a solution to the redshirting debate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing will satisfy the anti redshirters here.

I actually really like the anti-redshirters, because it means they would have sympathy for me if they knew I was redshirted. All these years later, my parents still think they acted for the best, whereas I still resent them for not sending me on time.

Did your parents ever explain why they didn't think you'd be able to handle school like every other kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing will satisfy the anti redshirters here.

I actually really like the anti-redshirters, because it means they would have sympathy for me if they knew I was redshirted. All these years later, my parents still think they acted for the best, whereas I still resent them for not sending me on time.

Did your parents ever explain why they didn't think you'd be able to handle school like every other kid?

They didn't want me to be among the youngest, which was ridiculous seeing as how my birthday's in September and the cutoff was the new year. This means that at-least a quarter of my classmates would have been younger than me, as there were more than 3 months between my birthday and the cut-off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing will satisfy the anti redshirters here.

I actually really like the anti-redshirters, because it means they would have sympathy for me if they knew I was redshirted. All these years later, my parents still think they acted for the best, whereas I still resent them for not sending me on time.

Have you so few real issues in life that you hold on to resentment for this?

I absolutely have sympathy for you, but not for the reason you think I should.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing will satisfy the anti redshirters here.

I actually really like the anti-redshirters, because it means they would have sympathy for me if they knew I was redshirted. All these years later, my parents still think they acted for the best, whereas I still resent them for not sending me on time.

Did your parents ever explain why they didn't think you'd be able to handle school like every other kid?

They didn't want me to be among the youngest, which was ridiculous seeing as how my birthday's in September and the cutoff was the new year. This means that at-least a quarter of my classmates would have been younger than me, as there were more than 3 months between my birthday and the cut-off.

But that doesn't really answer the question of why. Did your parents struggle through school?

And did their lack of belief in you manifest in other ways too? (e.g. not letting you venture out independently, wanting to "help" with things like your college applications, etc?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nothing will satisfy the anti redshirters here.

I actually really like the anti-redshirters, because it means they would have sympathy for me if they knew I was redshirted. All these years later, my parents still think they acted for the best, whereas I still resent them for not sending me on time.

Have you so few real issues in life that you hold on to resentment for this?

I absolutely have sympathy for you, but not for the reason you think I should.

DP, and I resent my parents for not getting me to skip a grade when it was clear that I should have. My schooling experience would have been MUCH better.

I cannot even imagine having parents who had such a lack of belief in me that they kept me back an extra year because they didn't think I was good enough to keep up with even the average kids my age.

[Anonymous]

Your birthday is a direct result of the time of year you're born is a direct result of when your parents decided to conceive. It wasn't just something that happened. If you want your kid to be among the oldest, plan ahead of time.

I have read some dumb things on DCUM. We really should start a thread for the dumbest. This one would surely be in the running.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not this debate again. Stay in your lane. It is none of your business what parents decide for their children.

If parent A's 6-year-old is using parent B's 4-year-old as a punching bag, it is very much parent B's business.

+100 to the PP.

To the second poster: that it's a bullying issue more so that a redshirting issue and should be handled accordingly.

+1

Bullies come in all ages within a grade.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That still allows people with July and August birthdays to redshirt.

and?

That just won’t satisfy the anti-redshirt nuts.

[Anonymous]

If parent A's 6-year-old is using parent B's 4-year-old as a punching bag, it is very much parent B's business.

I taught K. The largest kid in my class one year was also the youngest. He was a little bit of a bully, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A private school that I am considering for my child has a rule that the child must turn 5 before September 1 (typical) but that a child cannot have turned 6 before July 1st of the year they start K. That way there is only a max of 14 months between the youngest and the oldest.

I like this.

This makes a lot of sense to me. It provides a little wiggle room for parents to make judgments about kids who are right on the border, but prevents things from getting out of hand by parents holding back kids who are nowhere near the cutoff and wouldn't be the very youngest even if they started on time, and conversely would be substantially older than young kids started on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A private school that I am considering for my child has a rule that the child must turn 5 before September 1 (typical) but that a child cannot have turned 6 before July 1st of the year they start K. That way there is only a max of 14 months between the youngest and the oldest.

I like this.

This makes a lot of sense to me. It provides a little wiggle room for parents to make judgments about kids who are right on the border, but prevents things from getting out of hand by parents holding back kids who are nowhere near the cutoff and wouldn't be the very youngest even if they started on time, and conversely would be substantially older than young kids started on time.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've got a brilliant solution. Parents who want their child to be the oldest should conceive in April so that their child is born in January. To be safe, they should probably conceive towards the end of April, in-case their child is born early. So to all those parents of December-born children who are considering redshirting because they're worried about their child being the youngest:

You brought this on yourselves(or rather your child). You decided to conceive in March. I think you ought to own up to your poor planning and send your child the year he or she is supposed to go.

Your birthday is a direct result of the time of year you're born is a direct result of when your parents decided to conceive. It wasn't just something that happened. If you want your kid to be among the oldest, plan ahead of time.

Oh the privilege of fertilty!

+100 I can be a bit prickly but that poster has taken us to a new low.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds good to me. There are twins at a public school I will not name who were born in early May and are enormous compared to the others. So ridiculous and everyone talks about it.

I have a five year old who is enormous. Almost the size of my 8 year old. He was born in October and will be starting K. I’m sure people will think he was redshirted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds good to me. There are twins at a public school I will not name who were born in early May and are enormous compared to the others. So ridiculous and everyone talks about it.

I have a five year old who is enormous. Almost the size of my 8 year old. He was born in October and will be starting K. I’m sure people will think he was redshirted.

And, in two years, he could be average. DD was the tallest in her class until 3rd grade. She's now fully grown and on the short side.

[Anonymous]

I've got a brilliant solution. Parents who want their child to be the oldest should conceive in April so that their child is born in January. To be safe, they should probably conceive towards the end of April, in-case their child is born early. So to all those parents of December-born children who are considering redshirting because they're worried about their child being the youngest:

You brought this on yourselves(or rather your child). You decided to conceive in March. I think you ought to own up to your poor planning and send your child the year he or she is supposed to go.

Your birthday is a direct result of the time of year you're born is a direct result of when your parents decided to conceive. It wasn't just something that happened. If you want your kid to be among the oldest, plan ahead of time.

And,please be sure that you plan to stay in place. Heaven forbid you move to an area of the country with a different cut-off date.