Talk sense into me

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Anonymous wrote:How did you come across this information? I think it might help you to create some boundaries in that area.

Op here. I did not seek this information out, and wish it did not make its way to me. I don’t keep tabs on this person through social media etc.

so how did you find out?

This. Are you still in touch with people who know him? Did you google him out of curiosity?

I heard from a friend who heard from a friend... there are loose connections still. But I don’t normally hear anything about him and don’t ask. It’a noteworthy news I guess

I suppose I think it's a pretty shitty friend who would bring up someone who broke my friend's heart no matter how long ago, I'd be very careful what I shared with this friend in the future because they seem like the type to fish for things and look for gossip to cause drama. I think I'd reconsider those relationships. As for what you do there's nothing for you to do. You focus on your happy life and don't give any more thought or energy to your ex, don't let hindsight fool you, he's an ex for a reason, and if it helps very few people with millions in their bank account have achieved it by being a really good person, usually they leave a trail of tears behind them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He dumped you. It's over.

No kidding, like I said it’s ancient history. Thanks for your helpful response. Your friends and family must seek out your counsel all the time!

They do, because I don't pussy foot around issues and I am blatantly honest. You said you wanted someone to talk sense into you. I framed your situation in a way that does so. After he dumped you, he should be dead to you. If he is dead to you, his situation has no bearing on you and you move along. You're welcome.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He dumped you. It's over.

No kidding, like I said it’s ancient history. Thanks for your helpful response. Your friends and family must seek out your counsel all the time!

DP. Face reality. It’s true. You were dumped. You weren’t what he was looking for...and less so now that you are old with baggage.

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

Above response is what you’re looking for OP. I would read that and think it over. Also, what are you expecting us to say? You describe being happily married to a good guy and having great kids. Occasional pining over an ex is normal, but you are doing so because this guy is rich; meaning your upper middle class life isn’t good enough? This is not a sympathy engendering post. I wish you luck, life can change on a dime. And it may be a cliché but be grateful for what you have.

[Anonymous]

Op you already know it doesn’t matter what his life like looks like. Don’t beat yourself up about it, just keep perspective about what is really important in your life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Reasons for ruminating:

-- even if you were a supermodel with an Ivy league pedigree, nobody likes getting dumped

-- there was never any closure - a talk about why it ended and what you meant to each other

-- you care about money a lot more than you admit. If he was in middle management, you might think once in a while, "I wonder what ever happened to Tom", but nothing like this

Reason for not ruminating:

-- you have no idea what this man is like today. If you are talking about great wealth, assuming he is a Silicon Valley type whose company went public.

-- if he is or has been married, you have no inkling of how he is as a husband.[/quote


I think you hit multiple nails on the head.

Thanks for the thoughtful responses. I think it was just a shock to hear, especially when I’m particularly stressed in my job and fantasizing about quitting to be a stay at home mom. And I’m embarrassed to be jealous about money bc I do know rationally i should be grateful for what I have, and that other person is a stranger to me at this point

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He dumped you. It's over.

No kidding, like I said it’s ancient history. Thanks for your helpful response. Your friends and family must seek out your counsel all the time!

DP. Face reality. It’s true. You were dumped. You weren’t what he was looking for...and less so now that you are old with baggage.

Not OP. You’re a bitter btch.

[Anonymous]

Will this help? My husband came into a lot of money--like never has to work again type money, and I couldn't be less happy in my marriage. I hate him. Trust me, money does not make happiness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He dumped you. It's over.

No kidding, like I said it’s ancient history. Thanks for your helpful response. Your friends and family must seek out your counsel all the time!

DP. Face reality. It’s true. You were dumped. You weren’t what he was looking for...and less so now that you are old with baggage.

Not OP. You’re a bitter btch.

And you don’t sound bitter at all!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He dumped you. It's over.

No kidding, like I said it’s ancient history. Thanks for your helpful response. Your friends and family must seek out your counsel all the time!

DP. Face reality. It’s true. You were dumped. You weren’t what he was looking for...and less so now that you are old with baggage.

Not OP. You’re a bitter btch.

She asked for 100% honesty. That’s what was given.

If the guy is rich now his options are endless. He could do much better than someone he didn’t even want when he was in his prime looks wise. He’s rich now.

[Anonymous]

Nothing is sadder than an old gold digger's regrets.

[Anonymous]

I’ll admit I would feel jealous too. Who wouldn’t?! He’s probably a huge douche now though so you can console yourself with that

[Anonymous]

Hey all you pps, shaming doesn't stop people from ruminating.

PP - find something else to occupy your mind and don't beat yourself up about this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nothing is sadder than an old gold digger's regrets.

Yep. She most likely treated him like a b@tch and thought she could do better in her youth (she said she made mistakes) now that he’s rich she suddenly is interested. In the words of the great Kanye West: “Now I won’t sayin’ she’s a gold digga, but she ain’t messin with no broke ...”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing is sadder than an old gold digger's regrets.

Yep. She most likely treated him like a b@tch and thought she could do better in her youth (she said she made mistakes) now that he’s rich she suddenly is interested. In the words of the great Kanye West: “Now I won’t sayin’ she’s a gold digga, but she ain’t messin with no broke ...”

*not sayin’