If you knew that someone used pot regularly...

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, if I also know them to be a responsible person. It is akin to drinking, in my opinion. Plenty of people who drink “regularly” are responsible.

I would not allow someone who drank daily to watch my child, either.

What are they self-medicating so often?

—grandchild of an alcoholic grandmother who allowed me to be abused while she got her afternoon G and T on.

I’m not really a drinker, but I know people who have a glass or two of wine each evening because they like the taste or it’s part of the wind down process. I don’t think drinking necessarily = getting drunk.

But doesn’t smoking or vaping pot = getting stoned every time? Why else do it?

I used to do it a lot, although I don’t at all anymore. I liked to do I before bed because it was relaxing and helped me sleep, in the same way that morning coffee is invigorating and helps me wake up. You have no idea how many daily users you know who are holding down professional jobs and raising families; it’s really common.

I’m married to one of them. He can perform his job, but he’s a shitty father when high. He might seem like a normal, functioning adult when sober. But lots goes on behind closed doors that you don’t know about. Impaired mental states are not conducive to good parenting. I would not want him to be the only parent home in the middle of the night in the event of a fire. That’s for sure.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, if I also know them to be a responsible person. It is akin to drinking, in my opinion. Plenty of people who drink “regularly” are responsible.

I would not allow someone who drank daily to watch my child, either.

What are they self-medicating so often?

—grandchild of an alcoholic grandmother who allowed me to be abused while she got her afternoon G and T on.

I’m not really a drinker, but I know people who have a glass or two of wine each evening because they like the taste or it’s part of the wind down process. I don’t think drinking necessarily = getting drunk.

But doesn’t smoking or vaping pot = getting stoned every time? Why else do it?

I used to do it a lot, although I don’t at all anymore. I liked to do I before bed because it was relaxing and helped me sleep, in the same way that morning coffee is invigorating and helps me wake up. You have no idea how many daily users you know who are holding down professional jobs and raising families; it’s really common.

OP here. This woman isn’t raising a family, isn’t a professional, and hasn’t had a job in years apart from occasional babysitting for us. I have discovered that she uses recreationally in more than just a sleep aid kind of way. What really gives me pause is her casual use of edibles in a setting that I find inappropriate.

[Anonymous]

I use medical marijuana but I do not use it if and when I am responsible for a child. Or driving. Same as drinking.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, if I also know them to be a responsible person. It is akin to drinking, in my opinion. Plenty of people who drink “regularly” are responsible.

I would not allow someone who drank daily to watch my child, either.

What are they self-medicating so often?

—grandchild of an alcoholic grandmother who allowed me to be abused while she got her afternoon G and T on.

I’m not really a drinker, but I know people who have a glass or two of wine each evening because they like the taste or it’s part of the wind down process. I don’t think drinking necessarily = getting drunk.

But doesn’t smoking or vaping pot = getting stoned every time? Why else do it?

I used to do it a lot, although I don’t at all anymore. I liked to do I before bed because it was relaxing and helped me sleep, in the same way that morning coffee is invigorating and helps me wake up. You have no idea how many daily users you know who are holding down professional jobs and raising families; it’s really common.

OP here. This woman isn’t raising a family, isn’t a professional, and hasn’t had a job in years apart from occasional babysitting for us. I have discovered that she uses recreationally in more than just a sleep aid kind of way. What really gives me pause is her casual use of edibles in a setting that I find inappropriate.

So, if she liked a glass of bourbon in dive bars so she could play pool, would you feel the same way?

Is she sober when she watches your child?

I don’t understand why people (who are likely paying peanuts) feel the need to people they employ for what they do in their spare time!

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, if I also know them to be a responsible person. It is akin to drinking, in my opinion. Plenty of people who drink “regularly” are responsible.

I would not allow someone who drank daily to watch my child, either.

What are they self-medicating so often?

—grandchild of an alcoholic grandmother who allowed me to be abused while she got her afternoon G and T on.

I’m not really a drinker, but I know people who have a glass or two of wine each evening because they like the taste or it’s part of the wind down process. I don’t think drinking necessarily = getting drunk.

But doesn’t smoking or vaping pot = getting stoned every time? Why else do it?

I used to do it a lot, although I don’t at all anymore. I liked to do I before bed because it was relaxing and helped me sleep, in the same way that morning coffee is invigorating and helps me wake up. You have no idea how many daily users you know who are holding down professional jobs and raising families; it’s really common.

OP is asking about occasional babysitting. Do you ever leave your kids with their dad? If so, then Apparently you think he’s responsible enough to do what OP is asking about l.

I’m married to one of them. He can perform his job, but he’s a shitty father when high. He might seem like a normal, functioning adult when sober. But lots goes on behind closed doors that you don’t know about. Impaired mental states are not conducive to good parenting. I would not want him to be the only parent home in the middle of the night in the event of a fire. That’s for sure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, if I also know them to be a responsible person. It is akin to drinking, in my opinion. Plenty of people who drink “regularly” are responsible.

