People who treat servers rudely

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Anonymous wrote:Youre asking a community of very entitled boomers. Most of the people here are some of the most dysfunctional losers with miserable lives who prey on anyone they perceive as having less power to make themselves feel marginally better for a moment. It's pathetic.

That's what I'm saying, they're sort of done with life and have nothing else to entertain themselves with but harass a few minimum wage workers.

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Anonymous wrote:How exactly are you being treating rudely OP? Rude treatment to servers would be uncomfortable comments, raising voice, snapping fingers, calling out to you across the room, being aggressive. Not tipping you over 20% is not “rude”

OP here. I don't know where all these comments about not tipping me over 20% is rude, because my original post was complaining about how customers act rudely(as people) towards me regardless of the tip. Tip is another story, I don't care if you didn't tip me over 20%, we servers don't expect anything over 20% from you. That's on you if you want to tip over 20%, it's not rude if you don't.
What bothers me is when people don't tip or tip so low for service that I didn't sign up to do for 'free.' Here in America, don't come into a sit down restaurant if you can't afford to pay the tip as well. It's an implied cost that's however up to you to choose as long as it's adequate. If you're complaining about how the system is working in America right now, try dining out at European restaurants where servers get paid full wage, fortunately.

It's not about choosing another job. People have been paying tip, no one is pulling off a full-blast campaign against the tipping system, and this may or may not change in the long future. Millions of restaurants are already operating like this and probably won't change in your lifetime.

Ok, and again you are railing on about your tips and give no specifics about how people are being so rude to you. You sound entitled, but what’s new.

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Anonymous wrote:Youre asking a community of very entitled boomers. Most of the people here are some of the most dysfunctional losers with miserable lives who prey on anyone they perceive as having less power to make themselves feel marginally better for a moment. It's pathetic.

That's what I'm saying, they're sort of done with life and have nothing else to entertain themselves with but harass a few minimum wage workers.

No one is harassing anyone. This is just a big complain fest from
OP for not getting 20+ % tips for thinks she is entitled to.

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Anonymous wrote:Youre asking a community of very entitled boomers. Most of the people here are some of the most dysfunctional losers with miserable lives who prey on anyone they perceive as having less power to make themselves feel marginally better for a moment. It's pathetic.

Maybe you should start a gofundme to supplement your income

I have no need, I make bank and thank God 90% of my customers are millennials and GenZ. I LOVE not having to work for you old crinkled up losers. But I do feel for OP, because I'm sure it's hell dealing with miserable little dweebs like yourself.

Well of course. You and everyone else on DCUM “makes bank.” And are highly attractive, fit, with the smartest kids ever.

Not everyone is a loser like you, PP. Sorry your life turned out this way. Maybe you can go bully a minimum wage worker to make yourself feel better for 2 seconds. Oh well.

These are the POS's who've never worked a day in their life as a minimum wage worker and understand the struggles.

Wrong. Plenty of us have been servers and know it isn’t the hardest job on earth OP is making it out to be. Some people tip high, some don’t. But the vast majority of people, regardless of how they tip, aren’t harassing anyone or “rude”

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Anonymous wrote:How exactly are you being treating rudely OP? Rude treatment to servers would be uncomfortable comments, raising voice, snapping fingers, calling out to you across the room, being aggressive. Not tipping you over 20% is not “rude”

OP here. I don't know where all these comments about not tipping me over 20% is rude, because my original post was complaining about how customers act rudely(as people) towards me regardless of the tip. Tip is another story, I don't care if you didn't tip me over 20%, we servers don't expect anything over 20% from you. That's on you if you want to tip over 20%, it's not rude if you don't.
What bothers me is when people don't tip or tip so low for service that I didn't sign up to do for 'free.' Here in America, don't come into a sit down restaurant if you can't afford to pay the tip as well. It's an implied cost that's however up to you to choose as long as it's adequate. If you're complaining about how the system is working in America right now, try dining out at European restaurants where servers get paid full wage, fortunately.

It's not about choosing another job. People have been paying tip, no one is pulling off a full-blast campaign against the tipping system, and this may or may not change in the long future. Millions of restaurants are already operating like this and probably won't change in your lifetime.

These posters would be absolutely SHOOK by the table side service they’d receive in Europe. Sorry PPs they will not kiss your snooty a$$ there, their pay is not reliant on it.

