending a ton of quality time with your kids.  I worked in Finance and the guys working 80 hour weeks were bachelors or married with SAHM + tons of help, and barely saw their kids for dinner. Even with that many were doing Cocaine or Modafinil to keep up. I am sure you and your partner are special and not delusional.[/quote]

Wake up 6am. Kids don’t wake up until 7am so we have time then.  Weekends are largely free.  Rare appointments get scheduled.

Not sure why this is interesting.[/quote]

It’s not that interesting.  It’s just that you say this isn’t a big deal, and then you give this schedule where you only sleep like 5 hours a night, and you do nothing but work and take care of your kids.  [/quote]

Sleep 6hrs/night, weekends mostly free, minimum 3-4hrs/day with kids.  This is for two adults and flexible.[/quote]

I think your schedule is fiction, but if not your life sounds absolutely miserable. [/quote]

DP in a two-doctor couple and this is quite typical in the young kid years.[/quote]

What are you doing as a doctor where you work 60+ hours a week, are off from 5-8pm every day, and have most weekends free?   [/quote]

Apparently, posting on DCUM and perfecting the art of lying. [/quote]

Now I'm curious.  What about this bothers you so much?[/quote]

There is obviously something wrong with the pp, not the doctors. Anyone can know different specialties have different demands. We know surgeons who operate only 1 day per week. Some work only 4 days total. Dermatologists have better hours than most professionals. ER and anesthesiologists do shift work.

My husband operates 3 days per week and out of 5 days per work week, he is home for dinner 4x. Usually he has one late day and even on that day, he can pick up kids from sports on his drive home.[/quote]

Does he also work 65-80 hours a week as pp claims?  
I’m not saying that doctors can’t be home or work fewer hours.  I’m a doctor and work part time.  
 
I’m saying that the hours pp posted (8am-5pm, then 8pm-midnight five days a week with weekends off) are not typical doctor hours.  [/quote]

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