Why Should We Get Upset if Our Child Curses?

[Anonymous]

With a 9 and 7 year old, I'm fine with mild swearing. I no longer invite the 9 year old friends over who keep on using the f word.

[Anonymous]

As other PPs have said, I don't really care that much but it is just bad manners to go around swearing all the time. Part of growing up is learning that its fine to swear around friends and intimate partners but that if you're doing it at work no one is that impressed (industry dependent I guess?) and if you swear at the Starbucks barista its just not polite.

So I correct them a lot to teach them that it is a type of language they need to understand isn't for all company and they need to learn how to filter it out until its appropriate.

So if I overheard them saying it as friends I wouldn't say anything, but if they said it in a store or to me I'd correct to drive this home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t care about “curse words”. However true hateful words - words that demean a person’s religion, sexual preference or nationality, or (the worst) disability get severely punished. Ex: Use the word “retard” and you are grounded without screens for two weeks. Use the word f*ck and I turn a deaf ear.

Just pointing out that you are using ableist language here, despite your professed intolerance of words that could demean a person’s abilities.

Are you suggesting providing examples of language not tolerated is as bad as using those words to demean others?

I think she's suggesting that "turn a deaf ear" is ableist language.

DP- I agree, not that "deaf ear" is such a bad thing to say, but rather funny that PP was so enlightened about avoiding words which stigmatize disability but then let this slip. Normally I am blind to such irony, but this was funny.

Yes, it was insanely funny!

I actually have a 100% deaf ear, and I was not offended.

[Anonymous]

Mine's 10 and she's not allowed to curse in public. Occasionally she'll ask if she can use X word when she's with me. Sometimes I say yes. (Like I'll tell her something awful/ridiculous and she'll say "permission to use the BS word?" and I might say yes and she'll say, "that's bullsh*t.") I don't want her cursing around other people, though. Cursing is one of those things, like drinking or driving, that should be a privilege of age.

[Anonymous]

I think people who get all worked up about "class" and "respect" in regard to cursing are ridiculous. But I still don't want my kid to offend prudes and prigs, so I won't allow him to curse in public.

[Anonymous]

Because it’s trashy AF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because it’s trashy AF.