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Anonymous wrote:Youre asking a community of very entitled boomers. Most of the people here are some of the most dysfunctional losers with miserable lives who prey on anyone they perceive as having less power to make themselves feel marginally better for a moment. It's pathetic.

Maybe you should start a gofundme to supplement your income

I have no need, I make bank and thank God 90% of my customers are millennials and GenZ. I LOVE not having to work for you old crinkled up losers. But I do feel for OP, because I'm sure it's hell dealing with miserable little dweebs like yourself.

Well of course. You and everyone else on DCUM “makes bank.” And are highly attractive, fit, with the smartest kids ever.

Not everyone is a loser like you, PP. Sorry your life turned out this way. Maybe you can go bully a minimum wage worker to make yourself feel better for 2 seconds. Oh well.

These are the POS's who've never worked a day in their life as a minimum wage worker and understand the struggles.

Wrong. Plenty of us have been servers and know it isn’t the hardest job on earth OP is making it out to be. Some people tip high, some don’t. But the vast majority of people, regardless of how they tip, aren’t harassing anyone or “rude”

Forget the church crowd, I once served at a sports bar that hosted Tennessee fans on sundays. Now those people were rude.

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Anonymous wrote:OP props for trying but you're not going to change the behavior of stubborn a'holes on DCUM who are rude to servers or who don't tip. There are many previous threads if you do a search. I think actually you'll find that you can make a pretty decent living as a server or bartender if you are good at it and work your way up to a fine dining place. You will also put up with minimal bullsh*t at those places because most intelligent, accomplished people don't want to appear to be morons when they are out in public. They generally appreciate good food and good service and don't whine about paying for it.

This thread went from why are people rude to servers to why don't some people tip appropriately. Neither topic will ever be resolved. Both are realities in the world of serving. As a server you have to accept this and don't let it affect how you do your job if you want to be successful.

Service can only be so good. It has a fairly moderate ceiling. Be accurate, be prompt, answer menu questions knowledgeably, that about sums it up. Short of giving your customers the heimleich maneuver, what exactly are you expecting a tip over 20% for doing? Just because people should feel badly for you that your hourly wage is poor?

It's about tipping adequately. You are never obliged to tip extra if you don't feel like it.

Tipping adequately is 15%. Good tip is 20%. Off the meal, not meal and tax. Anything more is a bonus. If you want a pure salary, get a job that pays a salary.

NP. Nope. Tipping standard is 20. Tipping well is 25. You are a cheap, old loser.

No... I think people were extra generous during COVID, but this creeping inflationary tipping has to stop.

Yes, it is, and that was the standard well before Covid, cheapo.

+1 Seriously, people. I’m 48 and have been tipping 20% for my entire tipping life. As does everyone I know at group dinners. It’s like all of OP’s customers flocked to this thread. How old are all you 15%ers?

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Anonymous wrote:How exactly are you being treating rudely OP? Rude treatment to servers would be uncomfortable comments, raising voice, snapping fingers, calling out to you across the room, being aggressive. Not tipping you over 20% is not “rude”

OP here. I don't know where all these comments about not tipping me over 20% is rude, because my original post was complaining about how customers act rudely(as people) towards me regardless of the tip. Tip is another story, I don't care if you didn't tip me over 20%, we servers don't expect anything over 20% from you. That's on you if you want to tip over 20%, it's not rude if you don't.
What bothers me is when people don't tip or tip so low for service that I didn't sign up to do for 'free.' Here in America, don't come into a sit down restaurant if you can't afford to pay the tip as well. It's an implied cost that's however up to you to choose as long as it's adequate. If you're complaining about how the system is working in America right now, try dining out at European restaurants where servers get paid full wage, fortunately.

It's not about choosing another job. People have been paying tip, no one is pulling off a full-blast campaign against the tipping system, and this may or may not change in the long future. Millions of restaurants are already operating like this and probably won't change in your lifetime.

Ok, and again you are railing on about your tips and give no specifics about how people are being so rude to you. You sound entitled, but what’s new.

I talked about tips because that's what PP was talking about. In terms of rudeness:

- People have yelled/snapped inappropriately when speaking in a calm voice to resolve their issues would have been the more adult thing to do
- Grabbing items from my hands
- Touching me, unasked for
- Speaking in a demanding, entitled way

You can clearly tell through their tone of voice. The same way you have encountered rude strangers, but I encounter rude strangers 10x more than the average person would. This job takes serious composure and social skills.

