Why Should We Get Upset if Our Child Curses?

[Anonymous]

Lack of self-discipline, lack of respect for you.

I don't cuss in front of them, either. Took real effort to stop doing it in the car.

[Anonymous]

It’s disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You get to decide. It’s up to you. I don’t like it because it gives off an impression of ignorance, classlessness and disrespect —things I believe are all lost on today’s youth.

Lead by example. If you swear, they’re going to swear. If you don’t swear, they still might try it (kids on the school bus and at school, WOW) but if you tell them to stop, they’ll respect you and stop, as long as you practice what you preach.

In addition, no calling adults by their first name. Mr/Mrs/Ms to everyone. Whenever I refer to one of their friend’s parents, I always say “Mr/Mrs/Ms” so-and-so. It helps build the habit.

This is completely bizarre. Are you living in 1950? My kid calls their teachers by their first names. The students at her school are the most kind and respectful kids I have ever encountered - even the middle-schoolers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get to decide. It’s up to you. I don’t like it because it gives off an impression of ignorance, classlessness and disrespect —things I believe are all lost on today’s youth.

Lead by example. If you swear, they’re going to swear. If you don’t swear, they still might try it (kids on the school bus and at school, WOW) but if you tell them to stop, they’ll respect you and stop, as long as you practice what you preach.

In addition, no calling adults by their first name. Mr/Mrs/Ms to everyone. Whenever I refer to one of their friend’s parents, I always say “Mr/Mrs/Ms” so-and-so. It helps build the habit.

This is completely bizarre. Are you living in 1950? My kid calls their teachers by their first names. The students at her school are the most kind and respectful kids I have ever encountered - even the middle-schoolers.

No, because your children will go out into the world and behave inappropriately in a number of settings. My children do not call their teachers by their first name and especially not at college (a subject of a long thread here). And they know when to say thank you and when to send a thank you note. And NO, we've checked them on swearing so they don't offend others in the workplace. There are a hundred other places you can yell "jesuschrist" but not in the workplace. Teach your children the rules.

[Anonymous]

Not in the family setting, no matter the age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You get to decide. It’s up to you. I don’t like it because it gives off an impression of ignorance, classlessness and disrespect —things I believe are all lost on today’s youth.

Lead by example. If you swear, they’re going to swear. If you don’t swear, they still might try it (kids on the school bus and at school, WOW) but if you tell them to stop, they’ll respect you and stop, as long as you practice what you preach.

In addition, no calling adults by their first name. Mr/Mrs/Ms to everyone. Whenever I refer to one of their friend’s parents, I always say “Mr/Mrs/Ms” so-and-so. It helps build the habit.


Make sure the parents WANT to be called Mrs. So and so or Mr. Some people like to be called by their first names!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get to decide. It’s up to you. I don’t like it because it gives off an impression of ignorance, classlessness and disrespect —things I believe are all lost on today’s youth.

Lead by example. If you swear, they’re going to swear. If you don’t swear, they still might try it (kids on the school bus and at school, WOW) but if you tell them to stop, they’ll respect you and stop, as long as you practice what you preach.

In addition, no calling adults by their first name. Mr/Mrs/Ms to everyone. Whenever I refer to one of their friend’s parents, I always say “Mr/Mrs/Ms” so-and-so. It helps build the habit.

This is completely bizarre. Are you living in 1950? My kid calls their teachers by their first names. The students at her school are the most kind and respectful kids I have ever encountered - even the middle-schoolers.

OP of this thread - I would prefer to be called Emily. Not Ms. Doe. NOT Miss Emily

Can you respect my choice to be called Emily by everyone including your children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get to decide. It’s up to you. I don’t like it because it gives off an impression of ignorance, classlessness and disrespect —things I believe are all lost on today’s youth.

Lead by example. If you swear, they’re going to swear. If you don’t swear, they still might try it (kids on the school bus and at school, WOW) but if you tell them to stop, they’ll respect you and stop, as long as you practice what you preach.

In addition, no calling adults by their first name. Mr/Mrs/Ms to everyone. Whenever I refer to one of their friend’s parents, I always say “Mr/Mrs/Ms” so-and-so. It helps build the habit.

This is completely bizarre. Are you living in 1950? My kid calls their teachers by their first names. The students at her school are the most kind and respectful kids I have ever encountered - even the middle-schoolers.

No, because your children will go out into the world and behave inappropriately in a number of settings. My children do not call their teachers by their first name and especially not at college (a subject of a long thread here). And they know when to say thank you and when to send a thank you note. And NO, we've checked them on swearing so they don't offend others in the workplace. There are a hundred other places you can yell "jesuschrist" but not in the workplace. Teach your children the rules.

X1000 I can’t begin to imagine how obnoxious pps kids are. If any of them tried to call me by my first name without asking first, they would be ignored or avoided.

None of the kids I know from 1st through college call their teachers/professors their first names unless told they can do so.

So extremely rude.

[Anonymous]

It’s me DH and 11 yo DD. we curse like sailors at home/in the car. She said, and I agree, are they building another F-ing Starbucks???

