Is anyone else super triggered by ppl showing off on social media?

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Anonymous wrote:I initially thought of it just as bragging but over time, and when an acquaintance posted 20 photos of her picking up her new X5, I realized it’s kind of sad. Like this is such a special experience they though was worthy of sharing. I get that some people use it as a memory album but the Amex Ex lounge and a new car are not things to remember unless there was something funny or unusual about it. Got your first new car at age 55 after driving a beater without a window for 5 years? Funny and also a big deal - we can be happy for you! In the lounge because of a historic weather event and grateful to sleep in a chair after a pretty drink? Ok, lemons out of lemonade.

As a frequent traveler prepandemic, I loved the lounges. Sitting in a comfortable chair in mostly quiet in the moments after TSA and pre boarding? Bliss. But I agree nothing anyone else cares about or something I need to remember.

The lounges are great! But posting a photo of every connection with your drink tagged in the “platinum lounge” or whatever is a bit cringe. I have one acquaintance who does this for every trip. I have another who often posts her red eye, cheap seats experiences with humor. And when that person posted about treated herself to first class, we all enjoyed it for her.

This 100%
Op isn’t so much triggered by the situation being shown as the thirstiness of the person posting. Op I think you see social media bragging as cruelty on some level and I’m not sure you are wrong

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Anonymous wrote:I initially thought of it just as bragging but over time, and when an acquaintance posted 20 photos of her picking up her new X5, I realized it’s kind of sad. Like this is such a special experience they though was worthy of sharing. I get that some people use it as a memory album but the Amex Ex lounge and a new car are not things to remember unless there was something funny or unusual about it. Got your first new car at age 55 after driving a beater without a window for 5 years? Funny and also a big deal - we can be happy for you! In the lounge because of a historic weather event and grateful to sleep in a chair after a pretty drink? Ok, lemons out of lemonade.

As a frequent traveler prepandemic, I loved the lounges. Sitting in a comfortable chair in mostly quiet in the moments after TSA and pre boarding? Bliss. But I agree nothing anyone else cares about or something I need to remember.

The lounges are great! But posting a photo of every connection with your drink tagged in the “platinum lounge” or whatever is a bit cringe. I have one acquaintance who does this for every trip. I have another who often posts her red eye, cheap seats experiences with humor. And when that person posted about treated herself to first class, we all enjoyed it for her.

So some people use social media posts to judge others? You root for/cheer for certain people while judging/labeling/criticizing others?

Sounds like typical mean girl/human behavior of miserable, insecure people.

Are you projecting? Because you inserted a lot there.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

I am a happy person and I love posting my travel photos on socials. I also love seeing other people do the same when they’re on a trip. It’s so fun to see what they’re doing next.

I think this is the key difference between you and OP. You think that people will assume the best, be happy for you, be interested in your travels. OP assumes other people will think negatively of her. Which is a situation of her own making since she does think the worst of others.

DP. I’m a happy person, too, but I would never assume that anyone else would be interested in my travels or be happy for me because I’m on vacation. Maybe if I had just gone through a particularly stressful period and really, really needed to get away or something, but just for going on vacation? That’s a weird assumption to make.

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Anonymous wrote:I initially thought of it just as bragging but over time, and when an acquaintance posted 20 photos of her picking up her new X5, I realized it’s kind of sad. Like this is such a special experience they though was worthy of sharing. I get that some people use it as a memory album but the Amex Ex lounge and a new car are not things to remember unless there was something funny or unusual about it. Got your first new car at age 55 after driving a beater without a window for 5 years? Funny and also a big deal - we can be happy for you! In the lounge because of a historic weather event and grateful to sleep in a chair after a pretty drink? Ok, lemons out of lemonade.

As a frequent traveler prepandemic, I loved the lounges. Sitting in a comfortable chair in mostly quiet in the moments after TSA and pre boarding? Bliss. But I agree nothing anyone else cares about or something I need to remember.

The lounges are great! But posting a photo of every connection with your drink tagged in the “platinum lounge” or whatever is a bit cringe. I have one acquaintance who does this for every trip. I have another who often posts her red eye, cheap seats experiences with humor. And when that person posted about treated herself to first class, we all enjoyed it for her.

So some people use social media posts to judge others? You root for/cheer for certain people while judging/labeling/criticizing others?

Sounds like typical mean girl/human behavior of miserable, insecure people.

