I meet a lot of moms, but no one wants to be my friend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hear you. Consider an impromptu hug strategy. Not too long after a conversation begins, it's really an instinct thing (there is no "rule" on timing), just hug the person. You or they can carry on whatever they were saying, the hug doesn't have to be "about" anything. It's just a hug! You may find your tribe from there. I know people who have.

This is so hilariously creepy.

Is this how AI bots try to make friends?

[CosmicFlower]

Hi, I’m an introvert mom. I don’t need a lot of friends, just one or two who understand me and share my interests. I find it hard to make friends in person, so I prefer chatting online first. I actually used a dating app once, but strictly for finding friends, not dates. My super supportive husband was totally fine with it and even helped me set up my profile. I only met up with some people from the app. My husband came with me too, just to be safe and supportive. It was a fun experience. Though I only connected with one person long-term, I’m glad I put myself out there a little! 😅

[Anonymous]

They are a s s h0les. Big ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You might have more time for friendship than others with kids and marriages and jobs (I’m gathering from the coffees and the gym). Have you tried throwing a life raft to anyone in your circle who is struggling? I’m struggling, and I would befriend anyone halfway decent who helped me right now! I am going through a health crisis and have a an autistic child. Life is hard. I can’t have coffee. But if I’m somewhat friendly with a mom from school and she’s really KIND to me and then offers to be a back up babysitter if I need to go to the ER? Done. She’s my best friend.

Ugh. Genuinely sorry you’re dealing with all this, but what you describe is needing a therapist and childcare. Someone who volunteers to be your crisis dumping ground would then later receive your “friendship” in return? OK.

I’m really sorry you’re that dealing with your kid’s autism and your own health issues at the same time.

But you expect only peopls to provide free labor that none of your real friends will provide? In exchange, you’ll befriend people you consider barely “halfway decent.” So gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you need good friends at this age anyway? Don't you have them from high school, college etc? Between work and volunteering and hobbies and kids I must talk to 50 people a day and they are all friends of different levels of closeness. We live in a very populated area. It isn't too hard. I think you might just be expecting too much from others.

Good for you. You're not OP. What a jerk response.

No one with decent social skills talks like this. Your response reminds me of a couple of awkward, quirky people I’ve met who brag about having a ton of friends. Are you on the spectrum, PP?

[Anonymous]

This happened to me, and it turned out that one of their husbands had made an inappropriate comment about me and that turned into an untrue rumor. I never had the chance to show that it wasn’t true because they knew each other before they met me and my family.

I only tell this story to say that you should try to just live your life and move on. You’ve put in plenty of effort and if it’s not happening, move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are in MoCo and interested in dance, there is a mom dance group that was founded earlier this year. The name of the group is called Mom-entum, and the info can be found on FB. There’s various types of dance classes on different nights and locations. No dance experience is required. Many of the moms have never danced.

It’s truly been a lifeline for me and many of the other moms that have joined so far. We also get together for activities outside of the studio with the kids. Prior to that, it was really hard for me to make friends with other adults at gym or school.

This sounds right up my alley! I danced as a kid and miss it so much. Feel very jealous watching my daughter getting into dance and would love it for myself.

I could only find the private Facebook page, is there anywhere else to learn about this group and where they meet? MOCO is big LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Try hugs and hugging. Not too long after a conversation begins, hug the person. The hug doesn't have to be "about" anything. It's a great way to connect with people. If it feels right you just say... I want us to be friends, how would you like that? #empath

Why make the same creepy post more than once, on a dredged up thread that’s several months old. This post is the opposite of appropriate and helpful. Very Silence of the Lambs vibe.

Well Happy No-Thanks Giving to you too. YOU are the opposite of appropropriate and the opposite of kind (UNkind). Hugs are Fire. Fire is Love. Love is Life.