So have we talked about this SAHM in Arlington Profile?

[Anonymous]

Honestly boring article. I wouldn't be friends with her because she just seems so plain not because she's a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she made it up to write her blog/article to make money. Never once has someone at a store asked me what I do. Bizarre.

I've been asked this more than a few times and it's probably because I'm dressed in casual clothes and going to the store with my kids in tow during the middle of the day. I didn't take offense to it.

I've been at home for 20 years now and I sometimes get asked if I work. If I say "no" then they'll ask if I'm retired. If I say "no" they then ask if I stay at home. Yep.

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Anonymous wrote:Ultimate hypocrisy. “The future is female” - so I’ll stay home while a man pays.

I had a lengthy conversation with a sahd yesterday. Feel better?

[/b]Was he at home with a son, a woman supporting them both, and crowing “the future is male!?”[b]

I’d say no different were that the case.

If you don’t see the irony in that quote from the article, I can’t help you.

Would love a response to the bolded.

[Anonymous]

I get asked if I have the day off all the time —
Nurses, dentists, cashiers...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think she made it up to write her blog/article to make money. Never once has someone at a store asked me what I do. Bizarre.

Ever wonder why bloggers have these interesting, remarkable (and blog worthy) interactions nearly daily? What are the odds?

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Anonymous wrote:I think she made it up to write her blog/article to make money. Never once has someone at a store asked me what I do. Bizarre.

I've been asked this more than a few times and it's probably because I'm dressed in casual clothes and going to the store with my kids in tow during the middle of the day. I didn't take offense to it.

I've been at home for 20 years now and I sometimes get asked if I work. If I say "no" then they'll ask if I'm retired. If I say "no" they then ask if I stay at home. Yep.

I've been home 10 years and never once ask it by a store employee. They were probably being friendly and making conversation.

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Anonymous wrote:I think, like a lot of people who post here, she's just way too inside her head. If she got out of her head, she'd realize her daughter doesn't give a shit about her being a role model, because her daughter is a baby.

If she went back to work, almost her entire salary would go to childcare.

Nobody cares that she's staying home. The cashier was just making conversation.

This just made me laugh out loud. I don’t really care whether she works or SAH, but this woman is going to have a loooong 18 years if she is reading this much into a throw away comment by a store cashier.

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Anonymous wrote:I think she made it up to write her blog/article to make money. Never once has someone at a store asked me what I do. Bizarre.

I've been asked this more than a few times and it's probably because I'm dressed in casual clothes and going to the store with my kids in tow during the middle of the day. I didn't take offense to it.

I've been at home for 20 years now and I sometimes get asked if I work. If I say "no" then they'll ask if I'm retired. If I say "no" they then ask if I stay at home. Yep.

I've been home 10 years and never once ask it by a store employee. They were probably being friendly and making conversation.

Yes, I don't take offense because I do think they are just being friendly and I really don't think that they mean anything by it. But I absolutely have been asked this question quite a few times over the years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think she made it up to write her blog/article to make money. Never once has someone at a store asked me what I do. Bizarre.

I've been asked this more than a few times and it's probably because I'm dressed in casual clothes and going to the store with my kids in tow during the middle of the day. I didn't take offense to it.

I've been at home for 20 years now and I sometimes get asked if I work. If I say "no" then they'll ask if I'm retired. If I say "no" they then ask if I stay at home. Yep.

I've been home 10 years and never once ask it by a store employee. They were probably being friendly and making conversation.

Yes, I don't take offense because I do think they are just being friendly and I really don't think that they mean anything by it. But I absolutely have been asked this question quite a few times over the years.

Is this a woman thing? I’m a dad, and dress super casual b/c of some medical issues, and often have odd hours for work so take kids to run errands or doctors appointments.

No one in 15 years have ever asked if I had the day off. Is it b/c they assume I work, and thus it is self evident I am taking the day off since I’m like not at work? I guess I just don’t believe this is a real question, like they say it with out thinking and zero interest in any response, at most. Or maybe just OP and PPs misunderstood what was said at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think she made it up to write her blog/article to make money. Never once has someone at a store asked me what I do. Bizarre.