I would not allow someone who drank daily to watch my child, either.

What are they self-medicating so often?

—grandchild of an alcoholic grandmother who allowed me to be abused while she got her afternoon G and T on.

I’m not really a drinker, but I know people who have a glass or two of wine each evening because they like the taste or it’s part of the wind down process. I don’t think drinking necessarily = getting drunk.

But doesn’t smoking or vaping pot = getting stoned every time? Why else do it?

I used to do it a lot, although I don’t at all anymore. I liked to do I before bed because it was relaxing and helped me sleep, in the same way that morning coffee is invigorating and helps me wake up. You have no idea how many daily users you know who are holding down professional jobs and raising families; it’s really common.

OP here. This woman isn’t raising a family, isn’t a professional, and hasn’t had a job in years apart from occasional babysitting for us. I have discovered that she uses recreationally in more than just a sleep aid kind of way. What really gives me pause is her casual use of edibles in a setting that I find inappropriate.

So, if she liked a glass of bourbon in dive bars so she could play pool, would you feel the same way?

Is she sober when she watches your child?

I don’t understand why people (who are likely paying peanuts) feel the need to people they employ for what they do in their spare time!

One glass of bourbon won’t get you FUBAR. Edibles will.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t if I thought there were any risk of them being high while watching my kids, but otherwise? Sure, why not.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, if I also know them to be a responsible person. It is akin to drinking, in my opinion. Plenty of people who drink “regularly” are responsible.

I would not allow someone who drank daily to watch my child, either.

What are they self-medicating so often?

—grandchild of an alcoholic grandmother who allowed me to be abused while she got her afternoon G and T on.

I’m not really a drinker, but I know people who have a glass or two of wine each evening because they like the taste or it’s part of the wind down process. I don’t think drinking necessarily = getting drunk.

But doesn’t smoking or vaping pot = getting stoned every time? Why else do it?

I used to do it a lot, although I don’t at all anymore. I liked to do I before bed because it was relaxing and helped me sleep, in the same way that morning coffee is invigorating and helps me wake up. You have no idea how many daily users you know who are holding down professional jobs and raising families; it’s really common.

OP is asking about occasional babysitting. Do you ever leave your kids with their dad? If so, then Apparently you think he’s responsible enough to do what OP is asking about l.

I’m married to one of them. He can perform his job, but he’s a shitty father when high. He might seem like a normal, functioning adult when sober. But lots goes on behind closed doors that you don’t know about. Impaired mental states are not conducive to good parenting. I would not want him to be the only parent home in the middle of the night in the event of a fire. That’s for sure.

No, I don’t leave them with him. He’s not allowed to drive either. All of you should thank me for that.

[Anonymous]

I have the occasional glass of wine with dinner but I don’t drink on the job. I wouldn’t care what she does on her own time but if I am paying for her time, she needs to be sober.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if I also know them to be a responsible person. It is akin to drinking, in my opinion. Plenty of people who drink “regularly” are responsible.

I would not allow someone who drank daily to watch my child, either.

What are they self-medicating so often?

—grandchild of an alcoholic grandmother who allowed me to be abused while she got her afternoon G and T on.

I’m not really a drinker, but I know people who have a glass or two of wine each evening because they like the taste or it’s part of the wind down process. I don’t think drinking necessarily = getting drunk.

But doesn’t smoking or vaping pot = getting stoned every time? Why else do it?

I used to do it a lot, although I don’t at all anymore. I liked to do I before bed because it was relaxing and helped me sleep, in the same way that morning coffee is invigorating and helps me wake up. You have no idea how many daily users you know who are holding down professional jobs and raising families; it’s really common.

OP here. This woman isn’t raising a family, isn’t a professional, and hasn’t had a job in years apart from occasional babysitting for us. I have discovered that she uses recreationally in more than just a sleep aid kind of way. What really gives me pause is her casual use of edibles in a setting that I find inappropriate.

So, if she liked a glass of bourbon in dive bars so she could play pool, would you feel the same way?

Is she sober when she watches your child?

I don’t understand why people (who are likely paying peanuts) feel the need to people they employ for what they do in their spare time!

One glass of bourbon won’t get you FUBAR. Edibles will.

Not necessarily true. It's all in the dose. I eat a 5mg gummy for sleep a few times a week and I'm just relaxed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, if I also know them to be a responsible person. It is akin to drinking, in my opinion. Plenty of people who drink “regularly” are responsible.

I would not allow someone who drank daily to watch my child, either.

What are they self-medicating so often?

—grandchild of an alcoholic grandmother who allowed me to be abused while she got her afternoon G and T on.

