Why do some men look elsewhere when their wives are pregnant?

[Anonymous]

DH didn't look elsewhere, but I will say that his attraction for me went to ZERO when I was pregnant. I even thought I was a cute pregnant woman. Just my stomach grew and I glowed. He just wasn't attracted to me sexually. Still loved me a lot, but we basically became best friends for 9 months. No sex, not even once.

I think some of it is that instead of his hot wife, I was "mom" already. It happened with both pregnancies and then he was attracted to me after I gave birth and everything was back to normal.

[Anonymous]

Some men can't handle not being the center of attention/being catered to

[Anonymous]

I was cheated on with the 2nd baby.

My therapist said it was very common for 2nd pregnancies because they think they have you trapped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some men can't handle not being the center of attention/being catered to

this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Many times”? I think it’s unusual and sleazy.

Tom Brady and actress Bridgette Moynahan

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know of two guys who did this, too. One guy did it with both pregnancies!

Hey would the wife have another baby with him?!?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:“Many times”? I think it’s unusual and sleazy.

Tom Brady and actress Bridgette Moynahan

I believe they broke up before knowing she was pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think sometimes the couple was already on the rocks and the baby is a band-aid baby.

Or the baby is a surprise in an already sour relationship.

[Anonymous]

My dh messed around with someone else (not full blown sex or so he says) --the only time that he has in our marriage (or so he says)--and it happened when I was under tremendous stress at work and I was pregnant with our first. It turned out she had HPV and I had to tell the gyn I may have been exposed. Horrifically embarrasing. My guesses that this happens because 1) hormones might be making you crazy 2) prospect of kids signals the end of a certain kind of life 3) also signals that you will have to be with wife forever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dh messed around with someone else (not full blown sex or so he says) --the only time that he has in our marriage (or so he says)--and it happened when I was under tremendous stress at work and I was pregnant with our first. It turned out she had HPV and I had to tell the gyn I may have been exposed. Horrifically embarrasing. My guesses that this happens because 1) hormones might be making you crazy 2) prospect of kids signals the end of a certain kind of life 3) also signals that you will have to be with wife forever.

LOL

[Anonymous]

Men are dogs. Is this not clear? Are you under 40?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dh messed around with someone else (not full blown sex or so he says) --the only time that he has in our marriage (or so he says)--and it happened when I was under tremendous stress at work and I was pregnant with our first. It turned out she had HPV and I had to tell the gyn I may have been exposed. Horrifically embarrasing. My guesses that this happens because 1) hormones might be making you crazy 2) prospect of kids signals the end of a certain kind of life 3) also signals that you will have to be with wife forever.

Man, you picked a winner! Way to snag him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dh messed around with someone else (not full blown sex or so he says) --the only time that he has in our marriage (or so he says)--and it happened when I was under tremendous stress at work and I was pregnant with our first. It turned out she had HPV and I had to tell the gyn I may have been exposed. Horrifically embarrasing. My guesses that this happens because 1) hormones might be making you crazy 2) prospect of kids signals the end of a certain kind of life 3) also signals that you will have to be with wife forever.

MY guess is you have self-esteem issues if you believe you being crazy due to hormones caused him to cheat. And you stayed with him.

[Anonymous]

Pregnancy has nothing to do with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It does happen, but who really knows just how often it does.

Many do this OP because many women don't want sex during pregnancy, whether it's hormonal, sick/tired, etc... So, the men look elsewhere. They cannot not have sex for a while six to nine months. That would be unthinkable for them. It's pure selfishness.

I agree with everything above... EXCEPT for that last statement.
Men need sex! It's not a matter of selfishness at all. In fact, it's selfish to offer nothing at all (for many months at a time) AND expect a man to remain sexually faithful.