No karma for OW

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Anonymous wrote:What karma are you hoping for your friend's husband, who actually had the affair?

Exactly, why are wives always focused on the other woman.

Easier than actually having to reflect on their poor choosing of a husband.

I thought they were both nasty lying whores. Both digesting human beings with zero integrity. They deserve one another. He sunk to his level.

^ disgusting. But, then of course, he wanted nothing to do with her when he was no longer married. She wasn’t good enough, a cheater. He would never trust a fellow cheater as a spouse. You can’t make this stuff up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Her husband will cheat on her. Most rich men do. That’s the karma I think you’re looking for, right?

She may not care, not every woman does. Many women have a pragmatic approach to marriage.

She also may have a prenup that states if he cheats she gets loads o money.

Pragmatic...or transactional?

You know what that makes them, right?

The point is she may not care if her husband cheats.

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

Stop ruminating, feeling guilty, and punishing yourself. That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and this was yours. It’s ok for you to be happy now.

+1. You’ve done your time. Who cares if the guy seems like he got off Scott-free. You never know, and in any event it’s out of your control. You only have one life. The time to start living it is now.

The OW is always a used piece of toilet paper that gets flushed when he’s done and she becomes boring/old news and annoying over time. The married dude always just gets on with life. It’s the way of the world which is why women are dumb as sh@t to hook up married men and think he’s a great guy and it is some rare special love. It’s an act. It’s just sex until he decides yiu fave become boring or are getting too needy and becoming a risk.

I'm just going to say you are a troll who gets off on calling women nasty names. Otherwse you need some psychological help.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Her husband will cheat on her. Most rich men do. That’s the karma I think you’re looking for, right?

She may not care, not every woman does. Many women have a pragmatic approach to marriage.

She also may have a prenup that states if he cheats she gets loads o money.

Most rich men are smart enough to avoid having that in their prenup. He has the leverage in forcing her to sign it since it’s his money. The prenup is to protect him, not her.

Whatever you need to tell yourself to not be upset about your husband cheating on you.

[Anonymous]

^ where is the nasty name? PP didn’t call her a slut or a whore.

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

Stop ruminating, feeling guilty, and punishing yourself. That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and this was yours. It’s ok for you to be happy now.

+1. You’ve done your time. Who cares if the guy seems like he got off Scott-free. You never know, and in any event it’s out of your control. You only have one life. The time to start living it is now.

The OW is always a used piece of toilet paper that gets flushed when he’s done and she becomes boring/old news and annoying over time. The married dude always just gets on with life. It’s the way of the world which is why women are dumb as sh@t to hook up married men and think he’s a great guy and it is some rare special love. It’s an act. It’s just sex until he decides yiu fave become boring or are getting too needy and becoming a risk.

I'm just going to say you are a troll who gets off on calling women nasty names. Otherwse you need some psychological help.

That poster speaks the truth. Some of these desperados should see that’s what married men really thinking them.

[Anonymous]

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

Stop ruminating, feeling guilty, and punishing yourself. That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and this was yours. It’s ok for you to be happy now.

+1. You’ve done your time. Who cares if the guy seems like he got off Scott-free. You never know, and in any event it’s out of your control. You only have one life. The time to start living it is now.

The OW is always a used piece of toilet paper that gets flushed when he’s done and she becomes boring/old news and annoying over time. The married dude always just gets on with life. It’s the way of the world which is why women are dumb as sh@t to hook up married men and think he’s a great guy and it is some rare special love. It’s an act. It’s just sex until he decides yiu fave become boring or are getting too needy and becoming a risk.

I'm just going to say you are a troll who gets off on calling women nasty names. Otherwse you need some psychological help.

That poster speaks the truth. Some of these desperados should see that’s what married men really thinking them.

Except it's not 100% truth it's something women who have been cheated on need to tell themselves

[Anonymous]

Some of the betrayed women on this thread are terrifying and I'm not surprised their marriages didn't work out

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of the betrayed women on this thread are terrifying and I'm not surprised their marriages didn't work out

+1

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

Stop ruminating, feeling guilty, and punishing yourself. That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and this was yours. It’s ok for you to be happy now.

+1. You’ve done your time. Who cares if the guy seems like he got off Scott-free. You never know, and in any event it’s out of your control. You only have one life. The time to start living it is now.

The OW is always a used piece of toilet paper that gets flushed when he’s done and she becomes boring/old news and annoying over time. The married dude always just gets on with life. It’s the way of the world which is why women are dumb as sh@t to hook up married men and think he’s a great guy and it is some rare special love. It’s an act. It’s just sex until he decides yiu fave become boring or are getting too needy and becoming a risk.

