How are you raising your kids?

[Anonymous]

You obviously have no kids.

[Anonymous]

Hi Bobby!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi Bobby!

Who is Bobby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

I'm curious. Which club are you with?

I am not going to say that for obvious reasons.
Look what happened below though. Instantly, someone came on and took a swipe at a coach.
If you don't like the coach, leave. It is really that simple.
If your child has a problem with the coach, he or she should address it with the coach before the parent gets involved. i realize that some children just can't do that, and in that case the parent should make contact, but what the parent SHOULDN'T do is regress to a junior high school level and come on here to do a hatchet job on somebody.
If you do that, you are a bad parent, plain and simple.
By the same token, if your kid loses a game, or gets cut by a team, or something in that vein and you race back here to badmouth not only the coach but also kids and their parents, you are still a bad parent but you have added on being a terrible person.
I will bet some of the people who in their petulant rages storm here to whine and moan are the same who would decry bullying of any sort and would stampede to the school if the slightest comment hurt their child's feelings.
It is people like this who keep our society in a constant state of turmoil and who unleash children onto the world who are unable to accept any reality other than their own. Sick

So What? You don't like it - you shouldn't come to the forum. What anyone says here won't change anything. All the coaches - including you - still have the same job for the same money and still act entitled! So why don't YOU leave? You are not the King of all things soccer and you don't get the only vote.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. In our years on the youth soccer scene in this area, I've seen such awful behavior from parents on the sidelines and on this forum. It is surreal how adults act when it comes to children playing sports. Honestly I don't think my childless friends would even believe half the crap i've seen.

I'm sure some of the grievances regarding coaches, administrative staff and others aired on this board are true but some of you should take it up directly with the person you have a problem with or just leave the club.

Ultimately the club begins to to members. Without the families there are no clubs. Rather than getting run out by the coaches the club should listen to the parents more.

+1. If there are numerous parents and players with grievances, the club should do something. Honestly really listen. Not send a minion here to disparage parents paying $$$$$ for soccer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

Loudoun gaslighting. Lol. Typical piece of Loudoun behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

I'm curious. Which club are you with?

I am not going to say that for obvious reasons.
Look what happened below though. Instantly, someone came on and took a swipe at a coach.
If you don't like the coach, leave. It is really that simple.
If your child has a problem with the coach, he or she should address it with the coach before the parent gets involved. i realize that some children just can't do that, and in that case the parent should make contact, but what the parent SHOULDN'T do is regress to a junior high school level and come on here to do a hatchet job on somebody.
If you do that, you are a bad parent, plain and simple.
By the same token, if your kid loses a game, or gets cut by a team, or something in that vein and you race back here to badmouth not only the coach but also kids and their parents, you are still a bad parent but you have added on being a terrible person.
I will bet some of the people who in their petulant rages storm here to whine and moan are the same who would decry bullying of any sort and would stampede to the school if the slightest comment hurt their child's feelings.
It is people like this who keep our society in a constant state of turmoil and who unleash children onto the world who are unable to accept any reality other than their own. Sick

So What? You don't like it - you shouldn't come to the forum. What anyone says here won't change anything. All the coaches - including you - still have the same job for the same money and still act entitled! So why don't YOU leave? You are not the King of all things soccer and you don't get the only vote.

I am happy that's why. I do have kids, and we raise them to handle their own business ( I realize someone else asked the question). I never said I was the King of all things soccer , and as far as I know nothing is up for a vote. I am just coming here to state the obvious: if you come here to badmouth a coach, you are a bad parent. If you come here to badmouth other children, you are a bad parent and a terrible person. If your child was a guitarist, and you had a guitar teacher you didn't like, what would you do? Would you badmouth them on an anonymous forum somewhere or would you just leave? The same should apply to soccer and coaching. Soccer has become a breeding ground for Karens and Kens with nothing better to do than to try to hurt someone ( even KIDS) because their little darling experiences something other than utter satisfaction. A lot of the posting here is good, but a lot of it also exhibits some of the worst American society has to offer.