Of course they do. I do. I don’t think I’m unusually miserable or insecure, but if people are going to put their lives out there on the freaking internet I should hope they’re aware that some people are going to judge or snicker or roll their eyes.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

I am a happy person and I love posting my travel photos on socials. I also love seeing other people do the same when they’re on a trip. It’s so fun to see what they’re doing next.

I think this is the key difference between you and OP. You think that people will assume the best, be happy for you, be interested in your travels. OP assumes other people will think negatively of her. Which is a situation of her own making since she does think the worst of others.

DP. I’m a happy person, too, but I would never assume that anyone else would be interested in my travels or be happy for me because I’m on vacation. Maybe if I had just gone through a particularly stressful period and really, really needed to get away or something, but just for going on vacation? That’s a weird assumption to make.

Because it’s a normal assumption that your friends and family wouldn’t be happy for you or interested in your trip? It’s normal to assume your friends and family would be envious or upset?

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Anonymous wrote:I rarely use social media for this reason, but the stuff I find annoying is more the "Happy Anniversary to the most loving, incredible husband ever, blah blah." I just find it so, so strange. I mean, tell your husband! WHY would you post such a thing? I don't really understand the motivation behind it. I wouldn't say I got very annoyed, but I would definitely roll my eyes. But people can post what they want, I made the decision not to look.

+1. It’s so tacky. I knew a couple who did this — and the wife was literally sleep with her brother in law. That said, I know genuinely happy couples who do it too, so who knows. Cringe nonetheless.

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I assume anyone over 30 who does social media bragging grew up “on the other side of the tracks” and finally came into a little money (or scammed PPP). What’s the saying, act like you’ve been there before?

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Anonymous wrote:People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

I am a happy person and I love posting my travel photos on socials. I also love seeing other people do the same when they’re on a trip. It’s so fun to see what they’re doing next.

I think this is the key difference between you and OP. You think that people will assume the best, be happy for you, be interested in your travels. OP assumes other people will think negatively of her. Which is a situation of her own making since she does think the worst of others.

DP. I’m a happy person, too, but I would never assume that anyone else would be interested in my travels or be happy for me because I’m on vacation. Maybe if I had just gone through a particularly stressful period and really, really needed to get away or something, but just for going on vacation? That’s a weird assumption to make.

Because it’s a normal assumption that your friends and family wouldn’t be happy for you or interested in your trip? It’s normal to assume your friends and family would be envious or upset?

I don’t think they’d be envious or upset, more that they just wouldn’t really care one way or another. Why should my vacation warrant a response from anyone else? It’s my trip. My experience.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

I am a happy person and I love posting my travel photos on socials. I also love seeing other people do the same when they’re on a trip. It’s so fun to see what they’re doing next.

I think this is the key difference between you and OP. You think that people will assume the best, be happy for you, be interested in your travels. OP assumes other people will think negatively of her. Which is a situation of her own making since she does think the worst of others.

DP. I’m a happy person, too, but I would never assume that anyone else would be interested in my travels or be happy for me because I’m on vacation. Maybe if I had just gone through a particularly stressful period and really, really needed to get away or something, but just for going on vacation? That’s a weird assumption to make.

Because it’s a normal assumption that your friends and family wouldn’t be happy for you or interested in your trip? It’s normal to assume your friends and family would be envious or upset?

I don’t think they’d be envious or upset, more that they just wouldn’t really care one way or another. Why should my vacation warrant a response from anyone else? It’s my trip. My experience.

What are friends for if not to talk about your experiences with? Maybe the weirdness is that many people only have “friends” who are actually acquaintances on social media and not actual friends. I’m an assume the best poster and I only “friend” people I actually know and like on social media. Maybe that makes the difference.

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Anonymous wrote:I assume anyone over 30 who does social media bragging grew up “on the other side of the tracks” and finally came into a little money (or scammed PPP). What’s the saying, act like you’ve been there before?

This is my experience. I grew up with $ and DC friends from childhood are all successful. They do not post EVER. New money friends from other places tend to post more. It's a little pathetic, but I am also a snob, so I prob judge more. Just being honest.

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Anonymous wrote:I assume anyone over 30 who does social media bragging grew up “on the other side of the tracks” and finally came into a little money (or scammed PPP). What’s the saying, act like you’ve been there before?

This is my experience. I grew up with $ and DC friends from childhood are all successful. They do not post EVER. New money friends from other places tend to post more. It's a little pathetic, but I am also a snob, so I prob judge more. Just being honest.

