Family drama over dog

[Anonymous]

Update- in laws want to meet half way between us at a dog-friendly hotel.

Two thoughts:
1) Isn't that going to cost more than a dog sitter? (Hell I would pay for the dog sitter)
2) It still becomes an issue because the dog can't be left alone. Therefore they are splitting time with with us while watching the dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update- in laws want to meet half way between us at a dog-friendly hotel.

Two thoughts:
1) Isn't that going to cost more than a dog sitter? (Hell I would pay for the dog sitter)
2) It still becomes an issue because the dog can't be left alone. Therefore they are splitting time with with us while watching the dog.

I'm 21:44. I would say no because it sounds like a pain/ will dictate your whole visit, but it's entirely your decision to make.
Maybe I missed why they can't board him somewhere?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update- in laws want to meet half way between us at a dog-friendly hotel.

Two thoughts:
1) Isn't that going to cost more than a dog sitter? (Hell I would pay for the dog sitter)
2) It still becomes an issue because the dog can't be left alone. Therefore they are splitting time with with us while watching the dog.

No, because of the pandemic. Hotels are shared spaces and you would be indoors, correct? Share a meal together inside too? Unless you can time it for a time when temperatures will be cool and dry, and the visit can be conducted outdoors on a patio, and you all eat outdoors, then no.

Who are these Covid-ignoring, allergy-ignoring, pet-prioritizing, fools??????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update- in laws want to meet half way between us at a dog-friendly hotel.

Two thoughts:
1) Isn't that going to cost more than a dog sitter? (Hell I would pay for the dog sitter)
2) It still becomes an issue because the dog can't be left alone. Therefore they are splitting time with with us while watching the dog.

No, because of the pandemic. Hotels are shared spaces and you would be indoors, correct? Share a meal together inside too? Unless you can time it for a time when temperatures will be cool and dry, and the visit can be conducted outdoors on a patio, and you all eat outdoors, then no.

Who are these Covid-ignoring, allergy-ignoring, pet-prioritizing, fools??????

I have a solution - you could do a day-time visit at a dog-friendly AirBnB they're going to rent. No Covid concerns. The dog can be managed better than at a hotel. Everyone's happy.

[Anonymous]

If you want to throw money at the problem, offering to pay for boarding is the way to do it. Meeting at a hotel in the middle seems like the worst of all worlds unless that location is particularly interesting or fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update- in laws want to meet half way between us at a dog-friendly hotel.

Two thoughts:
1) Isn't that going to cost more than a dog sitter? (Hell I would pay for the dog sitter)
2) It still becomes an issue because the dog can't be left alone. Therefore they are splitting time with with us while watching the dog.

I'm 21:44. I would say no because it sounds like a pain/ will dictate your whole visit, but it's entirely your decision to make.
Maybe I missed why they can't board him somewhere?

I don't know what the deal is with boarding / sitter, etc. My MIL says they can't afford a dog sitter. She says it can't stay with relatives because they have an invisible fence.

We have a strong feeling that this is an excuse. There is something up but no idea what the deal is. Anxiety projecting onto the dog?

[Anonymous]

Your DH should tell them "Well we have to exclude one of them. We either board Sparky or put Matthew in foster care. Which should we do?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your DH should tell them "Well we have to exclude one of them. We either board Sparky or put Matthew in foster care. Which should we do?"

Lol my MIL might pick the dog!

[Anonymous]

I recently visited my mom halfway across the country with my dog. She told me before that I’d have to board him while staying with her. It’s her house, her rules and we are both adults. They can board their dog. Allergies are more serious than keeping the dog off the hardwood floors.

[Anonymous]

People over dogs.

No dog. Bc you pick your son over the dog.

My DH has allergies and his mom is always pretending they don’t exist and wanting to bring her dogs over. NO.

[Anonymous]

Since one of them always stays behind with the dog anyway, why doesn't just one of them come to visit and the other stay home with the dog and then swap next time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a serious allergy issue or one manageable on medication? Is your husband on board with no dog? What would the longer term issues be - ie, would the residue be gone with them or linger for days or weeks? What are the long term ramifications with your in laws.

I can see their point about fairness and I can totally get not wanting to be inconvenienced. It’s a balancing act.

What is their point about fairness? It is completely fair for someone to decide they don’t want a dog in their home, regardless of the reason.

[Anonymous]

So... any other symptoms of dementia?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is the new dog hypoallergic?

No, not hypoallergenic

No dog is hypoallergenic. That said, I agree with 21:35 who said "The dog cannot come. This is non-negotiable. We'll miss you if you decide not to come." Guests do not decide, you decide.

This. Your dog may have less of the triggers by hypoallergenic is not a real thing. (All dogs shed hair, skin, saliva, etc.0.

That said, it's your house. If the dog is a trigger for your son's allergies and/or he is ill-mannered, then he can't come. They can get an Air BNB nearby with the dog or can get a pet sitter. I'm a HUGE dog lover but realize not everyone wants my dogs in their home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Update- in laws want to meet half way between us at a dog-friendly hotel.

Two thoughts:
1) Isn't that going to cost more than a dog sitter? (Hell I would pay for the dog sitter)
2) It still becomes an issue because the dog can't be left alone. Therefore they are splitting time with with us while watching the dog.

I'm 21:44. I would say no because it sounds like a pain/ will dictate your whole visit, but it's entirely your decision to make.
Maybe I missed why they can't board him somewhere?

I'm not sure you get to dictate whether they stay in a hotel. And how they babysit the dog. If their coming and not in your house, then your decision-making is over. They are not coming to the house. Yay. Now they can do what they want and you will need to deal with that.