I’m not really a drinker, but I know people who have a glass or two of wine each evening because they like the taste or it’s part of the wind down process. I don’t think drinking necessarily = getting drunk.

But doesn’t smoking or vaping pot = getting stoned every time? Why else do it?

I used to do it a lot, although I don’t at all anymore. I liked to do I before bed because it was relaxing and helped me sleep, in the same way that morning coffee is invigorating and helps me wake up. You have no idea how many daily users you know who are holding down professional jobs and raising families; it’s really common.

OP is asking about occasional babysitting. Do you ever leave your kids with their dad? If so, then Apparently you think he’s responsible enough to do what OP is asking about l.

I’m married to one of them. He can perform his job, but he’s a shitty father when high. He might seem like a normal, functioning adult when sober. But lots goes on behind closed doors that you don’t know about. Impaired mental states are not conducive to good parenting. I would not want him to be the only parent home in the middle of the night in the event of a fire. That’s for sure.

No, I don’t leave them with him. He’s not allowed to drive either. All of you should thank me for that.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have the occasional glass of wine with dinner but I don’t drink on the job. I wouldn’t care what she does on her own time but if I am paying for her time, she needs to be sober.

OPs concern is that her babysitter does it on her own time.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, if I also know them to be a responsible person. It is akin to drinking, in my opinion. Plenty of people who drink “regularly” are responsible.

I would not allow someone who drank daily to watch my child, either.

What are they self-medicating so often?

—grandchild of an alcoholic grandmother who allowed me to be abused while she got her afternoon G and T on.

I’m not really a drinker, but I know people who have a glass or two of wine each evening because they like the taste or it’s part of the wind down process. I don’t think drinking necessarily = getting drunk.

But doesn’t smoking or vaping pot = getting stoned every time? Why else do it?

I used to do it a lot, although I don’t at all anymore. I liked to do I before bed because it was relaxing and helped me sleep, in the same way that morning coffee is invigorating and helps me wake up. You have no idea how many daily users you know who are holding down professional jobs and raising families; it’s really common.

OP here. This woman isn’t raising a family, isn’t a professional, and hasn’t had a job in years apart from occasional babysitting for us. I have discovered that she uses recreationally in more than just a sleep aid kind of way. What really gives me pause is her casual use of edibles in a setting that I find inappropriate.

So, if she liked a glass of bourbon in dive bars so she could play pool, would you feel the same way?

Is she sober when she watches your child?

I don’t understand why people (who are likely paying peanuts) feel the need to people they employ for what they do in their spare time!

One glass of bourbon won’t get you FUBAR. Edibles will.

Not necessarily true. It's all in the dose. I eat a 5mg gummy for sleep a few times a week and I'm just relaxed.

Gummies were banned where I live because so many children were eating them assuming they were candy. That’s yet another thing to worry about. Not just if your sitter is stoned, but is she bringing edibles or vape pens into the house where the kids could potentially find them?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, if I also know them to be a responsible person. It is akin to drinking, in my opinion. Plenty of people who drink “regularly” are responsible.

I would not allow someone who drank daily to watch my child, either.

What are they self-medicating so often?

—grandchild of an alcoholic grandmother who allowed me to be abused while she got her afternoon G and T on.

I’m not really a drinker, but I know people who have a glass or two of wine each evening because they like the taste or it’s part of the wind down process. I don’t think drinking necessarily = getting drunk.

But doesn’t smoking or vaping pot = getting stoned every time? Why else do it?

I used to do it a lot, although I don’t at all anymore. I liked to do I before bed because it was relaxing and helped me sleep, in the same way that morning coffee is invigorating and helps me wake up. You have no idea how many daily users you know who are holding down professional jobs and raising families; it’s really common.

OP is asking about occasional babysitting. Do you ever leave your kids with their dad? If so, then Apparently you think he’s responsible enough to do what OP is asking about l.

I’m married to one of them. He can perform his job, but he’s a shitty father when high. He might seem like a normal, functioning adult when sober. But lots goes on behind closed doors that you don’t know about. Impaired mental states are not conducive to good parenting. I would not want him to be the only parent home in the middle of the night in the event of a fire. That’s for sure.

No, I don’t leave them with him. He’s not allowed to drive either. All of you should thank me for that.

You never ever leave your kids with your husband? I don’t believe you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have the occasional glass of wine with dinner but I don’t drink on the job. I wouldn’t care what she does on her own time but if I am paying for her time, she needs to be sober.

OPs concern is that her babysitter does it on her own time.

OP here. No, that’s not my concern. She is a friend of a friend and I’ve always known she uses pot. My concern is her potentially showing up high. She has shown some really poor judgement recently in her substance use, using excessively in public. I’m concerned that her use has escalated recently and I think she has a real problem and vapes throughout the day. I’ve pretty much decided to let her go but I feel conflicted because I know her.