If you knew that someone used pot regularly...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have the occasional glass of wine with dinner but I don’t drink on the job. I wouldn’t care what she does on her own time but if I am paying for her time, she needs to be sober.

OPs concern is that her babysitter does it on her own time.

OP here. No, that’s not my concern. She is a friend of a friend and I’ve always known she uses pot. My concern is her potentially showing up high. She has shown some really poor judgement recently in her substance use, using excessively in public. I’m concerned that her use has escalated recently and I think she has a real problem and vapes throughout the day. I’ve pretty much decided to let her go but I feel conflicted because I know her.

I would be more concerned about the fact that she hasn't had a job outside of occasional babysitting in years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...including vaping or smoking almost daily, and occasional edible consumption, would you trust them to babysit your child?

No and I would not even want them around me. Same for smokers and heavy drinkers, which I define as having 3 or more drinks, beers, glasses of wine per day/evening.

[Anonymous]

No. I would not be comfortable with that person watching my kid. Using pot every day isn't "recreational" usage, either.

I once knew two people who had pot habits like that - one has never been able to hold down a job and is still relying heavily on family to support them (now early 60's) and one is dead.

Walking around spaced out and stoned is just no way to go through life. Trust your gut on this, Op.

[Anonymous]

You have no idea if she'll be clean when she watches your child so I'd just say no. If it were a close friend who you knew respected you and your child, I might say it's ok (I have a friend who sometimes drinks too much when she's out socializing, but who would never drink when watching my child). Friend of a friend, no, even if you hadn't observed the recent escalating behavior.

[Anonymous]

Nope, never, and I wouldn't be friends with someone who did.

[Anonymous]

How about Xanax or any number of other drugs?

Depends on the person and what I know about them and trust (or not).

Some of the myopic hypocrisy here is astounding but not really surprising on reflection.