How do married people find the random time to cheat?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is hard to believe that with Find My IPhone and Life360, ppl still use the errand excuse to meet w AP. Or do they just accidentally leave their phones at home on those “errands”.

They leave the phone in their car at that location and jump in the other persons car—-there also is an easy way to hack find my iPhone. My ex could drop the pin from the computer to make it look like he was somewhere he wasn’t.

Wow the length ppl will go to have an affair. I am exhausted just thinking about all of the steps it takes.

Here is the thing: cheating is a lot of fun. I think people forget that. It’s the feeling of falling in love again and having extremely naughty sex, hot sex and having naughty secrets. If you are depressed, cheating makes you feel alive again. It all comes crashing down eventually but in the moment you are willing to do a lot.

I picture this person with a spouse at home who is holding down a full time job while taking care of the kids and house while this person is either languishing in bed in a depressive stupor or out running around with his or her next fling. Maybe that’s untreated bipolar? Would never want to be in a relationship with a person who can’t get their sh*t together.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is hard to believe that with Find My IPhone and Life360, ppl still use the errand excuse to meet w AP. Or do they just accidentally leave their phones at home on those “errands”.

They leave the phone in their car at that location and jump in the other persons car—-there also is an easy way to hack find my iPhone. My ex could drop the pin from the computer to make it look like he was somewhere he wasn’t.

Wow the length ppl will go to have an affair. I am exhausted just thinking about all of the steps it takes.

Here is the thing: cheating is a lot of fun. I think people forget that. It’s the feeling of falling in love again and having extremely naughty sex, hot sex and having naughty secrets. If you are depressed, cheating makes you feel alive again. It all comes crashing down eventually but in the moment you are willing to do a lot.

I picture this person with a spouse at home who is holding down a full time job while taking care of the kids and house while this person is either languishing in bed in a depressive stupor or out running around with his or her next fling. Maybe that’s untreated bipolar? Would never want to be in a relationship with a person who can’t get their sh*t together.

Sometimes the cheater is the person who is working f/t while taking care of the house and kids and has a checked out spouse they have to support and take care of. The cheating is an escape from having to do all that work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is hard to believe that with Find My IPhone and Life360, ppl still use the errand excuse to meet w AP. Or do they just accidentally leave their phones at home on those “errands”.

They leave the phone in their car at that location and jump in the other persons car—-there also is an easy way to hack find my iPhone. My ex could drop the pin from the computer to make it look like he was somewhere he wasn’t.

Wow the length ppl will go to have an affair. I am exhausted just thinking about all of the steps it takes.

Here is the thing: cheating is a lot of fun. I think people forget that. It’s the feeling of falling in love again and having extremely naughty sex, hot sex and having naughty secrets. If you are depressed, cheating makes you feel alive again. It all comes crashing down eventually but in the moment you are willing to do a lot.

I picture this person with a spouse at home who is holding down a full time job while taking care of the kids and house while this person is either languishing in bed in a depressive stupor or out running around with his or her next fling. Maybe that’s untreated bipolar? Would never want to be in a relationship with a person who can’t get their sh*t together.

Yep. Most of the time it’s the default parent—working full-time, taking care of kids, parents/in-laws, shopping/cooking, staying fit and he only has his main job, cheating with the tile you describe above- someone doing barely anything in their own marriage- not even bringing in a paycheck. Imagine what the wife would be like if she didn’t face 759 balls up in the air at once and was just waiting around for that hour a few times a month in the hotel room…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is hard to believe that with Find My IPhone and Life360, ppl still use the errand excuse to meet w AP. Or do they just accidentally leave their phones at home on those “errands”.

They leave the phone in their car at that location and jump in the other persons car—-there also is an easy way to hack find my iPhone. My ex could drop the pin from the computer to make it look like he was somewhere he wasn’t.

Wow the length ppl will go to have an affair. I am exhausted just thinking about all of the steps it takes.

Here is the thing: cheating is a lot of fun. I think people forget that. It’s the feeling of falling in love again and having extremely naughty sex, hot sex and having naughty secrets. If you are depressed, cheating makes you feel alive again. It all comes crashing down eventually but in the moment you are willing to do a lot.

