Anyone facing jealous friends now that your kids are in private school?

[Anonymous]

I honestly didn’t think this would be an issue, but out of the four people we’ve told, two of them have thrown some shade, in nuanced, passive aggressive ways. And for the record, they asked us about next year. We didn’t initiate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly didn’t think this would be an issue, but out of the four people we’ve told, two of them have thrown some shade, in nuanced, passive aggressive ways. And for the record, they asked us about next year. We didn’t initiate.

You're imagining it. Or looking for it.
Who cares if our kids are in private school?!? Why would people be jealous about that? Insecure private school parents want to think that people are jealous, when in fact they're too busy with their own lives.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly didn’t think this would be an issue, but out of the four people we’ve told, two of them have thrown some shade, in nuanced, passive aggressive ways. And for the record, they asked us about next year. We didn’t initiate.

You're imagining it. Or looking for it.
Who cares if our kids are in private school?!? Why would people be jealous about that? Insecure private school parents want to think that people are jealous, when in fact they're too busy with their own lives.

I think PP is likely not imagining it. It is likely the other people who are insecure for some reason.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation?

This is BS.
Or you need new friends
I live in that cluster never ever have I had anyone be jealous of Private school parents. LOL W cluster public schools there is no comparison with STEM classes.
I had kids do both. Public beyond better academically. And college acceptances. Mine went to this forums cream of the crop colleges from W cluster public schools.

You are insecure in your decision and definitely not old money.

Is being old money something to brag about?

Most W school kids have zero polish. They have no idea how to shake hands, dress appropriately or look an adult in the eye and have a conversation.

Huh. Usually humans aren’t supposed to hear dogwhistles, yet we can all hear this one.

Nice attempt to shut down a legitimate argument... that's so 2020 Democratic playbook of you.

Argument? Argument about what exactly? All I see is a bunch of profoundly insecure people agreeing with each other about how much they hate the poors.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ever since my kids were recently admitted to private schools, many friends in my W cluster have been making snippy comments about me sending my kids to private school. Has anyone else faced a similar situation?

This is BS.
Or you need new friends
I live in that cluster never ever have I had anyone be jealous of Private school parents. LOL W cluster public schools there is no comparison with STEM classes.
I had kids do both. Public beyond better academically. And college acceptances. Mine went to this forums cream of the crop colleges from W cluster public schools.

You are insecure in your decision and definitely not old money.

Is being old money something to brag about?

Most W school kids have zero polish. They have no idea how to shake hands, dress appropriately or look an adult in the eye and have a conversation.

Huh. Usually humans aren’t supposed to hear dogwhistles, yet we can all hear this one.

Nice attempt to shut down a legitimate argument... that's so 2020 Democratic playbook of you.

Well, the Democrats won in 2020, sooooooo...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly didn’t think this would be an issue, but out of the four people we’ve told, two of them have thrown some shade, in nuanced, passive aggressive ways. And for the record, they asked us about next year. We didn’t initiate.

You're imagining it. Or looking for it.
Who cares if our kids are in private school?!? Why would people be jealous about that? Insecure private school parents want to think that people are jealous, when in fact they're too busy with their own lives.

Says the public school parent trolling a PRIVATE SCHOOL forum. Get a life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly didn’t think this would be an issue, but out of the four people we’ve told, two of them have thrown some shade, in nuanced, passive aggressive ways. And for the record, they asked us about next year. We didn’t initiate.

You're imagining it. Or looking for it.
Who cares if our kids are in private school?!? Why would people be jealous about that? Insecure private school parents want to think that people are jealous, when in fact they're too busy with their own lives.

I assure you I was not imagining it. As I said, it caught me off guard as it was totally unexpected.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s FOMO. If you don’t know what it’s like or whether or not your kids would benefit, your going to wonder. So if there’s a possibility that there is something better, and a like-minded friend chooses to do it, it’s completely natural to second guess your decision to stay public, even momentarily, or give a defensive response. The reaction is even stronger if there’s no way you could afford it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly didn’t think this would be an issue, but out of the four people we’ve told, two of them have thrown some shade, in nuanced, passive aggressive ways. And for the record, they asked us about next year. We didn’t initiate.

