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DH might be cheating...need some perspective and IPhone tech info
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Anonymous
Agree with this too. |
Anonymous
| I'm another poster who is curious as to what an adult therapeutic ad is. Can anyone enlighten me? |
Anonymous
Massage parlors? I can't imagine looking at a Craigslist AD for a massage parlor would qualify as an escape. I agree, if he were looking at porn, okay. He's not being honest and he may be a porn addict or something. But Craigslist ads for sex therapies (ie paid sex)? That one smells fishy. |
Anonymous
| PP here...Please know that you did not "get what you deserve", OP. You're being lied to and likely cheated on. And the fact that you've been sincerely working on this issue in therapy by yourself is very upsetting. Please don't blame yourself and don't allow him to turn this around and make you feel like you're to blame. Best of luck to you. |
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NP here- so sorry this is happening OP. Don't say anything else to DH yet. Please contact an attorney experienced in the district you will file for divorce in should you decide to do that. ASAP.
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Anonymous
| Your instincts are right. He is obviously not being honest. So sorry you're going though this. |
Anonymous
Yep, this is right. Don't beat yourself up. Now is time to protect yourself (legally and physically b/c . . . ew) and decide whether -after knowing the full truth- you want to save your marriage. |
Anonymous
| Oh, and, I forgot to add: so sorry you are dealing with this. |
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Op here. Thank you for all the advice -- and not taking me to task for snooping. I knew deep down that he was lying and just needed confirmation. After a nasty phone conversation where he basically tried to deflect it onto me, I don't really know if I can believe anything he says. I've decided to go leave for a 2 days/1 night this weekend to spend some time with friends and think things over and given DH the option of either keeping DC with him or my taking him with me. I've also decided that we both need to go to counseling to work on this and other problems, if our marriage is going to have a chance of surviving.
The kind and supportive words on this thread remind me why DCUrbanMom is such a resource. |
Anonymous
| Good luck OP. I'm so sorry. |
Anonymous
| Sounds like you have a good plan of action, some time away is a great first step, as is counseling. Lots of strength to you, and good luck. |
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Be quick and quiet about your plans, OP! |
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PP here. Agree with other poster who said she spent too much time listening to "cockamamie" stories (LOL). You are exactly right. Also, turing it around and blaming you - another poster on here taught me that iscalled "gaslighting".
I hope you hire a PI and get the truth. And I'd hesitate to leave my DC with a person who is, in essence paying for sex with prostitutes. Not the kind of person I'd want watching my kids. It's a crime and may bar him from custody (I hope) if you can prove it. |
Anonymous
Totally agree, you should check the phone and get all the details.although I think he has deleted all the info by now... I was married to a cheater, he did the same thing and said the same lies and one day I woke up to find that he was asking for a divorce claiming he had met someone else!!!!!so be careful and keep your chin up! |
Anonymous
AT&T billing shows the text message numbers. You could go that route if he's deleting material. I am not one to snoop but this behavior sounds outrageous, and I am a man. I just don't understand this "look but don't call" craigslist fetish. If he wants to look at naked women and nothing else, then he would be going to porn. |