I picture this person with a spouse at home who is holding down a full time job while taking care of the kids and house while this person is either languishing in bed in a depressive stupor or out running around with his or her next fling. Maybe that’s untreated bipolar? Would never want to be in a relationship with a person who can’t get their sh*t together.

Yep. Most of the time it’s the default parent—working full-time, taking care of kids, parents/in-laws, shopping/cooking, staying fit and he only has his main job, cheating with the tile you describe above- someone doing barely anything in their own marriage- not even bringing in a paycheck. Imagine what the wife would be like if she didn’t face 759 balls up in the air at once and was just waiting around for that hour a few times a month in the hotel room…

That’s why he will never marry the hotel lady. She does nothing. He’s not going to support her and her kids and leave a wife bringing in good $, has her sh@t together. The woman I banged used to complain about having to go to the grocery store. She didn’t work or do anything but cheat on her husband.

[Anonymous]

My husband works all the time. I work from home. It would be pretty easy for me to cheat. I think it would also be easy for him to cheat if he did it at work.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is hard to believe that with Find My IPhone and Life360, ppl still use the errand excuse to meet w AP. Or do they just accidentally leave their phones at home on those “errands”.

They leave the phone in their car at that location and jump in the other persons car—-there also is an easy way to hack find my iPhone. My ex could drop the pin from the computer to make it look like he was somewhere he wasn’t.

Wow the length ppl will go to have an affair. I am exhausted just thinking about all of the steps it takes.

Here is the thing: cheating is a lot of fun. I think people forget that. It’s the feeling of falling in love again and having extremely naughty sex, hot sex and having naughty secrets. If you are depressed, cheating makes you feel alive again. It all comes crashing down eventually but in the moment you are willing to do a lot.

I picture this person with a spouse at home who is holding down a full time job while taking care of the kids and house while this person is either languishing in bed in a depressive stupor or out running around with his or her next fling. Maybe that’s untreated bipolar? Would never want to be in a relationship with a person who can’t get their sh*t together.

Sometimes the cheater is the person who is working f/t while taking care of the house and kids and has a checked out spouse they have to support and take care of. The cheating is an escape from having to do all that work.

+1
I have seen this situation.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“The gym”- go bang in a hotel nearby. Or on WAH day when he “had to run into the office for an hour or so” (aka her house).

She didn’t work and had kids in school so house was free and she had all the time in the world when husband was at work.

Doesn't the other spouse see the credit card bill with the hotel charges on it?

I found a hotel charge on a bill he left on the table at home. The spouse of the woman also found me online and wrote me.

This is great! Did you get the whole story? Did you meet the spouse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“The gym”- go bang in a hotel nearby. Or on WAH day when he “had to run into the office for an hour or so” (aka her house).

She didn’t work and had kids in school so house was free and she had all the time in the world when husband was at work.

Doesn't the other spouse see the credit card bill with the hotel charges on it?

I found a hotel charge on a bill he left on the table at home. The spouse of the woman also found me online and wrote me.

This is great! Did you get the whole story? Did you meet the spouse?

his wife slid in his DMs catching up with an old friend
they had apparently talked online a few times over the years and her first child's name is a play on his name but no it isn't his kid, she had two daughters with her spouse
she'd call him and vent about her husband and marriage, I imagine he vented also about ours
He had introduced me to or told me about most significant female friends except for this one
During Covid (pre-vaccines when everyone was freaking out and there were lots of deaths) they started meeting for lunch. His job was essential worker so he was still going to work.
I heard him arguing one night on phone with some man but didn't ask any questions.
The next day I got emails on work and personal accounts and a FB message request that I didn't find until much later.
He warned me they had been meeting for lunches and thought I should know so I could get Covid test.
I checked phone records which I had never done before and the numbers matched up to numbers the spouse had given me to call if I wanted to talk
I waited a couple days and mentioned that I had been contacted. He admitted and said he'd cease contact before it became something more than lunch and phone calls and texts.
We did therapy but he was still connecting with her during it so he was checked out of therapy and not doing the work
A few months into therapy and about 4 months after being busted about the lunches is when they had the cheap motel rendezvous.
I saw the bill the month after they hooked up
Had the chat that I saw the bill and he apologizes and goes into this thing about how he could barely perform because of guilt (which explains the supplements hat he ordered the day after the motel date). TMI
I reached out to the husband and mentioned they had hooked up now. We had a nice talk. He shared some stuff that I told him about my husband on that call with his wife and she of course told my husband and he had the nerve to be upset that I shared that he was broke and I was carrying the household as breadwinner.
The husband moved out and filed for divorce. She is a secretary. I'm sure it was an ego stroke to have the attention of someone less accomplished than he was that dissed him in younger years because she didn't think he was going anywhere in life. Now he could flex on her how she should have picked him instead back then, he has a masters albeit low paying job. I would have at least hoped she was attractive but she wasn't. It was more that it was someone from his past that he didn't have to finesse or put effort into that gave him easy access that was looking for an escape from her own marital situation and listened and stroked the ego of a guy who struggles with not feeling successful in life.
I wasn't surprised about the affair because he was distant and absent in our marriage which lead to it being strained and disconnected.

