You've just revealed your own bias and cruelty. Don't be so sanctimonious about the maturity and professionalism of oldies. For generations, men dominated the workforce and could openly mistreat women. Was it mature for one of my older bosses to sexually harass me on a regular basis? |
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It no more suggests the speaker is an airhead than an Oxbridge English accent suggests the speaker is intelligent. |
You're not so "liberal" if you think women ought to adapt to the standards that men have created in the workforce in order to keep women down. Look up the numerous studies on how upspeak and uncertainty can actually move forward difficult conversations because not everyone in the room has to sound like a know-it-all. |
Get over it. |
Different man. If I'm working with a group of women on a project, I might switch to upspeak occasionally, just as I might speak a foreign language to colleagues abroad. I care too much about my vocal chords to do verbal fry. |
What are appropriate situations for uptalk?
It’s great to use uptalk when you want to make others feel safe in mostly one-on-one situations. For example, when you give feedback to a boss, a coworker, or a direct report and you don’t want them to freak out and shut off because of your comments. It’s important not to overuse uptalk even in the above situations. Utilize it just enough to reduce the resistance of others. When is it not appropriate to uptalk? You should avoid uptalking in almost all situations except in the above example of giving one-on-one feedback. Otherwise, your credibility might be at risk. |
I hate this too! |
Says who? Doesn't the research suggest that uptalk among colleagues can help keep a conversation flowing, in that the participants are signalling that they remain open to ideas and that a matter has not yet been settled? Of course, if one is making a presentation and presenting findings, that wouldn't necessarily be the best time to employ upspeak. But I'm not sure it's only valid in one-on-one settings. |
Sorry frog voice. I’m a Gen X woman and you’re the one with the vocal problem. You guys subsconciously think that it makes you sound intelligent and perhaps older, but it’s the opposite. |
I think you need to step back and see how condescending you sound. Do you really think you're helping women realize when their credibility might be at risk? |
Well it's hard to take anyone seriously when they say "frog voice" and "you guys." Maybe you think you sound clever, but it's the opposite. |
I have a male in my office that does it.
He also replies to emails that don't require a reply with elaborate "thank yous" and "have a wonderful day" type stuff in them. |
I'd agree with this except that it seems to be a uniquely American phenomenon. If you work in a global company, you don't encounter this speech pattern, which telegraphs hesitancy and uncertainty. |
+1 Another Gen X woman who thinks you sound dumb, PP. |