What do you do when you have a type but your type is not interested in you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you? What is your type?

30. Tall, skinny white guys, with dark hair, bonus if they have glasses the nerdier and more awkward they are the better. I don't restrict myself to this type. I accept dates from any guy that asks. Sometimes the dates go well and sometimes they don't. I generally allow for 2-3 dates before cutting it off if I'm not feeling it.

And what are you like?

I am brown, slightly above average height for a female at 5'7" thin ( 130 lbs), and nerdy myself.

Well this is sad.

Why is it sad?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are looking for nerdy guys, go find and join a group that they are in. I feel you will have a better shot starting out from friends than as a tinder candidate.

Excellent advice.

[Anonymous]

Is this question really about race? Are there interracial dating sites?

[Anonymous]

Join the NIH boating club.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, you’ve had bad luck. There’s a world of skinny nerds out there who would love to meet you. Get over to Reddit and see what you can find.

https://www.reddit.com/r/dating/comments/b40pff/nerd_dating_tips/

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you? What is your type?

30. Tall, skinny white guys, with dark hair, bonus if they have glasses the nerdier and more awkward they are the better. I don't restrict myself to this type. I accept dates from any guy that asks. Sometimes the dates go well and sometimes they don't. I generally allow for 2-3 dates before cutting it off if I'm not feeling it.

Lol when you see someone you are interested in ask them out…you know like men do?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you? What is your type?

30. Tall, skinny white guys, with dark hair, bonus if they have glasses the nerdier and more awkward they are the better. I don't restrict myself to this type. I accept dates from any guy that asks. Sometimes the dates go well and sometimes they don't. I generally allow for 2-3 dates before cutting it off if I'm not feeling it.

And what are you like?

I am brown, slightly above average height for a female at 5'7" thin ( 130 lbs), and nerdy myself.

So, I could have written something similar this myself at 30. Met my husband at 32. I had to online date for 7 years to meet him. In the meantime, I became my best version of myself. I tried fun classes so I’d have something to talk about on dates. ( think fencing, painting, cardio kickboxing, etc.) I volunteered for a cause I was passionate about. I cultivated a hobby I was good at. I went out with friends and always had them take a picture of me for social media/online dating. I wrote the year under my pics on my profile so guys would know that they were recent. (After 3 years or a major haircut, old pictures were taken off, even if they were amazing.) The constant stream of new pics helped me keep the profile attractive. I was using a dating service with scripted questions, so I spent about 15 minutes crafting an answer each new question, then saved the text to my email. If I got asked the same question again, I could cut and paste.


All of those years of wondering, searching, being last, fear of being alone were miserable. What I realized is that there was nothing wrong with me for being single. I just hadn’t found my nerdy guy, yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe your issue is that nerdy, awkward guys don't date much in general...

Yep. Many would like to, but feel insecure and/or shy.

Just watch for the "nice nerdy guys" who feel entitled to a woman's attention.

"I'm just a quiet nerdy guy who wants to meet a woman into the same things."

*meets girl like that*

"eLbOwS tOo PoInTY!"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you? What is your type?

30. Tall, skinny white guys, with dark hair, bonus if they have glasses the nerdier and more awkward they are the better. I don't restrict myself to this type. I accept dates from any guy that asks. Sometimes the dates go well and sometimes they don't. I generally allow for 2-3 dates before cutting it off if I'm not feeling it.

And what are you like?

I am brown, slightly above average height for a female at 5'7" thin ( 130 lbs), and nerdy myself.

So, I could have written something similar this myself at 30. Met my husband at 32. I had to online date for 7 years to meet him. In the meantime, I became my best version of myself. I tried fun classes so I’d have something to talk about on dates. ( think fencing, painting, cardio kickboxing, etc.) I volunteered for a cause I was passionate about. I cultivated a hobby I was good at. I went out with friends and always had them take a picture of me for social media/online dating. I wrote the year under my pics on my profile so guys would know that they were recent. (After 3 years or a major haircut, old pictures were taken off, even if they were amazing.) The constant stream of new pics helped me keep the profile attractive. I was using a dating service with scripted questions, so I spent about 15 minutes crafting an answer each new question, then saved the text to my email. If I got asked the same question again, I could cut and paste.


All of those years of wondering, searching, being last, fear of being alone were miserable. What I realized is that there was nothing wrong with me for being single. I just hadn’t found my nerdy guy, yet.

This. Work on yourself and being happy.

But also, what kind of guys do seem to be attracted to you OP? This information might help the board give you more specific advice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How old are you? What is your type?

30. Tall, skinny white guys, with dark hair, bonus if they have glasses the nerdier and more awkward they are the better. I don't restrict myself to this type. I accept dates from any guy that asks. Sometimes the dates go well and sometimes they don't. I generally allow for 2-3 dates before cutting it off if I'm not feeling it.

And what are you like?

I am brown, slightly above average height for a female at 5'7" thin ( 130 lbs), and nerdy myself.

So, I could have written something similar this myself at 30. Met my husband at 32. I had to online date for 7 years to meet him. In the meantime, I became my best version of myself. I tried fun classes so I’d have something to talk about on dates. ( think fencing, painting, cardio kickboxing, etc.) I volunteered for a cause I was passionate about. I cultivated a hobby I was good at. I went out with friends and always had them take a picture of me for social media/online dating. I wrote the year under my pics on my profile so guys would know that they were recent. (After 3 years or a major haircut, old pictures were taken off, even if they were amazing.) The constant stream of new pics helped me keep the profile attractive. I was using a dating service with scripted questions, so I spent about 15 minutes crafting an answer each new question, then saved the text to my email. If I got asked the same question again, I could cut and paste.


All of those years of wondering, searching, being last, fear of being alone were miserable. What I realized is that there was nothing wrong with me for being single. I just hadn’t found my nerdy guy, yet.

This. Work on yourself and being happy.

But also, what kind of guys do seem to be attracted to you OP? This information might help the board give you more specific advice.

Oh, I'm definitely not unhappy. I'm actually in the best place emotionally I think I have ever been in my life. and I do things that I like or am interested in regularly. So I'm not sitting around hoping for love or making finding love my entire purpose for existing. It's just this one area of my life that has not been settled. As for the guys that are into me., they are all different racial backgrounds, and fitness types, most of them are accountant or professor types but not nerdy, with the exception of one guy who I'm pretty sure was trying to be a rapper, but he was really more of a blip. We tend to have similar interests or at least what they claom to be interested in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Settle or die alone

+1 OP will die alone

[Anonymous]

I like young black guys with an attitude. Definitely my type. It’s not gonna happen though, and it sucks. I’m just not interested in anybody else.

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Anonymous wrote:Settle or die alone

+1 OP will die alone

Dudes, (and I know you’re dudes) cut this girl a break would ya? Save some of this for the posts that really deserve it. - signed a dude.

[Anonymous]

You get a different type!

[Anonymous]

I was interested in the tall, handsome old IBM types wearing crisp, white button down shirts. My husband is handsome but he is not the old IBM type. He is a very successful entrepreneur who hates wearing a tie or a suit but he will if I ask him to. What I learned is that requiring a type means you may miss out on all the fun and adventure.