You're imagining it. Or looking for it.
Who cares if our kids are in private school?!? Why would people be jealous about that? Insecure private school parents want to think that people are jealous, when in fact they're too busy with their own lives.

I assure you I was not imagining it. As I said, it caught me off guard as it was totally unexpected.

You're not imagining it. But look how fake these a-holes are. If they can, they would send their own to private or de facto private publics, see:

Joe Weedon wants permission to send his daughter to Walls
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/798345.page

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly didn’t think this would be an issue, but out of the four people we’ve told, two of them have thrown some shade, in nuanced, passive aggressive ways. And for the record, they asked us about next year. We didn’t initiate.

You're imagining it. Or looking for it.
Who cares if our kids are in private school?!? Why would people be jealous about that? Insecure private school parents want to think that people are jealous, when in fact they're too busy with their own lives.

Says the public school parent trolling a PRIVATE SCHOOL forum. Get a life.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I honestly didn’t think this would be an issue, but out of the four people we’ve told, two of them have thrown some shade, in nuanced, passive aggressive ways. And for the record, they asked us about next year. We didn’t initiate.

You're imagining it. Or looking for it.
Who cares if our kids are in private school?!? Why would people be jealous about that? Insecure private school parents want to think that people are jealous, when in fact they're too busy with their own lives.

I assure you I was not imagining it. As I said, it caught me off guard as it was totally unexpected.

You're not imagining it. But look how fake these a-holes are. If they can, they would send their own to private or de facto private publics, see:

Joe Weedon wants permission to send his daughter to Walls
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/798345.page

You don’t know much about Walls, huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Don’t hate me because I’m beautiful.”

Anybody else remember that commercial?

Actually, it was a shampoo commercial and the line was, " don't hate me because my HAIR is beautiful... get ( insert name of shampoo)

But, I digress. Sadly, its true that some people will just be envious. Envy is not a healthy emotion. Why be threatened by someone having more than you.

Better to see people for what they really are though ( not a friend) and good that you found out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:“Don’t hate me because I’m beautiful.”

Anybody else remember that commercial?

Actually, it was a shampoo commercial and the line was, " don't hate me because my HAIR is beautiful... get ( insert name of shampoo)

But, I digress. Sadly, its true that some people will just be envious. Envy is not a healthy emotion. Why be threatened by someone having more than you.

Better to see people for what they really are though ( not a friend) and good that you found out.

Actually, it was Pantene and it was Kelly LeBrock, and she did say “don’t hate me because I’m beautiful.” Know your 80s pop culture if you’re going to purport to correct someone on it.

This whole thread is inane (and yes I feel embarrassed that I’m even commenting). If you feel like people are jealous, you are probably projecting your insecurity about your decision. If your friends are throwing shade, they are likely insecure about their own decisions. Everyone just MYOB. Different kids have different needs. Once you realize that you stop trying to find jealousy or something to be jealous about.

[Anonymous]

Jealousy is pretty primal--hotter wife, richer husband, smarter and more athletic kids. It's perfectly reasonable to see friends getting jealous when you "upgrade" your kids to a better/ more prestigious school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We went through this a couple of times with both kids. There is jealousy and anger involved, especially if you tell them it is because of substandard MCPS.

We told people we wanted religious element in education and the satisfied them. But know that they are still steaming about it. One time I posted something on Facebook about common core and how I am glad my kids don't deal with it, and this rabid mom attacked me. She is one who asked my why I pulled my daughter out of MCPS before anyone. She also seemed happy to hear that it was religious reasons. But now she knows there are other benefits we enjoy and she is angry.

You can’t see how insulting their school choice would upset them?

I don’t see how exercising your right to choose —what you consider—a better school for your child is insulting.

My take is, it’s better to lose their phone number…only hang out with those who are happy for you.

Ugh. Private school isn't a right, it's a privilege.