Boyfriend judging my past - AITA or what to do?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He assumed because you didn’t tell him?

Yes. He knew about the friend but I didn’t mention that we saw each other because it was so infrequent.

He's not judging you for your past Aa you claim. You misrepresented your relationship with your ex.

And you’re revealing things about your current relationship to a man you used to bone while not in your bf’s company. He has good reason to be pissed.

This. I would be reevaluating things too because it seems shady. It's totally cool for exes to be friends but you need to be upfront about the nature of the relationship with your so, so if you're still hanging out with them and having tea meets ups you say so. You also never ever discuss details of your relationship with an ex.

Also that you have chosen to be dishonest in your thread title is very telling about how comfortable you are manipulating the truth to benefit you.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the comments. Going to discontinue the relationship with my friend. I don’t consider him an ex, more of a sexual fling that evolved into friendship.

Also, my boyfriend being upset isn’t my issue, I completely understand why. It’s the judgement sent my way along with the fact he doesn’t hold himself to the same standard as he maintains friendships with exes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the comments. Going to discontinue the relationship with my friend. I don’t consider him an ex, more of a sexual fling that evolved into friendship.

Also, my boyfriend being upset isn’t my issue, I completely understand why. It’s the judgement sent my way along with the fact he doesn’t hold himself to the same standard as he maintains friendships with exes.

That is not OK. Don’t change a relationship with your friends when he won’t do the same. Unequally yolked. Nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the comments. Going to discontinue the relationship with my friend. I don’t consider him an ex, more of a sexual fling that evolved into friendship.

Also, my boyfriend being upset isn’t my issue, I completely understand why. It’s the judgement sent my way along with the fact he doesn’t hold himself to the same standard as he maintains friendships with exes.

Oh, so you're meeting up with a sexual fling person or one night stand and misrepresented that too...even better

[Anonymous]

I think the way you described your relationship makes it sound exhausting

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the way you described your relationship makes it sound exhausting

Fair. Shouldn’t kept this in my head but thanks, All, for weighing in. DCUM never lets me down; good insights here.

[Anonymous]

Why would conversations about your pasts get heated and emotional? Sounds like unnecessary drama.

[Anonymous]

He is not judging your past, he is judging your current relationship with a past lover.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the comments. Going to discontinue the relationship with my friend. I don’t consider him an ex, more of a sexual fling that evolved into friendship.

Also, my boyfriend being upset isn’t my issue, I completely understand why. It’s the judgement sent my way along with the fact he doesn’t hold himself to the same standard as he maintains friendships with exes.

Oh, so you're meeting up with a sexual fling person or one night stand and misrepresented that too...even better

No, it wasn’t a one-night stand. Started 10+ years ago as a fling that evolved into friendship. Letting it all go because as a PP intoned, it’s exhausting.

[Anonymous]

What is AITA?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks for the comments. Going to discontinue the relationship with my friend. I don’t consider him an ex, more of a sexual fling that evolved into friendship.

Also, my boyfriend being upset isn’t my issue, I completely understand why. It’s the judgement sent my way along with the fact he doesn’t hold himself to the same standard as he maintains friendships with exes.

Is he mad that you have friendships with exes or is he mad that you lied about the nature of your friendship.?


Does he also have ex girlfriends and former hookup buddies that he meets regularly for lunch and tea and discusses your relationship with? This is a yes or no answer.

Were you or were you not aware of this ex-girlfriends and their meet ups? This is also a yes or no answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is AITA?

It's short for I know full well my behavior and actions are inappropriate, but I'm immature and don't want to take responsibility for them and how my actions are impacting my relationship, I'm going to blame my partner and post on the internet and have strangers tell me everything I'm doing is just fine, and if they don't I'll sockpuppet some favorable responses. A thing they do on Reddit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is AITA?

It's short for I know full well my behavior and actions are inappropriate, but I'm immature and don't want to take responsibility for them and how my actions are impacting my relationship, I'm going to blame my partner and post on the internet and have strangers tell me everything I'm doing is just fine, and if they don't I'll sockpuppet some favorable responses. A thing they do on Reddit.

...or “Am I the a******?”

[Anonymous]

People over 40 have LIVED. I don't think we (as a woman over 40 myself) tell a partner anything beyond engagements, marriages, and anything they NEED to know, like say ..."I was raped so please don't ever hold my wrists."

He's wrong and an asshole to do what he's doing. You were wrong to give so much info about your past. Dump this guy and don't do that again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is AITA?

It's short for I know full well my behavior and actions are inappropriate, but I'm immature and don't want to take responsibility for them and how my actions are impacting my relationship, I'm going to blame my partner and post on the internet and have strangers tell me everything I'm doing is just fine, and if they don't I'll sockpuppet some favorable responses. A thing they do on Reddit.

...or “Am I the a******?”

If you have to ask, you already know you are.