What’s it like being married to a medical doctor (MD)?

[Anonymous]

Obviously on paper an MD is a serious catch. Educated, fairly high to very high income (surgeons), community status and professional network. Any noteworthy looming issues or are MD wives generally a very satisfied cohort?

[Anonymous]

Cheating. Hospitals have no boundaries and MDs have god complexes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheating. Hospitals have no boundaries and MDs have god complexes.

Cite?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheating. Hospitals have no boundaries and MDs have god complexes.

This is true. When my uncle was married 25 years ago, there was an event for doctors wives. The presenter said look to your left and right. One of those people will not be married to their doc spouse in 15-20 years. No one thought it would be them. My uncle left his wife for another hospital employee. Pretty common knowledge. Even in my 20s, I would not date doctors.

[Anonymous]

I married a doctor, but I also am one myself. So I find this thread particularly funny. Curious what people think.

[Anonymous]

Depending on the type of doctor, be prepared for them to not be wealthy for a VERY long time. Also, depending on the type be prepared for them to have to walk out of events for medical emergencies.

[Anonymous]

Lots of doctors in my family, only 1, a second cousin, cheated so far!

[Anonymous]

My grandfather was a doctor. My mom said never marry one...they have God complexes. My grandmother did not have a happy marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheating. Hospitals have no boundaries and MDs have god complexes.

This is true. When my uncle was married 25 years ago, there was an event for doctors wives. The presenter said look to your left and right. One of those people will not be married to their doc spouse in 15-20 years. No one thought it would be them. My uncle left his wife for another hospital employee. Pretty common knowledge. Even in my 20s, I would not date doctors.

I mean, 20 years is after your hypothetical kids are adults and in college. Not exactly a shocking end to a marriage, any marriage.

[Anonymous]

My mother was a bookkeeper for a large medical practice and told me never to marry a doctor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cheating. Hospitals have no boundaries and MDs have god complexes.

This is interesting. Only one MD I know from college was a total playboy fraternity boy, while the rest of the MDs I know were total dorks. I wonder if MDs cheat because they are generally dorky swots from high school until damn near if not after age 30 (with residency and fellowship), so by the time they're on the job, have the high income, the status of being a doctor and are around women, they are susceptible to making up for lost time?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cheating. Hospitals have no boundaries and MDs have god complexes.

This is interesting. Only one MD I know from college was a total playboy fraternity boy, while the rest of the MDs I know were total dorks. I wonder if MDs cheat because they are generally dorky swots from high school until damn near if not after age 30 (with residency and fellowship), so by the time they're on the job, have the high income, the status of being a doctor and are around women, they are susceptible to making up for lost time?

Yup same as nerdy biglaw types who end up being cheaters (speak from experience).

[Anonymous]

We recently moved to a wealthy town in the south. The doctors' network is bizarre.

The cheating is rampant, and they have very traditional, weird relationships with their wives. The wives are typically far less educated (think, college degree - but from directional U in communications), and aren't typically best friends with their husbands. The wives have totally separate lives with a lot of other wealthy sahms, and when you meet them at a social event, the women are socialize in one group, and the men in another. The men would never make friends directly (or honestly, even waste their time talking to) with someone from the opposite gender.

One of my close friends is a doctor (in a fairly low stress specialty on a PT basis) and is married to a cardiologist. Her DH cheated on her, is a narcissist and his highs and lows dictate the emotional stability of the entire household. Like, when he's going through a 'bad' patch where the world isn't sucking up to him enough, his mood dramatically impacts the whole house for months - they are walking on eggshells. And vice versa, when he's good, they all come out more from their shells. They have teen daughters, and those girls are so kind and sweet but they are f-d. They think their dad walks on water, but he treats them and their mother horribly - and it's almost certain they're going to seek out men just like him. DH was out for lunch with them all a few months ago, and some random woman came up and was like "your dad saved my life! He's a god! You have the most amazing dad in the world!" and my husband was horrified with the messaging to those poor girls.

[Anonymous]

Ask my husband!

[Anonymous]

My dh is a doctor. Loyal and wonderful. Came from humble beginnings, which helps.