When someone seems to dislike you for no obvious reason

[Anonymous]

Maybe her husband thinks your a hottie! Don't expect to be liked by everyone and don't try to get everyone to like you. It takes too much work. She runs the swim program and leave it at that.

[Anonymous]

I hear you OP. There are two ladies in my neighborhood who I feel this way about. Not sure what I did to them but I just got the feeling they didn't like me. Then I became PTA president and all of the sudden they are nice to me. Lesson learned--some people are just not nice until you are in a position to get them what they want. I'm not really sure why they think I have any "power" at all (I don't) but it says a lot about who they are and they aren't worth my friendship.

[Anonymous]

I'm swim team mom and I dislike (hate is way too strong) you because of how you ask your questions. Your emails imply you think something is wrong or can be taken as complaints, but you offer little of your time to help. You sit on the sidelines with a sour puss because you're offended people don't come to you and ask you to get involved. I understand you feel left out and this is your personality, but it takes way too much effort to baby you along. I wish you'd just be like all the other parents and ask "what can I do to help?". I just feel so drained dealing with you, I'd prefer to keep my distance.

Oh, also, you speak negatively of others a lot. I can't stand gossip, especially of people I know, so I just don't want you in my life. I'm sorry if that hurts your feelings but I'll never exclude your kids because of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Do you represent something she doesn't like, OP?

When we moved, my blonde, blue-eyed, neighbor said a few rapid (and I felt insincere) words of welcome and immediately said: "So your children are highly academic and good at math, aren't they?". We are Asian, and we were the first Asians to move into that street. Later I noticed how very much more friendly she was with white neighbors than others.

It's been years now, and I feel she has warmed towards me, a fact I'm delighted about, since through me hopefully she will realize that non-whites aren't people to be scared or jealous of.

Just stay courteous and move on, OP. This person has issues, and it's not your fault.

Yikes that’s ridiculous. But good you can kind of laugh about it now. I’m lucky my street in Chevy Chase is surprisingly diverse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have some people i irrationally hate. Maybe because their voice is annoying. Or their pheromones don't click with mine. Or I'm just a petty bitch. Who knows. Let it go.

Honey, I didn't know you perused DCUM?

[Anonymous]

Gee - what a surprise - women can be bitchy for no apparent reason!

[Anonymous]

OP, we will all run into other women like this. It's their problem. Refuse to make it yours, too. Some people are just small.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm swim team mom and I dislike (hate is way too strong) you because of how you ask your questions. Your emails imply you think something is wrong or can be taken as complaints, but you offer little of your time to help. You sit on the sidelines with a sour puss because you're offended people don't come to you and ask you to get involved. I understand you feel left out and this is your personality, but it takes way too much effort to baby you along. I wish you'd just be like all the other parents and ask "what can I do to help?". I just feel so drained dealing with you, I'd prefer to keep my distance.

Oh, also, you speak negatively of others a lot. I can't stand gossip, especially of people I know, so I just don't want you in my life. I'm sorry if that hurts your feelings but I'll never exclude your kids because of you.

Oops, I should add, I'm not "really" swim-team mom. I'm another group mom and this is why I have a relationship like you describe in your OP.

[Anonymous]

When I come across someone like that I'm reminded of something my husband once said about a woman who was being a big pain in the ass. He said "what that woman really needs is a good f__k!". So when I meet someone like that I also chuckle and think how right my husband is.

[Anonymous]

There was a woman like that in our circle of friends. Turns out we were very very similar, but I had several things she was jealous of and we met just as her home life was imploding. So apparently I reminded her of what things could have/should have been like. It's been a couple of years, she's friendlier but we will never be friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm swim team mom and I dislike (hate is way too strong) you because of how you ask your questions. Your emails imply you think something is wrong or can be taken as complaints, but you offer little of your time to help. You sit on the sidelines with a sour puss because you're offended people don't come to you and ask you to get involved. I understand you feel left out and this is your personality, but it takes way too much effort to baby you along. I wish you'd just be like all the other parents and ask "what can I do to help?". I just feel so drained dealing with you, I'd prefer to keep my distance.

Oh, also, you speak negatively of others a lot. I can't stand gossip, especially of people I know, so I just don't want you in my life. I'm sorry if that hurts your feelings but I'll never exclude your kids because of you.

Oops, I should add, I'm not "really" swim-team mom. I'm another group mom and this is why I have a relationship like you describe in your OP.

It's sad that you profess to dislike someone on an online forum solely based on one complaint that seems perfectly legitimate.

[Anonymous]

I’ve had this happen to me. I try to be amused by it, which can be a bit hard but is better than longing for an understanding of why.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have some people i irrationally hate. Maybe because their voice is annoying. Or their pheromones don't click with mine. Or I'm just a petty bitch. Who knows. Let it go.

Honey, I didn't know you perused DCUM?

All the time sweetie. I just have one irrational dislike right now. She's perfectly OK, but she grates on me. Whatever. I can work with her; we'll never be friends!

[Anonymous]

Who cares about that beeyoch... She probably puts on a great front and behind closed doors her life is a wreck. DH is probably banging his secretary and she’s a closet lush.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm swim team mom and I dislike (hate is way too strong) you because of how you ask your questions. Your emails imply you think something is wrong or can be taken as complaints, but you offer little of your time to help. You sit on the sidelines with a sour puss because you're offended people don't come to you and ask you to get involved. I understand you feel left out and this is your personality, but it takes way too much effort to baby you along. I wish you'd just be like all the other parents and ask "what can I do to help?". I just feel so drained dealing with you, I'd prefer to keep my distance.

Oh, also, you speak negatively of others a lot. I can't stand gossip, especially of people I know, so I just don't want you in my life. I'm sorry if that hurts your feelings but I'll never exclude your kids because of you.

Oops, I should add, I'm not "really" swim-team mom. I'm another group mom and this is why I have a relationship like you describe in your OP.

It's sad that you profess to dislike someone on an online forum solely based on one complaint that seems perfectly legitimate.

The point is, there's always a reason, valid or not, obvious or not. Sometimes it helps to hear reasons for other people's dislikes so one can be more introspective.