[Anonymous]

^^ Please tell us he is now your ex. So sorry you had to put up with this.

[Anonymous]

The cheaters always sound so absolutely pathetic and not evolved. Such cliches. Like children who never grew up.

[Anonymous]

yes. Peter Pan story.

[Anonymous]

Literally no one respects the shifty, lying cheap motel cash-paying Tracfone-using pick me up at the street corner cheater.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is hard to believe that with Find My IPhone and Life360, ppl still use the errand excuse to meet w AP. Or do they just accidentally leave their phones at home on those “errands”.

They leave the phone in their car at that location and jump in the other persons car—-there also is an easy way to hack find my iPhone. My ex could drop the pin from the computer to make it look like he was somewhere he wasn’t.

Wow the length ppl will go to have an affair. I am exhausted just thinking about all of the steps it takes.

Here is the thing: cheating is a lot of fun. I think people forget that. It’s the feeling of falling in love again and having extremely naughty sex, hot sex and having naughty secrets. If you are depressed, cheating makes you feel alive again. It all comes crashing down eventually but in the moment you are willing to do a lot.

I picture this person with a spouse at home who is holding down a full time job while taking care of the kids and house while this person is either languishing in bed in a depressive stupor or out running around with his or her next fling. Maybe that’s untreated bipolar? Would never want to be in a relationship with a person who can’t get their sh*t together.

A lot of cheaters have bipolar or develop it

[Anonymous]

I’ve been enjoying romantic interludes with a few football widows for many years now. These women are alone for the better part of a few weeknights which allows for dinners out and some playtime, and Sundays during the football season with plenty of time to enjoy some extra marital fun. If husbands are traveling to follow their team(s), then a weekend at a nice hotel is often arranged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is hard to believe that with Find My IPhone and Life360, ppl still use the errand excuse to meet w AP. Or do they just accidentally leave their phones at home on those “errands”.

They leave the phone in their car at that location and jump in the other persons car—-there also is an easy way to hack find my iPhone. My ex could drop the pin from the computer to make it look like he was somewhere he wasn’t.

Wow the length ppl will go to have an affair. I am exhausted just thinking about all of the steps it takes.

Here is the thing: cheating is a lot of fun. I think people forget that. It’s the feeling of falling in love again and having extremely naughty sex, hot sex and having naughty secrets. If you are depressed, cheating makes you feel alive again. It all comes crashing down eventually but in the moment you are willing to do a lot.

I picture this person with a spouse at home who is holding down a full time job while taking care of the kids and house while this person is either languishing in bed in a depressive stupor or out running around with his or her next fling. Maybe that’s untreated bipolar? Would never want to be in a relationship with a person who can’t get their sh*t together.

Yep. Most of the time it’s the default parent—working full-time, taking care of kids, parents/in-laws, shopping/cooking, staying fit and he only has his main job, cheating with the tile you describe above- someone doing barely anything in their own marriage- not even bringing in a paycheck. Imagine what the wife would be like if she didn’t face 759 balls up in the air at once and was just waiting around for that hour a few times a month in the hotel room…

all the cheaters I've known have been SAHMs. YMMV