I'm just going to say you are a troll who gets off on calling women nasty names. Otherwse you need some psychological help.

That poster speaks the truth. Some of these desperados should see that’s what married men really thinking them.

Except it's not 100% truth it's something women who have been cheated on need to tell themselves

Every affair I’ve seen over the past decade has played out this way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of the betrayed women on this thread are terrifying and I'm not surprised their marriages didn't work out

I guess that’s why people shouldn’t f@@ck another woman’s husband. Yiu have no idea what she’s like or what will happen when she finds out.

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Off-topic ?:

These OW that repeat this mantra: if it wasn't me, it would have been someone else.

Do they realize how cheap that makes them seem? Do they say this to relieve themselves from any moral decency?

It is weird to categorize yourself this lowly. I didn't matter, it would have just been another woman opening her legs for your husband.

Also, it was YOU. It's like getting hit by a drunk driver and the drunk saying 'well, if it wasn't me that hit you, it would have been another drunk driver'.

They can't see the irony in that statement. I've always thought the same thing.

Omg. I always thought the same thing. They put themselves down when they say that.

[Anonymous]

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I think it’s weird to focus so much on the other woman. She has moved on with her life. In the grand scheme of things, her affair will barely be a footnote in her story. Don’t let it take up any more chapters of yours.

As a former OW who still ruminates on this 10 years later, you could not be more wrong. I think every day about what I did to his wife, how it ruined both of our integrity, and how it has alienated me from deeper relationships bc to this day I have never told anyone, and anyone decent who heard it would be disgusted. I can never express my remorse to his wife bc I was selfish enough to want it at the time. It radically changed my self image. I try to do more things that are better for others now because I don't believe in an afterlife. If anything it is him who has moved on the most -- kept his marriage, assets and reputation and no one was the wiser outside of his marriage, in which he was discovered and has been forgiven. I meanwhile am wandering the earth like Cain. For all the betrayed wives out there, all I can tell you is that it's at best a growth experience and at worst life-ruining for the OW -- as so many novels will tell you.

Stop ruminating, feeling guilty, and punishing yourself. That doesn’t help anyone. Everyone makes mistakes and this was yours. It’s ok for you to be happy now.

+1. You’ve done your time. Who cares if the guy seems like he got off Scott-free. You never know, and in any event it’s out of your control. You only have one life. The time to start living it is now.

The OW is always a used piece of toilet paper that gets flushed when he’s done and she becomes boring/old news and annoying over time. The married dude always just gets on with life. It’s the way of the world which is why women are dumb as sh@t to hook up married men and think he’s a great guy and it is some rare special love. It’s an act. It’s just sex until he decides yiu fave become boring or are getting too needy and becoming a risk.

I'm just going to say you are a troll who gets off on calling women nasty names. Otherwse you need some psychological help.

That poster speaks the truth. Some of these desperados should see that’s what married men really thinking them.

Except it's not 100% truth it's something women who have been cheated on need to tell themselves

Every affair I’ve seen over the past decade has played out this way.

Your personal experience is not enough to speak in absolutes.

And if these women are all the low things you call them, what does that say about your DH that he spent anytime with them?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of the betrayed women on this thread are terrifying and I'm not surprised their marriages didn't work out

I guess that’s why people shouldn’t f@@ck another woman’s husband. Yiu have no idea what she’s like or what will happen when she finds out.

Your husband shouldn't f@@ck women he's not married to, it's not that hard.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She needs to blame her husband not the OW. If it wasn't this woman, it would have been someone else. Husband is 100% to blame.

+1

Yeah that's been said 1,000 times. Yes, she was just a warm hole and any OW would suffice. She's not that special, it could have been anyone. She's the one that opened her legs easily.

Off-topic ?:

These OW that repeat this mantra: if it wasn't me, it would have been someone else.

Do they realize how cheap that makes them seem? Do they say this to relieve themselves from any moral decency?

It is weird to categorize yourself this lowly. I didn't matter, it would have just been another woman opening her legs for your husband.

Also, it was YOU. It's like getting hit by a drunk driver and the drunk saying 'well, if it wasn't me that hit you, it would have been another drunk driver'.

They can't see the irony in that statement. I've always thought the same thing.

Omg. I always thought the same thing. They put themselves down when they say that.

But, it was YOU. That’s what makes me shake my head. It’s ok in their mind because they are one of a ling line waiting to blow him. Wtf?!?!