DC is a weird place full of strivers with issues warranting therapy. Insecure despite material success. Trying to blend in rather than make an impact.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

I am a happy person and I love posting my travel photos on socials. I also love seeing other people do the same when they’re on a trip. It’s so fun to see what they’re doing next.

I think this is the key difference between you and OP. You think that people will assume the best, be happy for you, be interested in your travels. OP assumes other people will think negatively of her. Which is a situation of her own making since she does think the worst of others.

DP. I’m a happy person, too, but I would never assume that anyone else would be interested in my travels or be happy for me because I’m on vacation. Maybe if I had just gone through a particularly stressful period and really, really needed to get away or something, but just for going on vacation? That’s a weird assumption to make.

Because it’s a normal assumption that your friends and family wouldn’t be happy for you or interested in your trip? It’s normal to assume your friends and family would be envious or upset?

I don’t think they’d be envious or upset, more that they just wouldn’t really care one way or another. Why should my vacation warrant a response from anyone else? It’s my trip. My experience.

What are friends for if not to talk about your experiences with? Maybe the weirdness is that many people only have “friends” who are actually acquaintances on social media and not actual friends. I’m an assume the best poster and I only “friend” people I actually know and like on social media. Maybe that makes the difference.

No, I don’t think that’s quite it. I’m actually far less likely to react or comment on posts by my very closest friends and family because I assume we’ll cover all the important stuff face-to-face or in a one-on-one text. Social media posts are so impersonal, I’m certainly not going to “talk about” experiences with people I really care about via comments.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

I am a happy person and I love posting my travel photos on socials. I also love seeing other people do the same when they’re on a trip. It’s so fun to see what they’re doing next.

I think this is the key difference between you and OP. You think that people will assume the best, be happy for you, be interested in your travels. OP assumes other people will think negatively of her. Which is a situation of her own making since she does think the worst of others.

DP. I’m a happy person, too, but I would never assume that anyone else would be interested in my travels or be happy for me because I’m on vacation. Maybe if I had just gone through a particularly stressful period and really, really needed to get away or something, but just for going on vacation? That’s a weird assumption to make.

Because it’s a normal assumption that your friends and family wouldn’t be happy for you or interested in your trip? It’s normal to assume your friends and family would be envious or upset?

I don’t think they’d be envious or upset, more that they just wouldn’t really care one way or another. Why should my vacation warrant a response from anyone else? It’s my trip. My experience.

And these two perspectives were exactly my point. Some people take joy in these kinds of posts made by others, and anticipate others will feel the same joy. Other people assume no one else would take joy and as a result are annoyed that anyone posts them at all.

I think the latter group should just get off social media entirely.

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Anonymous wrote:People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

I am a happy person and I love posting my travel photos on socials. I also love seeing other people do the same when they’re on a trip. It’s so fun to see what they’re doing next.

I think this is the key difference between you and OP. You think that people will assume the best, be happy for you, be interested in your travels. OP assumes other people will think negatively of her. Which is a situation of her own making since she does think the worst of others.

DP. I’m a happy person, too, but I would never assume that anyone else would be interested in my travels or be happy for me because I’m on vacation. Maybe if I had just gone through a particularly stressful period and really, really needed to get away or something, but just for going on vacation? That’s a weird assumption to make.

Because it’s a normal assumption that your friends and family wouldn’t be happy for you or interested in your trip? It’s normal to assume your friends and family would be envious or upset?

I don’t think they’d be envious or upset, more that they just wouldn’t really care one way or another. Why should my vacation warrant a response from anyone else? It’s my trip. My experience.

Literally, everything in your life is your experience. If you really feel this way, why are you even on social media?

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Anonymous wrote:People who are generally happy and have a good life do not post on social media. Social media is best suited for voyeurs and exhibitionists.

I have a happy life and post on social media. Not all the time, but maybe 2-3x/month. A mix of travel, mundane kid sports stuff, an occasional funny meme or photo accompanied with a funny story of something. My last post was a week before Christmas of my kids seeing Santa.

I like to see others photos and don’t think I’m a voyeur or they’re an exhibitionist. We are in the process of planning family travel and I remembered a friend took a trip last year somewhere we are considering going, so I reached out to her for recommendations about it. I like seeing my friends’ kids win their gymnastics meets or whatever. It doesn’t have to be as serious of a mental exercise as some of y’all are making it, stop dissecting everyone based on social media.