MIL response to DH cheating

[Anonymous]

FWIW, as a guy, I'd very much expect my mom to take my wife's side if I cheated on her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, as a guy, I'd very much expect my mom to take my wife's side if I cheated on her.

I'm going to guess that DH is similar to his father in some ways.

[Anonymous]

#1) get an IUD
#2) start you own bank account
#3) see a lawyer
#4) leave

Life is too short.

[Anonymous]

She said he's been cheating since practically the moment they met...
She said he cheated with both men and women on her...
She said has a bad drinking habit and has been abusive...
AND HER PRIMARY CONCERN is her mother-in-law's response.




Y'all are too hilarious I swear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's easier for her to blame you than her own son, as ridiculous as that may sound. That's her problem. I don't necessarily think you did anything wrong by telling her, but I do think it's naive to expect her to take your side. She doesn't want to hear anything more about it so don't talk to her any further about it and just steer clear.

Honestly, I'm not sure why you'd want to stay with your DH. It doesn't sound like he or his family are worth it.

I'm not sure if I'm going to stay. I am almost done with my degree and I have an infant and toddler. Once I am on my feet alone I will probably leave if it doesnt get better. So far it's still awful.

I'm sure it seems really overwhelming to leave, but look at the big picture and what's best for your kids. It's much easier to think "maybe it will get better" instead of acknowledging the reality of the situation. And it's better to formulate a plan and leave on your own terms than have him be the one to leave you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:FWIW, as a guy, I'd very much expect my mom to take my wife's side if I cheated on her.

I think that's how normal, healthy families would respond. Doesn't sound like OP's in-laws are like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She said he's been cheating since practically the moment they met...
She said he cheated with both men and women on her...
She said has a bad drinking habit and has been abusive...
AND HER PRIMARY CONCERN is her mother-in-law's response.




Y'all are too hilarious I swear.

OP here. Lol i can laugh at this...but like I said a few replies ago, I am probably leaving. At first DH was saying he was going to therapy, that he probably has bipolar...but he hasnt followed up on much. He has less outbursts and he is quick to apologize and more afraid of me leaving now, but thats about it. I want to leave, but i lost my job with the addition of my second child. I need to finish up my degree. And i need to make sure i dont regret leaving, i did want to give him at least a year.

[Anonymous]

She should be on your side but is probably conflicted and does not want to betray her son. That's why she's probably being cold.

However, you need to leave that abusive and cheating relationship. Get out now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's easier for her to blame you than her own son, as ridiculous as that may sound. That's her problem. I don't necessarily think you did anything wrong by telling her, but I do think it's naive to expect her to take your side. She doesn't want to hear anything more about it so don't talk to her any further about it and just steer clear.

Honestly, I'm not sure why you'd want to stay with your DH. It doesn't sound like he or his family are worth it.

I'm not sure if I'm going to stay. I am almost done with my degree and I have an infant and toddler. Once I am on my feet alone I will probably leave if it doesnt get better. So far it's still awful.

I'm sure it seems really overwhelming to leave, but look at the big picture and what's best for your kids. It's much easier to think "maybe it will get better" instead of acknowledging the reality of the situation. And it's better to formulate a plan and leave on your own terms than have him be the one to leave you.

Op here, thanks for this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She’s his mother. Your mistake was expecting her to take your side. You told her of the cheating, expecting her support, and then took him back. Honestly, that’s on you.

She’s probably horrified by the whole thing and wants nothing to do with either of you.

+1

She will in all likelihood always have his back, and not yours.

[Anonymous]

If you didn’t already, please get tested for STDs.

[Anonymous]

You're, what, 27? No degree, no job, 2 kids? Yikes.

[Anonymous]

You need counseling , you are married to a serial cheater and abuser and your focus is his crazy ass momma.
Get yourself together and focus on getting to a healthy place for you and your kids. That man is taking your health in bus hands and some strangers dirty behind mouth.
Get
Thee
To Therapy.
STAT!

[Anonymous]

Your husband is garbage and she raised him. It is pretty likely that she is trashy too.

[Anonymous]

You had no business telling your MIL private things about you and your husband. It is not her business. Yes, you are stupid for taking him back.