[Anonymous]

Right back at ya!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

The parents got "caught" and then what? Grounded by you? Who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

The parents got "caught" and then what? Grounded by you? Who cares?

The parent got caught and the kid got kicked off the team. The kid pays for the parents' complete idiocy and grows up emulating that idiotic behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

I'm curious. Which club are you with?

I am not going to say that for obvious reasons.
Look what happened below though. Instantly, someone came on and took a swipe at a coach.
If you don't like the coach, leave. It is really that simple.
If your child has a problem with the coach, he or she should address it with the coach before the parent gets involved. i realize that some children just can't do that, and in that case the parent should make contact, but what the parent SHOULDN'T do is regress to a junior high school level and come on here to do a hatchet job on somebody.
If you do that, you are a bad parent, plain and simple.
By the same token, if your kid loses a game, or gets cut by a team, or something in that vein and you race back here to badmouth not only the coach but also kids and their parents, you are still a bad parent but you have added on being a terrible person.
I will bet some of the people who in their petulant rages storm here to whine and moan are the same who would decry bullying of any sort and would stampede to the school if the slightest comment hurt their child's feelings.
It is people like this who keep our society in a constant state of turmoil and who unleash children onto the world who are unable to accept any reality other than their own. Sick

So What? You don't like it - you shouldn't come to the forum. What anyone says here won't change anything. All the coaches - including you - still have the same job for the same money and still act entitled! So why don't YOU leave? You are not the King of all things soccer and you don't get the only vote.

I am happy that's why. I do have kids, and we raise them to handle their own business ( I realize someone else asked the question). I never said I was the King of all things soccer , and as far as I know nothing is up for a vote. I am just coming here to state the obvious: if you come here to badmouth a coach, you are a bad parent. If you come here to badmouth other children, you are a bad parent and a terrible person. If your child was a guitarist, and you had a guitar teacher you didn't like, what would you do? Would you badmouth them on an anonymous forum somewhere or would you just leave? The same should apply to soccer and coaching. Soccer has become a breeding ground for Karens and Kens with nothing better to do than to try to hurt someone ( even KIDS) because their little darling experiences something other than utter satisfaction. A lot of the posting here is good, but a lot of it also exhibits some of the worst American society has to offer.

Nah bruh. You gotsta post a review in a public place so the schmucks cant rook more suckers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only allegiance I want my coach to have is to winning.

I prefer a coach who despise talking to parents. All parents. No favorites. No politics.

Winning. That’s it

meh. nothing angers me more than a coach who hides behind the policy of talking to players only to avoid a difficult subject with a parent. This is a service industry in which the parents are the customers, not the players. Too often coaches do not have enough respect for parents. I agree that parents should not go off half cocked, and these few bad cases are very likely coloring the picture of all parents as lunatics, but coaches need to man up as well.
With regard to posts on DCUM, nobody, including coaches should take anything on here seriously. This forum is not real life, so coach ... lighten up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only allegiance I want my coach to have is to winning.

I prefer a coach who despise talking to parents. All parents. No favorites. No politics.

Winning. That’s it

That’s not it. Don’t worry about winning if players are developing, learning, growing. My favorite seasons are the 4-6-2 type of seasons, with a couple of butt kickings mixed in. Enough wins to not be demoralized, but plenty of opportunities to see where improvement is needed.

Losing mentality is becoming common place.

Losing is not developing. That’s a BS lie told to non-competitive parents.

Soccer parents seem to buy this line more than anyone else.

[Anonymous]

Yeah ease up, Simba.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only allegiance I want my coach to have is to winning.

I prefer a coach who despise talking to parents. All parents. No favorites. No politics.

Winning. That’s it

That’s not it. Don’t worry about winning if players are developing, learning, growing. My favorite seasons are the 4-6-2 type of seasons, with a couple of butt kickings mixed in. Enough wins to not be demoralized, but plenty of opportunities to see where improvement is needed.

Losing mentality is becoming common place.

Losing is not developing. That’s a BS lie told to non-competitive parents.

Soccer parents seem to buy this line more than anyone else.

You have no idea what you’re talking about. BTW, which clubs do your kids play for, club hopper?