Went through husbands phone...entertaining other women
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Anonymous
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Classic gaslighting... textbook gaslighting. |
Anonymous
You know what you need to do. Best of luck. |
Anonymous
Do this... STAT. Even if you need to borrom money from a friend or relative to hire the PI, it's worth it! They'll do a deep dive on his social media presence, his calls & texts, when he has to "leave the house", you'll get it all. Then you'll know for sure... hire the PI, like now. |
Anonymous
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* borrow |
Anonymous
+1 And it’s effective enough that OP is asking if she’s overreacting, when what she is describing is just awful — to the point that I agree with PP, that OP’s DH isn’t going to change. He has a fundamental lack of integrity - he’s a dirtbag and he cannot he trusted. I just don’t think it’s worth fighting over, confronting or working through. I would absolutely divorce. It doesn’t even matter if he’s actually physically cheating or not. You can never trust him to have your back or any concern for your health or well-being. |
Anonymous
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And just to add...I don’t know if gathering evidence will help your case in court - although it could be helpful for you to keep in case you are ever tempted to go back. I’d divorce him without conflict or fanfare - it’s just not worth it. What you want is to get this guy out of your life. Keep it peaceful for the kids’ sake.
It doesn’t sound like your DH wants to be married, anyway. And your kids are small - this is the time to do it. The thing is, I imagine you’ve been dealing with his sh** for years, perhaps even before having kids with him. A dirtbag like this didn’t just show his true colors. So I imagine you will agree with me that you need to leave, with no intention of doing it. You’ll post here in a few months or a year with another horror tale, and again we’ll tell you to leave. It’s worth exploring in yourself what attracted you to someone entirely unworthy of you. I imagine my DD in this situation and it breaks my heart. I hope you find the courage to leave. |
Anonymous
| It’s giving Ashley from RHOP |
Anonymous
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Sounds almost as bad as a girl I know walking in on her fiancé with another woman. Not the first time he was caught...
He lied about the entire ordeal. She stayed, he bought her breast implants and had a massive wedding reception. Never see those two together with the two children. She’s off with other Moms in fantasy land, pretending her life is perfect. He takes boys trips and who knows what else. |
Anonymous
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OP you aren't overreacting and it is OK to be confused and upset and unsure of what is going on.
Try to look at the situation as if it it were your friend ... what would you tell her? Give yourself time to process and actually FEEL what you want. Don't necessarily listen to your head. What does your GUT say?? (this is where I get into trouble. My head says one thing, my gut says another ... my gut is almost always right) Be good to yourself. |
Anonymous
| Are you overreacting? Is this for real? NO, you are not. If it’s this bad and you are only two years in, don’t waste your time trying to salvage this. He’s never going to change, get your ducks in a row. |
Anonymous
| You say you’ve been married for two years and have two young children. Are they his? |
Anonymous
| Of course it’s cheating. Go to an attorney and get an std panel this week. You know you have to divorce. He don’t change. |
Anonymous
OP, not to pry to heavily in your personal life. Do you happen to live in Maryland? Think I know who this man is. |
Anonymous
Yup,they are his. |
Anonymous
All good! No, not in Maryland. What makes it sound familiar? |