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Is anyone else super triggered by ppl showing off on social media?
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Anonymous
Most normal people have. |
Anonymous
| I work in marketing, too, and this kind of things bothers me sometimes. A business coach/mentor teaches people to create content just like that to show others wha you've achieved. Doing so is not really my thing, because that info can be conveyed in other ways. That said, a colleague posted about traveling business class and being on a plane with a bar. I interpreted as them being excited and knew the experience was new to them. They also exclaimed over a store in the US that is no big deal to me but it was a big deal to them to have access to all the stuff. |
Anonymous
This. IMO, social media posts are not for your good friends or close family, It's for the people you don't see or talk to as often. I almost never interact with people I'm very close to on social media. I don't really think that hard about what they post either, assuming I see it. I know them well so their social media behavior is just a small, and relatively not intimate, aspect of them so I don't invest much thought in it. I assume the people most interested in social media posts are the people a step or two removed from that. Friends you aren't that close to or don't see that often, colleagues, former classmates, extended family, etc. At least, these seem to be the people in my life most likely to interact with my social media. And it's also why I'd be unlikely to post very braggy or show-offy posts, because I think that's a group you can easily alienate or offend, since it includes people who are basically friendly acquaintances. My approach to social media is to act as I might at a big barbecue where I know the hosts but only know the rest of the guests a little. Friendly, but avoid over-sharing and dominating the conversation (i.e. posting constantly), and tap into the most pro-social aspects of my personality. That means no bragging or competition. I don't assume people on social media will be happy for me if something good happens to me, or at least that there are limits to how happy they'll be. I think many people assume that everyone on social media is like that close circle of friends and family. They aren't. It's good to keep that in mind. |
Anonymous
| I don’t know how many times this needs to be said. If social media is making you unhappy, change how you are using it. This isn’t broadcast into your home. There are healthy and unhealthy ways to use it. Use it in ways that serve you well and don’t use it in ways that don’t serve you well. Very easy. |
Anonymous
| I don’t think you understand what triggered means. |
Anonymous
It needs to be said zero more times. We get it. That’s not going to stop people from coming on here to kvetch about stupid things people post. That’s kind of what people do on an anonymous forum with no stakes. Think of every thread started about horrendous holiday visits—I guarantee you half the people who started those threads either posted happy pics of those visits on social media or liked pics of them that others posted. You can be honest here. |
Anonymous
I'm the previous poster. I am aware that people may not like the posts, but I always feel they don't have to watch or unfollow me. They never do that though lol. |
Anonymous
Well I'm from Alexandria and I love posting about my trips. I honestly don't care what people think. Most of the time I love posting b/c I am finally at the weight I love. That's honestly why I post more lol. No shame either. |
Anonymous
The people for whom it would actually be "very easy" to just use social media less or develop a healthier relationship with it are not the people who find themselves feeling very unhappy when they are on social media. Imagine telling an alcoholic "If drinking is making you unhappy, change your relationship with alcohol. No one is forcing you to drink. There are healthy and unhealthy ways to consume alcohol. Use it ways that serve you and don't use it in ways that don't serve you well. Very easy." And before you say "yeah I guess it's hard with people with actual addictions, but that's not most people," you might want to ask yourself if that's true. What percent of people on social media have totally healthy relationships with it? Look at surveys around social media use about how use impacts how teenage girls view their bodies, or how many people say that going on social media platforms depresses their mood. If it were actually easy to just use social media in a healthy way , you wouldn't see so many people complaining about it. The fact that it's hard to quit or reduce social media use, that social media is very addictive for many people, is the whole point. Right now, social media is viewed the way alcohol was in the 1960s, when it was ubiquitous, people who had acknowledged drinking problems really struggled to deal with it, and many people had unacknowledged drinking problems. |
Anonymous
If you don’t care what people think why post? Just take a photo and look at it yourself. You do care you’re just not self aware |
Anonymous
| Someone will always have more than you. Someone will always have less than you. That’s just life. |
Anonymous
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Op - have you heard of ‘shadow work?’
This is shadow work. Good for you. |
Anonymous
| Yes. Mostly cringy. Someone who travels constantly I sometimes envy. |
Anonymous
Lol agreed. But not a lot of cheese balls posting cringey pics trying to show off their vacations. At least not people who grew up in the 80s/90s. And I mean DC, not the suburbanites. Cheese balls abound there. |
Anonymous
I know Gen X women raised in DC (Visi, Sidwell, Cathedral) who post on social media. |