Why Why WHY is the burden always on the mother?!
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Anonymous
Huh? My husband doesn't act like this. Not while we were dating, engaged, first married, or now that we have kids. Gee, you think the same loser who didn't do his fair share or take responsibility while you were just dating will miraculously change? Or did you accept, work around, justify, ignore because you wanted a ring and a baby bump? Don't blame The Patriarchtph because you married a did. My husband isn't perfect, but he's an equal partner. The same can be said for 85% of the husbands and dads I know. And for the other 15%, we all saw from the start that you picked a loser. We grimaced, glanced aside and hoped you would wise up. Too bad you didn't. |
Anonymous
| Yes, women to get burdened with child rearing and housework. But let me tell you, take trip alone and let your husband figure out what to do with your son. He will eventually go to sleep. |
Anonymous
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I never say this, I promise (I try to be positive), but your husband sucks. What’s the point of being married? If you divorced, at least you’d get 50% time off, and you could have something of a balance life.
I raised 4 kids with my DH, and he was amazing. I want you to know that there are partners out there who can and will give 100% (I like to think we each gave 100%). I won’t give you’d details because I don’t want you to feel worse, but please understand what you’re experiencing is NOT okay. I’d tell my grown daughters the same thing if they asked. Hugs to you! |
Anonymous
Agree with this. I would raise hell |
Anonymous
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It's not. You married the wrong man. You have a husband problem, not a societal problem.
My husband would never do this. He wouldn't want to, first of all, but even if he did, I would put a stop to it pronto. |
Anonymous
| You married a man who doesn't see family as his first obligation, that's all. |
Anonymous
| Your fault for marrying him. This type of behavior doesn't pop up out of nowhere. Plus, you sound awful so good for him to get away. |
Anonymous
| Book an entire week at a local hotel. Let him deal with the fallout of doing bedtime badly. |
Anonymous
+ 1 It's not the patriarchy. It's the husband. He's a bad one. |
Anonymous
THIS |
Anonymous
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Why do you let him think that you are fine with him going out of town every weekend?
That's the first problem here. Either you give him the false impression that you are cool with it or he knows you aren't and doesn't care. |
Anonymous
Ok, thank you. That feels really good to hear. |
Anonymous
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You want this to be universal, A Woman's Lot in Life, The Patriarchy. It's not.
You would rather think that then face the painful reality that you married an irresponsible loser because you didn't want to be alone. You settled. Own it. You don't get to lump all men together and try to give my responsible, caring husband a bad name. You chose unwisely. Too bad for you. That doesn't make my imperfect, flawed, but ultimately equal-partner, good guy husband a loser like yours. Come to us talking about your personal reality, and we'll help you. Come to is with this men-are-bad fiction and we'll tell you to get lost. Your pick. |
Anonymous
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I'm a surrendered wife but you've taken it too far.
At bedtime. One day when he is home. Leave. Jyst leave. Don't give him time to protest. You need to run out. You'll come back 2 hours later. He will have survived. Make it a habit |
Anonymous
| This is a you problem. |