To the Women Who Look at me with Disdain, go to &^$*(

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I was well-off, or rich, or financially secure. the knot i walk around with in my stomach on a daily basis, while I worry about money is ruining me. and I cant keep DS in a school he loves because we cant afford it. So, the most important thing in the world for me to do (educate my children) I am not able to do. So, on top of probably soon losing my job (different topic), no financial security and anxiety, I now have to face how I have currently failed as a parent.

blech. and this is just the thread I chose to post on. It just reminds me of how differnet we all are and how problems are truly relative....

Oh honey, I am really sorry that you are in such pain. I really am. Please don't assume you are failing as a parent, however. Not being able to send your child to private school is utterly unrelated to you parental abilities. Clearly you love your son, you probably hug and kiss him, discipline him appropriately, tell him how important he is to you, and make him work hard. THAT is what makes a good parent, NOT the school he attends or your financial abilities. If you want to try and help him stay there, have you talked to the school yet? In these difficult financial times I know a lot of schools are trying to help those they already have enrolled. You might be surprised what they are willing to do for you and your son. I truly wish you the Best of Luck and try to stop being so hard on yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:So, the most important thing in the world for me to do (educate my children) I am not able to do. ...

I do really feel your pain. HOWEVER, not sending your kid to private school is not akin to not educating your children. Believe it or not, many of our children are actually learning things in public school.

[Anonymous]

The only time I went to a public school was for kindergarden. Some girl spit on me. I've never forgotten that. So, anytime I hear the word "public" I think of spitting. So, my kid goes to a private.

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oh yeah, forgot to mention--spit is one of the trade-offs.

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I always find it amusing when a well dressed mom drops the keys of her new mercedes on the desk of the business manager at our private when they are crying about not being able to pay the tuition and wanting financial help. We do all we can to help the working regular moms but not the overspending moms and it is easy to see.

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OP, how did the rest of you look? Was your hair wild and unbrushed? Did you not have makeup on and clearly need a little? I guess I am a little surprised that someone who dressed that well would look at you like that for just wearing a cheap sweatsuit - if she is as well dressed as you imply she would have no idea where it came from. Also, don't a lot of moms do drop off in yoga/fitness wear? I'm wondering if it was more than the sweatsuit that caused the reaction.

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Anonymous wrote:The only time I went to a public school was for kindergarden. Some girl spit on me. I've never forgotten that. So, anytime I hear the word "public" I think of spitting. So, my kid goes to a private.

That's a ridiculous reason to send your kid to a private school.

Do you really think kids at private school don't spit at each other? Think again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only time I went to a public school was for kindergarden. Some girl spit on me. I've never forgotten that. So, anytime I hear the word "public" I think of spitting. So, my kid goes to a private.

My public school kids get spit on every day, all day. It's part of the culture.

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Anonymous wrote:The only time I went to a public school was for kindergarden. Some girl spit on me. I've never forgotten that. So, anytime I hear the word "public" I think of spitting. So, my kid goes to a private.

Now THAT'S rational. LOL!

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Anonymous wrote:The only time I went to a public school was for kindergarden. Some girl spit on me. I've never forgotten that. So, anytime I hear the word "public" I think of spitting. So, my kid goes to a private.

In the UK, private schools are referred to as "public schols". Don't move to the UK!

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Who cares what others think?
You probably weren't comfortable with yourself or you wouldn't have felt that everyone was looking at you. So next time ... dress up and you will not have to worry about people looking at you!!
I honestly wished I had time to worry about this but I don't ... I have two kids and I don't give a rats ass

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My DC is at private school and one of the boys in his class has gotten into trouble at least three times for spitting on people. It happens everywhere--unfortunately.

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Anonymous wrote:The only time I went to a public school was for kindergarden. Some girl spit on me. I've never forgotten that. So, anytime I hear the word "public" I think of spitting. So, my kid goes to a private.

That's a ridiculous reason to send your kid to a private school.

Do you really think kids at private school don't spit at each other? Think again.

[Anonymous]

As a doctor/lawyer with a high level education why do you care about the way someone looks at you? Use your brain.

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Anonymous wrote:As a doctor/lawyer with a high level education why do you care about the way someone looks at you? Use your brain.

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Anonymous wrote:I just came back from drop off. I saw another thread on good look parents and it fueled my frustration and anger so I decided to write this. I was not feeling particularly well this morning but I still had to drop my child off. I wasn't sick or anything, just feeling tired. It's a cold, rainy, drear morning. So I put on my warmest sweatsuit....a cheap velour sweatsuit from COSTCO that I usually only wear around the house. Usually I dress reasonably well when I am out and about. Our child attends an expensive private school and we are doing fine financially.

I am walking back to my car and this mother passes by in her car and looks UP AND DOWN AT MY CLOTHING, NOT ONCE BUT TWICE, with utter disdain. Mind you, she's driving a toyota herself. This is not the first time this has happened at my school or in this locality I live in. Several times I had to run into the Galleria (tysons corner mall) in a sweatsuit. I was given horrible looks by many people there, particular the saleswomen at Bloomingdales, who repeatedly speak to me in such sarcastic or a dismissive tone.

To all those parents who judge humans by the clothing we wear, go to hell, really. We are entitled to have an off day. We are entitled to dress down sometimes. So long as our clothing is clean, and our body and hair are clean, it should not matter to you what we wear. It should not matter if our clothing comes from Neimans or Target or Costco. What's it to you, really? My husband and I are doctor/lawyer and we do just fine financially. We do not need to dress like we do though. Next time if I see you looking at me up and down with disdain I'll ask you if you have a problem. If you have a spine, you'll tell me...and then the fun will begin where I get to tell you off.

Those are incredibly arrogant and ignorant comments. So I should treat you better b/c of your career status? If you're so "humble" and don't feel the need to stand out with top dollar clothing, then don't even bother mentioning what you do for a living.