Why do you let your daughter have long scraggly hair?

[Anonymous]

Just to chime in: we usually brush out our DD's curly hair every night in the bath, then attempt to tame it simply with either barrettes, or those little elasticy things. Why don't we don't dedicate at least 3-4 primping sessions per day to keep her hair looking "runway" tidy?

Because we're trying to raise a level-headed independent child. When she has the inclination and the ability to do all sorts of fabulous things with her hair, she'll either do it herself, or ask us to help.

There's a reason that boys have tended to grow up more capable and independent than girls: we spend all our time buying clothes they can't actually dress themselves in, and primping them, sending them the message that they're incapable of doing things for themselves at an early age.

[Anonymous]

There's a reason that boys have tended to grow up more capable and independent than girls

Yeah I am not sure I agree with you there and statistics will tell you otherwise too. The girls of the past few generations have been far more succesful than the boys. In my DD preschool class the boys are always whining, not capable of putting on their shoes or coats. Bunch of babies and it is definitely the faults of their overbearing mommies

[Anonymous]

Let's unpack this:

The girls of the past few generations have been far more succesful than the boys.

Disagree about "past few generations". What do you mean? Going back to your grandmother's generation?

In my DD preschool class the boys are always whining, not capable of putting on their shoes or coats.

Yep, 'cause starting in the '70s we finally stopped treating young girls like paper dolls.

[Anonymous]

'cause starting in the '70s we finally stopped treating young girls like paper dolls.

Totally true, now we treat the boys like them...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh, I dunno. I have to side with the person who thinks turquoise hair is trashy.

Also, why point out you're biracial? Who cares? It's not relevant. Just makes you sound like you have a chip on your shoulder.

Are you kidding? On a topic about hair and manageability it seems pretty reasonable and relevant to characterize hair as biracial. My DD (biracial BTW, and neither one of us appear to have a chip on our shoulder) has very challenging hair. I would love to braid, wash or style it in 2 minutes but all of the above take at least 20 minutes or more during which time she is protesting and complaining. I'm happy if I can get it washed regularly and pulled off her face so she not constantly brushing it out of her eyes. And pulling her hair back in a ponytail doesn't always alleviate her hair looking scraggly.

I don't consider avoiding battles about hair as not parenting my child.

[Anonymous]

Thank you, 17:36! It's nice to hear from posters who don't have a judgemental attitude.

[Anonymous]

My DD is growing out her hair for Locks of Love. Really. And it is gorgeous thick naturally highlighted blond hair. It can look better than any other girl's in the class if we take extra time to tend it, but usually we do a quick brushing and put it in a ponytail so it doesn't bother her running at recess or in gym class. She is a tomboy and couldn't give a hoot about having fancy clothes or perfect hair (even though I have bought her fancy clothes and exposed her to beauty salons, etc.) Her peers' moms who care about such things should be happy that she doesn't try to look great, because it keeps her from outshining their daughters. Even still, almost every day, someone else tells me how beautiful she is. It is not all about the hair.

Sorry for the delay in responding, but your post made me vomit, so it took me a minute to get back to the computer.

What's with the "Really." as if that's so unbelievable? I know at least a half dozen girls who have donated their hair, including my DD.

YES -- but your DD probably did not do it at 8 years old. Really.

[Anonymous]

Because we likes it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I completely agree. Nothing wrong with a 0-2 year old boy in a monogrammed romper or "John John" as they are sometimes called (named for little John Kennedy Jr.'s - he wore them a lot!) Much older than that looks a little silly - plus anything like that is impractical once you start potty training.

To me, plaid and seersucker is way more appropriate for a baby boy than some of the ugly screen printing stuff I've seen (skull & crossbones? come on Gymboree, I'm disappointed in you...

I am going to fancy a guess here that you are from some podunk town in NC and are trying to hide it by equating john-john wearing to JFK. No one believes you are from the Cape or the Vineyard or Newport. John Johns are cute on a baby, but once your baby is mobile (no longer a baby) gingham, seer sucker and pastels make him look like a sissy. Perhaps you should ask your husband or has he been completely emasculated by you too?

Its so sad to see such gender bias in this day and age. Babies are babies (and I include 2yo in the baby category). They shouldn't have to be macho. They should be babies. I'm not teaching my son to be a jackass macho dude, and I won't teach my daughter to be a prissy, girlie domestic. Comments like this remind me of a friend of mine who won't let her son watch Dora because it might turn him gay. It just makes me want to cry for them.

[Anonymous]

Comments like this remind me of a friend of mine who won't let her son watch Dora because it might turn him gay. It just makes me want to cry for them.

That is really sad and a little scary. But of course the real risk of watching Dora is becoming insipid.

[Anonymous]

YES -- but your DD probably did not do it at 8 years old. Really.

Yes, you're right, my DD did it at 7 yrs old, when she was in 2nd grade. Our favorite preschool teacher died of breast cancer earlier that year, and my kids took it very hard (the younger two were still at the preschool). So when the subject of wigs for cancer patients and kids with alopecia came up, and my DD chose to do this on her own. "Really."

What is your point, anyway?

[Anonymous]

Its so sad to see such gender bias in this day and age. Babies are babies (and I include 2yo in the baby category).

Just to set you straight as you are more than likely one of these people who refer to your 2 year old as a 24 month old.

Baby- Birth to 1 year
Toddler- 1 year to 3years
Preschooler- 3-5 years

Now please stop calling your 2 year old a baby. Also once your child can sit up without assistance stop calling it an infant!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

remind me of a friend of mine who won't let her son watch Dora because it might turn him gay. It just makes me want to cry for them.

Really cry for them??? You really do plan on raising a sissy.

I cry if I have to watch Dora and I have a daughter. Dora is the loudest most annoying cartoon character!!!

[Anonymous]

John Johns are cute on a baby, but once your baby is mobile (no longer a baby) gingham, seer sucker and pastels make him look like a sissy.

are you serious? you are calling a toddler a sissy based on him wearing age-appropriate attire (b/c that's what it is). you, my dear, are a douchebag. i'm saddened that you are raising kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is growing out her hair for Locks of Love. Really. And it is gorgeous thick naturally highlighted blond hair. It can look better than any other girl's in the class if we take extra time to tend it, but usually we do a quick brushing and put it in a ponytail so it doesn't bother her running at recess or in gym class. She is a tomboy and couldn't give a hoot about having fancy clothes or perfect hair (even though I have bought her fancy clothes and exposed her to beauty salons, etc.) Her peers' moms who care about such things should be happy that she doesn't try to look great, because it keeps her from outshining their daughters. Even still, almost every day, someone else tells me how beautiful she is. It is not all about the hair.

Sorry for the delay in responding, but your post made me vomit, so it took me a minute to get back to the computer.

What's with the "Really." as if that's so unbelievable? I know at least a half dozen girls who have donated their hair, including my DD.

YES -- but your DD probably did not do it at 8 years old. Really.

I think this poster is troll trying to be obnoxious and start a fight. Don't take the bait.