I've been asked this more than a few times and it's probably because I'm dressed in casual clothes and going to the store with my kids in tow during the middle of the day. I didn't take offense to it.

I've been at home for 20 years now and I sometimes get asked if I work. If I say "no" then they'll ask if I'm retired. If I say "no" they then ask if I stay at home. Yep.

I've been home 10 years and never once ask it by a store employee. They were probably being friendly and making conversation.

Yes, I don't take offense because I do think they are just being friendly and I really don't think that they mean anything by it. But I absolutely have been asked this question quite a few times over the years.

Is this a woman thing? I’m a dad, and dress super casual b/c of some medical issues, and often have odd hours for work so take kids to run errands or doctors appointments.

No one in 15 years have ever asked if I had the day off. Is it b/c they assume I work, and thus it is self evident I am taking the day off since I’m like not at work? I guess I just don’t believe this is a real question, like they say it with out thinking and zero interest in any response, at most. Or maybe just OP and PPs misunderstood what was said at all.

I’m a working mom, but have flexible hours and regularly run errands mid day in casual clothes and take kids to doctors’ appointments, grocery store, etc. In nearly 5 years of being a mom, no one has ever asked me if I have the day off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember one time I was filling out a form for preschool and there was a space for Occupation of both parents. I wrote down my husband's name along with his job title. Without really thinking about it I put "Stay at home mom" next to my name.

The lady who took my form looked it over and said "Oh. You put 'Stay at home mom' under Occupation. How cute."

I guess I was supposed to leave that space blank or write "unemployed"? Maybe I should have written down my former job title - from the job I left to stay at home with my kids?

Yes, that's what a person with common sense would do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean first of all, Arlington is overflowing with SAHMs, how does she feel she is an outsider?

Second, the Costco cashier wasn’t asking ‘so what do you do’, I mean really??

Finally, do we think she has never read DCUM?

https://www.arlingtonmagazine.com/sowhat-do-you-do/

Not really.
My experience was that there was a contingent of moms who stayed home for a year or two and then went part time until preschool and then ramped up. By school age, I found a true stay at home mom who didn't work at all in some capacity - part time, freelance, full time, consultant - very rare.

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Anonymous wrote:I mean first of all, Arlington is overflowing with SAHMs, how does she feel she is an outsider?

Second, the Costco cashier wasn’t asking ‘so what do you do’, I mean really??

Finally, do we think she has never read DCUM?

https://www.arlingtonmagazine.com/sowhat-do-you-do/

Not really.
My experience was that there was a contingent of moms who stayed home for a year or two and then went part time until preschool and then ramped up. By school age, I found a true stay at home mom who didn't work at all in some capacity - part time, freelance, full time, consultant - very rare.

Ah yes the SAHM vanguard. “You got paid to write one article a month, how dare you claim to be a SAHM”

Hmm speaking of so was the author unpaid for this article in Arlington magazine?

But yeah LV, LP, all 22207 — hordes of moms in yoga gear at all hours. Though I don’t ask for tax returns so who the f knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I remember one time I was filling out a form for preschool and there was a space for Occupation of both parents. I wrote down my husband's name along with his job title. Without really thinking about it I put "Stay at home mom" next to my name.

The lady who took my form looked it over and said "Oh. You put 'Stay at home mom' under Occupation. How cute."

I guess I was supposed to leave that space blank or write "unemployed"? Maybe I should have written down my former job title - from the job I left to stay at home with my kids?

I usually write « First Wife »

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ultimate hypocrisy. “The future is female” - so I’ll stay home while a man pays.

I had a lengthy conversation with a sahd yesterday. Feel better?

Was he at home with a son, a woman supporting them both, and crowing “the future is male!?”

I’d say no different were that the case.

If you don’t see the irony in that quote from the article, I can’t help you.

When one person takes care of the children and homefront, that allows the partner to work, including travel, unfettered by childcare and other home-based concerns. There is huge value in that, and it’s the partnership that allows it. They are both supporting the entire family unit. No irony.

Unfettered by childcare? Oh honey. Some of us want a father for our kids, not a direct deposit.

I love you.