Went through husbands phone...entertaining other women

[Anonymous]

You don’t need evidence if you saw it yourself. He’ll continue to hide and lie and just get better at it

[Anonymous]

I went through the same thing when my child was about 4, by the time he was 8 shit hit the fan, by 13 we were divorced. I wasted a lot of years trying to sort out my ex-husband's drama. Lots of gaslighting, blame shifting. One of the women he was communicating with when our son was 4 was the same one he left for.

Not saying you'll go through the same thing, but you've got enough red flags going on in your situation that should make you think about your options. Heavy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to leave him, OP. Before your kids start thinking his behavior is normal or you get an STD from him. Sorry.

Get copies of all the evidence now while you can.

+1 Agreed. He will not change.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:These are the dumb wives I don't get. Get some freakin' self-respect omg!

That’s not very helpful! I have self respect, but also have my two young children in mind. Prior to kids, I would’ve dipped and been on a beach somewhere to clear my mind. So I’m trying to figure this out and looking for advice, not to be chastised for coming on here.

You clearly don't have any self respect (or brain cells) if you can't figure out if you're over reacting to this or not.

definitely have felt in a daze and just living life in a routine. You’re right, I’m not over reacting. This shit ain’t cool, but don’t want to blow up my spot of how I enter his phone, before I can gather all my evidence. Took some videos before but it deleted from my iCloud.

What’s the best way to present it? Via a lawyer ?

I can tell you this right now. if you present it to him, he will totally gaslight you and blame you for looking through his phone in the first place (been there done that). I'm not saying NOT to do it, but just know what kind of response to expect. He's not just going to come clean about his bs. And btw, you can save it for lawyers, but courts really don't care about this kind of stuff. You think they will, but ultimately it means nothing.

[Anonymous]

You lost me at “transgender dating sites”.

Run!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

That sucks OP, but I think you know the right thing to do, and that's to leave him. Good luck.