How can I request cleaning help wear something more... modest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really not trying to body shame. For example, I don't care if someone is wearing a two piece bikini at the pool. But its a little weird for someone to wear something you would wear to the club while cleaning a house. I'm not talking about her wearing yoga pants and sleeveless tops, I'm talking about leather pants and such.

As a fellow Christian raised by extremely strict parents, I am asking you to have compassion on her. Cleaning ladies are very far from the top of the social ladder. I can, as a woman of color, understand that a person doing this work might feel the need to emphasize her femininity and attractiveness. Just this weekend the kids and I were reading in Matthew 7-8 about the criticism that the choice of Jesus to dine with known "publicans and sinners" attracted from others in the community. I would want to build trust with her and then -- if she is a young person who may not be fully aware of the impact her sartorial choices on potential employers and others -- gently raise the issue, not out of a wish to impose my standards on her but to cause reflect in a way that may ultimately help her achieve her life goals.

[Anonymous]

Why is everyone once again yelling at the OP? Oh right it's DCUM!

OP -- unfortunately I do agree with the majority of posters; you cannot ask her to dress more modestly.

I totally understand why it makes you uncomfortable and even if I didn't, I would respect your feelings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really not trying to body shame. For example, I don't care if someone is wearing a two piece bikini at the pool. But its a little weird for someone to wear something you would wear to the club while cleaning a house. I'm not talking about her wearing yoga pants and sleeveless tops, I'm talking about leather pants and such.

She wears leather pants to clean your house?

I can't imagine wearing leather pants while bent over a bathtub to scrub it, or mopping the floor. There is no "give" in leather, and cleaning involves a lot of squatting, bending over, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really not trying to body shame. For example, I don't care if someone is wearing a two piece bikini at the pool. But its a little weird for someone to wear something you would wear to the club while cleaning a house. I'm not talking about her wearing yoga pants and sleeveless tops, I'm talking about leather pants and such.

She wears leather pants to clean your house?

I can't imagine wearing leather pants while bent over a bathtub to scrub it, or mopping the floor. There is no "give" in leather, and cleaning involves a lot of squatting, bending over, etc.

Not sure if they’re leather but the pvc fabric that looks leathery. Usually the type people wear out clubbing or to a college party

[Anonymous]

OP, if she IS a good house cleaner in general then I would let her wear whatever she likes.

If she shows anything obscene & your family is around then that maybe an entirely different situation entirely.

🪣🧽🧺🧹🔑

[Anonymous]

OP she's cleaning. Those are her cleaning clothes. She's wearing what's comfortable. As long as her cleaning is well, leave her alone.

[Anonymous]

Cleanliness is next to Godliness

[Anonymous]

I think you choices are you can let her go and put u an ad for for you actually want or you can deal.

What are you afraid of?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really not trying to body shame. For example, I don't care if someone is wearing a two piece bikini at the pool. But its a little weird for someone to wear something you would wear to the club while cleaning a house. I'm not talking about her wearing yoga pants and sleeveless tops, I'm talking about leather pants and such.

She wears leather pants to clean your house?

I can't imagine wearing leather pants while bent over a bathtub to scrub it, or mopping the floor. There is no "give" in leather, and cleaning involves a lot of squatting, bending over, etc.

Not sure if they’re leather but the pvc fabric that looks leathery. Usually the type people wear out clubbing or to a college party

How does this specific fabric make clothing indecent? Leather or pvc isn’t see through.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really not trying to body shame. For example, I don't care if someone is wearing a two piece bikini at the pool. But its a little weird for someone to wear something you would wear to the club while cleaning a house. I'm not talking about her wearing yoga pants and sleeveless tops, I'm talking about leather pants and such.

As a fellow Christian raised by extremely strict parents, I am asking you to have compassion on her. Cleaning ladies are very far from the top of the social ladder. I can, as a woman of color, understand that a person doing this work might feel the need to emphasize her femininity and attractiveness. Just this weekend the kids and I were reading in Matthew 7-8 about the criticism that the choice of Jesus to dine with known "publicans and sinners" attracted from others in the community. I would want to build trust with her and then -- if she is a young person who may not be fully aware of the impact her sartorial choices on potential employers and others -- gently raise the issue, not out of a wish to impose my standards on her but to cause reflect in a way that may ultimately help her achieve her life goals.

Why are you assuming OP is Christian? Didn’t she just say conservative/religious?

[Anonymous]

judge not lest ye be judged

[Anonymous]

I would suggest putting it in the job description. Your house your rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is an incredibly inappropriate ask. Even if you ask her and she changes her clothing, she will know the colour of your soul.

+1 Wildly inappropriate. How is her choice of clothing hurting you?

I have worked with the same cleaning lady for a little over 15 years. We are about the same age (now late 40s), she worked out all the time for about 10 years that I knew of...and was in terrific shape - she also had a 20-something boyfriend. She was ripped for a while and all I could think was - Rock on!!

[Anonymous]

Tell her that in the New Year, everyone in your house will be wearing a burqa for COVID prevention and you will gladly buy hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm really not trying to body shame. For example, I don't care if someone is wearing a two piece bikini at the pool. But its a little weird for someone to wear something you would wear to the club while cleaning a house. I'm not talking about her wearing yoga pants and sleeveless tops, I'm talking about leather pants and such.

As a fellow Christian raised by extremely strict parents, I am asking you to have compassion on her. Cleaning ladies are very far from the top of the social ladder. I can, as a woman of color, understand that a person doing this work might feel the need to emphasize her femininity and attractiveness. Just this weekend the kids and I were reading in Matthew 7-8 about the criticism that the choice of Jesus to dine with known "publicans and sinners" attracted from others in the community. I would want to build trust with her and then -- if she is a young person who may not be fully aware of the impact her sartorial choices on potential employers and others -- gently raise the issue, not out of a wish to impose my standards on her but to cause reflect in a way that may ultimately help her achieve her life goals.

Why are you assuming OP is Christian? Didn’t she just say conservative/religious?

Not PP. There are very few religious groups in the US that feel like they have the social/political power to impose their modesty rules on people who aren't part of their religious tradition. Christians are one of them. Orthodox Jews living in specific predominantly Orthodox communities are another (look at female bikers being harassed in Williamsburg for an example).

Since we don't really have much of an Orthodox community in DC, it stands to reason that OP is Christian.