I promise if her teachers or coaches or friends parents heard her they’d fall over from shock

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get to decide. It’s up to you. I don’t like it because it gives off an impression of ignorance, classlessness and disrespect —things I believe are all lost on today’s youth.

Lead by example. If you swear, they’re going to swear. If you don’t swear, they still might try it (kids on the school bus and at school, WOW) but if you tell them to stop, they’ll respect you and stop, as long as you practice what you preach.

In addition, no calling adults by their first name. Mr/Mrs/Ms to everyone. Whenever I refer to one of their friend’s parents, I always say “Mr/Mrs/Ms” so-and-so. It helps build the habit.

This is completely bizarre. Are you living in 1950? My kid calls their teachers by their first names. The students at her school are the most kind and respectful kids I have ever encountered - even the middle-schoolers.

OP of this thread - I would prefer to be called Emily. Not Ms. Doe. NOT Miss Emily

Can you respect my choice to be called Emily by everyone including your children?

Nope, I am a professor. I expect to be called by my title. You are not helping your children and friends by calling you by your first name. My children are not allowed to do that to anyone. And once they are in the habit they will do it at school and embarrass themselves. There are etiquette rules. Get a book;. There are a lot made for children as well. Show some respect

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get to decide. It’s up to you. I don’t like it because it gives off an impression of ignorance, classlessness and disrespect —things I believe are all lost on today’s youth.

Lead by example. If you swear, they’re going to swear. If you don’t swear, they still might try it (kids on the school bus and at school, WOW) but if you tell them to stop, they’ll respect you and stop, as long as you practice what you preach.

In addition, no calling adults by their first name. Mr/Mrs/Ms to everyone. Whenever I refer to one of their friend’s parents, I always say “Mr/Mrs/Ms” so-and-so. It helps build the habit.

This is completely bizarre. Are you living in 1950? My kid calls their teachers by their first names. The students at her school are the most kind and respectful kids I have ever encountered - even the middle-schoolers.

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OP of this thread - I would prefer to be called Emily. Not Ms. Doe. NOT Miss Emily

Can you respect my choice to be called Emily by everyone including your children?

Nope, I am a professor. I expect to be called by my title. You are not helping your children and friends by calling you by your first name. My children are not allowed to do that to anyone. And once they are in the habit they will do it at school and embarrass themselves. There are etiquette rules. Get a book;. There are a lot made for children as well. Show some respect

I am a grown up woman with a masters degree. Which is the terminal degree for my industry.

I want to be called Emily because that is my name it makes me uncomfortable for people to call me Miss Emily or Miss Doe. It would be uncouth for people to continue to call me something that I have told them I do not prefer

[Anonymous]

I don’t care about “curse words”. However true hateful words - words that demean a person’s religion, sexual preference or nationality, or (the worst) disability get severely punished. Ex: Use the word “retard” and you are grounded without screens for two weeks. Use the word f*ck and I turn a deaf ear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t care about “curse words”. However true hateful words - words that demean a person’s religion, sexual preference or nationality, or (the worst) disability get severely punished. Ex: Use the word “retard” and you are grounded without screens for two weeks. Use the word f*ck and I turn a deaf ear.

Just pointing out that you are using ableist language here, despite your professed intolerance of words that could demean a person’s abilities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You get to decide. It’s up to you. I don’t like it because it gives off an impression of ignorance, classlessness and disrespect —things I believe are all lost on today’s youth.

Lead by example. If you swear, they’re going to swear. If you don’t swear, they still might try it (kids on the school bus and at school, WOW) but if you tell them to stop, they’ll respect you and stop, as long as you practice what you preach.

In addition, no calling adults by their first name. Mr/Mrs/Ms to everyone. Whenever I refer to one of their friend’s parents, I always say “Mr/Mrs/Ms” so-and-so. It helps build the habit.

I think it’s really sweet that you think kids will always do what they’re told.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You get to decide. It’s up to you. I don’t like it because it gives off an impression of ignorance, classlessness and disrespect —things I believe are all lost on today’s youth.

Lead by example. If you swear, they’re going to swear. If you don’t swear, they still might try it (kids on the school bus and at school, WOW) but if you tell them to stop, they’ll respect you and stop, as long as you practice what you preach.

In addition, no calling adults by their first name. Mr/Mrs/Ms to everyone. Whenever I refer to one of their friend’s parents, I always say “Mr/Mrs/Ms” so-and-so. It helps build the habit.

This is completely bizarre. Are you living in 1950? My kid calls their teachers by their first names. The students at her school are the most kind and respectful kids I have ever encountered - even the middle-schoolers.

OP of this thread - I would prefer to be called Emily. Not Ms. Doe. NOT Miss Emily

Can you respect my choice to be called Emily by everyone including your children?

Nope, I am a professor. I expect to be called by my title. You are not helping your children and friends by calling you by your first name. My children are not allowed to do that to anyone. And once they are in the habit they will do it at school and embarrass themselves. There are etiquette rules. Get a book;. There are a lot made for children as well. Show some respect

So insufferable. Respect is doing people the courtesy of calling them what they want to be called. It’s fine to start with the more formal, but you should adapt to people’s preferences.