quite a rude response to a play date offer. drop it, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should ask the mutual friend who may know her better.

I didn't want to gossip. "Hey, does Susan not like me?"

I did send mutual friend (MT) a message. "I do not want to you to get involved, but I get the sense that Susan doesn't want to hang out with me. You are important to us, and I hope we can still hang out! I hope you can manage two separate play dates in week, haha" And she responded with "I sure can! two in a week is not a problem but two in a day are!"

This is your answer. MT has politely confirmed that Susan isn't a fan of you. Who knows why, but don't worry about it. Just keep getting together with MT and don't reach out to Susan unless she reaches out first.

[Anonymous]

If she was generally cool and breezy, I'd think that maybe she got cut off while writing it. "I am going to decline your offer, but I'm free on XYZ and would love to see you!"

But maybe not. If you have a mutual friend I'd just mention it in passing next time you see her. "I was a bit thrown by Susan's direct no the other day..." and see if your mutual friend says anything about it.

I wouldn't reach out again, but would remain open to being friendly when you see each other around. Which you will.

[Anonymous]

Yeah that's weird. That would be the last time I reached out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she was generally cool and breezy, I'd think that maybe she got cut off while writing it. "I am going to decline your offer, but I'm free on XYZ and would love to see you!"

But maybe not. If you have a mutual friend I'd just mention it in passing next time you see her. "I was a bit thrown by Susan's direct no the other day..." and see if your mutual friend says anything about it.

I wouldn't reach out again, but would remain open to being friendly when you see each other around. Which you will.

I don't want to do this and risk coming off as a high school gossip.

[Anonymous]

I agree with you OP, that it sounds rude.

You and your child are better off not having to hang out with her.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't take offense. I'd write back, so sorry you can't make it. Maybe another time

and just leave it at that

[Anonymous]

I had something similar recently where I sent out a group text inviting 4 other moms to a playgroup at my house. Two replied along the lines of “thanks for the invite; we’ll be there!” One said her kid is sick but thanks hope to see you another time. And then the last one didn’t reply until an hour before the play date and then just said “we’re going to pass.” I thought it was a little rude or maybe she was just caught up with something and didn’t have time to reply more fully. I’m not going to write her off yet but some people are just that courteous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had something similar recently where I sent out a group text inviting 4 other moms to a playgroup at my house. Two replied along the lines of “thanks for the invite; we’ll be there!” One said her kid is sick but thanks hope to see you another time. And then the last one didn’t reply until an hour before the play date and then just said “we’re going to pass.” I thought it was a little rude or maybe she was just caught up with something and didn’t have time to reply more fully. I’m not going to write her off yet but some people are just that courteous.

Are just *not* that courteous or thoughtful

[Anonymous]

OP, it sounds like you were annoying her with all the texts in the beginning. Why would you text someone you don't know well more than once if you didn't get a response back the first time? She sounds like not a charming person, but you also maybe came off as a little intrusive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You should ask the mutual friend who may know her better.

I didn't want to gossip. "Hey, does Susan not like me?"

I did send mutual friend (MT) a message. "I do not want to you to get involved, but I get the sense that Susan doesn't want to hang out with me. You are important to us, and I hope we can still hang out! I hope you can manage two separate play dates in week, haha" And she responded with "I sure can! two in a week is not a problem but two in a day are!"

This is your answer. MT has politely confirmed that Susan isn't a fan of you. Who knows why, but don't worry about it. Just keep getting together with MT and don't reach out to Susan unless she reaches out first.

+1 Yes. Move on OP. That's 100% confirmation that she's just not that into you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it sounds like you were annoying her with all the texts in the beginning. Why would you text someone you don't know well more than once if you didn't get a response back the first time? She sounds like not a charming person, but you also maybe came off as a little intrusive.

It was a couple times: "So glad you're moving to the neighborhood, you'll love it!" and then "welcome! let me know if you need help watching Larlo as you move in!" both of those messages were about 3.5 weeks apart.

[Anonymous]

I think you offended her in some way. Did you make a comment on anti-vaxxers in front of her? Did you say something political? Anything that could have touched a nerve?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you offended her in some way. Did you make a comment on anti-vaxxers in front of her? Did you say something political? Anything that could have touched a nerve?

LOL, no. We've only been together a couple times. That's why I was shocked by the shut down response!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you offended her in some way. Did you make a comment on anti-vaxxers in front of her? Did you say something political? Anything that could have touched a nerve?

LOL, no. We've only been together a couple times. That's why I was shocked by the shut down response!

Got any bumper stickers? It’s just gotta be something like that...

[Anonymous]

Weird response but def drop her for now.
If she makes an effort to make plans with you in the future you can reasses.