Pretty angry. Women I’m supposed to be going out with in 5 hours just texted me this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Was this the first time you were supposed to go out?

Anyway, I get why you are upset OP. It sucks to get your hopes up and then have the rug pulled out from under you.

But, you just dodged a bullet dating her would have been a nightmare.

On to the next!

How would dating her have been a nightmare? She sounds like a good person.

Right? 3/4 people would just not show up to the date. Welcome to online dating in 2021.

She’s a decent person and apparently a keeper, per her ex.

[Anonymous]

She did not waste your time, she GAVE you time back. You are irrationally angry. IMO she dodged a bullet— and just to be clear, you OP are the bullet.

[Anonymous]

People have feelings. You would understand if she had to cancel because of some really bad news - she would not have been in the right frame of mind for a date. She is telling you, with as much advance notice as she apparently was able to give, that she is not in the right frame of mind for a date. She is being courteous in that she’d rather you do something enjoyable without her than potentially waste your time and money on a mediocre date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People have feelings. You would understand if she had to cancel because of some really bad news - she would not have been in the right frame of mind for a date. She is telling you, with as much advance notice as she apparently was able to give, that she is not in the right frame of mind for a date. She is being courteous in that she’d rather you do something enjoyable without her than potentially waste your time and money on a mediocre date.

OP would probably not be understanding if she called to cancel because of some really bad news. He would also assume that was intentional slight that was all about him and would be angry that she had "wasted" his time by cancelling.

[Anonymous]

Why are you angry? She's had something happen that makes her doubt dating someone new and she was honest about it.

[Anonymous]

Either you're mad that she cancelled, or you're mad about how she did it.

If she is allowed to cancel once she knows things will not go well, how was she supposed to do it and not make you mad?

If she's not allowed to cancel -- whoa, buddy. That's some serious messed up perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She did not waste your time, she GAVE you time back. You are irrationally angry. IMO she dodged a bullet— and just to be clear, you OP are the bullet.

All this. Your anger over this is big red flag. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Either you're mad that she cancelled, or you're mad about how she did it.

If she is allowed to cancel once she knows things will not go well, how was she supposed to do it and not make you mad?

If she's not allowed to cancel -- whoa, buddy. That's some serious messed up perspective.

The reason why I’m angry is because we had our first date over a month ago. Why didn’t she tell me this sooner?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is quite literally not wasting your time by being honest and canceling your date. Your frame of thinking for this is entirely wrong.

THIS

Yup

[Anonymous]

Dodged a bullet OP, and she's not sticking you with the bill for the date. Win win.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either you're mad that she cancelled, or you're mad about how she did it.

If she is allowed to cancel once she knows things will not go well, how was she supposed to do it and not make you mad?

If she's not allowed to cancel -- whoa, buddy. That's some serious messed up perspective.

The reason why I’m angry is because we had our first date over a month ago. Why didn’t she tell me this sooner?

Because she really WANTS to move on. She realized today that she isn’t ready.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is quite literally not wasting your time by being honest and canceling your date. Your frame of thinking for this is entirely wrong.

THIS

She saved you time dude. Say thanks and count your blessings.

[Anonymous]

OP, I get it. Ignore the folks on this thread. Honestly, she probably found something else to do that she like better and she used this excuse. There's the I have a stomach bug excuse too.

It's the world of online dating in DC. People are flakes here. If I online date, I agree to meet for morning or afternoon coffee while working. If they flake out, I just focus back on work. Weekends are not for online dating.

Lesson learned.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either you're mad that she cancelled, or you're mad about how she did it.

If she is allowed to cancel once she knows things will not go well, how was she supposed to do it and not make you mad?

If she's not allowed to cancel -- whoa, buddy. That's some serious messed up perspective.

The reason why I’m angry is because we had our first date over a month ago. Why didn’t she tell me this sooner?

Because she really WANTS to move on. She realized today that she isn’t ready.

Also maybe she dated you for a month and she's nit that into you. Stuff takes time. You really haven't dated someone for a month and realized it's not working for you?

No person is going to know someone is for them before they start dating. That's nit how it works.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Either you're mad that she cancelled, or you're mad about how she did it.

If she is allowed to cancel once she knows things will not go well, how was she supposed to do it and not make you mad?

If she's not allowed to cancel -- whoa, buddy. That's some serious messed up perspective.

The reason why I’m angry is because we had our first date over a month ago. Why didn’t she tell me this sooner?

So you had one date and you’re angry? You scare me OP. A lot can happen in a month. If you continue to date other people, you need to realize not everything is about you.