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Anonymous wrote:Youre asking a community of very entitled boomers. Most of the people here are some of the most dysfunctional losers with miserable lives who prey on anyone they perceive as having less power to make themselves feel marginally better for a moment. It's pathetic.

That's what I'm saying, they're sort of done with life and have nothing else to entertain themselves with but harass a few minimum wage workers.

No one is harassing anyone. This is just a big complain fest from
OP for not getting 20+ % tips for thinks she is entitled to.

OP here, He*

You can call it entitled, but I'm pretty you must feel entitled to your salary from how much you've worked too. You only deserve what you work for, no more no less.

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Anonymous wrote:Youre asking a community of very entitled boomers. Most of the people here are some of the most dysfunctional losers with miserable lives who prey on anyone they perceive as having less power to make themselves feel marginally better for a moment. It's pathetic.

Maybe you should start a gofundme to supplement your income

I have no need, I make bank and thank God 90% of my customers are millennials and GenZ. I LOVE not having to work for you old crinkled up losers. But I do feel for OP, because I'm sure it's hell dealing with miserable little dweebs like yourself.

Well of course. You and everyone else on DCUM “makes bank.” And are highly attractive, fit, with the smartest kids ever.

Not everyone is a loser like you, PP. Sorry your life turned out this way. Maybe you can go bully a minimum wage worker to make yourself feel better for 2 seconds. Oh well.

These are the POS's who've never worked a day in their life as a minimum wage worker and understand the struggles.

Wrong. Plenty of us have been servers and know it isn’t the hardest job on earth OP is making it out to be. Some people tip high, some don’t. But the vast majority of people, regardless of how they tip, aren’t harassing anyone or “rude”

Maybe some of us servers didn't get a easy customers like you did, lucky.
There's no shortages of rude people in DC and NOVA.

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Anonymous wrote:Youre asking a community of very entitled boomers. Most of the people here are some of the most dysfunctional losers with miserable lives who prey on anyone they perceive as having less power to make themselves feel marginally better for a moment. It's pathetic.

Maybe you should start a gofundme to supplement your income

I have no need, I make bank and thank God 90% of my customers are millennials and GenZ. I LOVE not having to work for you old crinkled up losers. But I do feel for OP, because I'm sure it's hell dealing with miserable little dweebs like yourself.

Well of course. You and everyone else on DCUM “makes bank.” And are highly attractive, fit, with the smartest kids ever.

Not everyone is a loser like you, PP. Sorry your life turned out this way. Maybe you can go bully a minimum wage worker to make yourself feel better for 2 seconds. Oh well.

These are the POS's who've never worked a day in their life as a minimum wage worker and understand the struggles.

Grown sports fans can be ruder than high school kids!
Wrong. Plenty of us have been servers and know it isn’t the hardest job on earth OP is making it out to be. Some people tip high, some don’t. But the vast majority of people, regardless of how they tip, aren’t harassing anyone or “rude”

Forget the church crowd, I once served at a sports bar that hosted Tennessee fans on sundays. Now those people were rude.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate that I have to tip the person that takes my order. All you did was write crap down. I want to tip the cook that actually made my food.

You are wholly ignorant. Restaurant crews all work in coordination from the kitchen to the front of the house. When you fail to tip your server the cooks suffer as well. Wow. What a boorish attitude. Please educate yourself on how compensation is done and don’t go out to eat if you continue stiffing employees.

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Anonymous wrote:Youre asking a community of very entitled boomers. Most of the people here are some of the most dysfunctional losers with miserable lives who prey on anyone they perceive as having less power to make themselves feel marginally better for a moment. It's pathetic.

That's what I'm saying, they're sort of done with life and have nothing else to entertain themselves with but harass a few minimum wage workers.

No one is harassing anyone. This is just a big complain fest from
OP for not getting 20+ % tips for thinks she is entitled to.

OP here, He*

You can call it entitled, but I'm pretty you must feel entitled to your salary from how much you've worked too. You only deserve what you work for, no more no less.

If someone grabs you, file a police report. That is unacceptable in any environment.

You aren’t entitled to a specific percentage in tips. Sorry if you took a job serving under that impression. But as you can see, it just isn’t so. People can and should tip as they want to. That is how tipping works. You are entitled to get at least minimal wage, if you aren’t, your boss is legally required to compensate.