And I'm officially done with staying at MIL's house

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Anonymous wrote:Old people gonna old.

This has nothing to do with age but bad manners!

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Are you my SIL? My MIL does this too! It is so rude and it makes me so angry. She has done this in her has as well as mine. She walked in on me breastfeeding when I was in m own bed, in my underwear, in my own house. The icing on the cake was she just let herself into my house so I didn't even know she was there. When I said something about it, she said, "Well I knocked first, so it's okay." Uh, don't most people knock to get permission to enter? A knock isn't a warning, it's a request for permission.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is hosting you some kind of privilege for her?

I admit, I’m not totally following the bouncing ball.

Clearly it is, if WWIII has started over the declaration that next time they’ll be in a hotel.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you my SIL? My MIL does this too! It is so rude and it makes me so angry. She has done this in her has as well as mine. She walked in on me breastfeeding when I was in m own bed, in my underwear, in my own house. The icing on the cake was she just let herself into my house so I didn't even know she was there. When I said something about it, she said, "Well I knocked first, so it's okay." Uh, don't most people knock to get permission to enter? A knock isn't a warning, it's a request for permission.

I’m curious what your response was? Did you tell it was NOT ok? She needs to wait for someone to let her in?

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Anonymous wrote:Is hosting you some kind of privilege for her?

I admit, I’m not totally following the bouncing ball.

OP here. Yes, we stay there at her request. We visit often at her request. Our offers to stay in a hotel have been met with pouts and guilt trips before.

Well, no more. Done. DH said he's relieved, in a way. We will still visit, but without the stress and drama. Plus, the kids will love the pool!

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Glad this is working out for you and that DH is a major part of it.

Just curious, where you planning to leave today or did this cause you to leave early?

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Anonymous wrote:Is hosting you some kind of privilege for her?

I admit, I’m not totally following the bouncing ball.

My MIL loves nothing more than cramming too many relatives into tight quarters. And it’s holy hell if you decide that crappy sofa beds in the middle of the living room are no longer your style. Even if you think there will be room, SIL sneak attacks and shows up unannounced, claiming the guest room and MIL won’t say anything to her. I’m the black sheep that stood up to it and we do hotels now regardless. It was ugly at first, but she has no choice but to accept it.

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Anonymous wrote:Glad this is working out for you and that DH is a major part of it.

Just curious, where you planning to leave today or did this cause you to leave early?

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We planned on leaving today after lunch, anyway. We left after breakfast instead. My 4yo woke up 20 minutes after the baby. She usually sleeps until 7/7:15 so we were trying to get today over with and cut our losses.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you my SIL? My MIL does this too! It is so rude and it makes me so angry. She has done this in her has as well as mine. She walked in on me breastfeeding when I was in m own bed, in my underwear, in my own house. The icing on the cake was she just let herself into my house so I didn't even know she was there. When I said something about it, she said, "Well I knocked first, so it's okay." Uh, don't most people knock to get permission to enter? A knock isn't a warning, it's a request for permission.

I’m curious what your response was? Did you tell it was NOT ok? She needs to wait for someone to let her in?

Yes, I told her it was not okay, and that she needs to get permission to enter after knocking. She still insists that it's perfectly okay for her to barge in if she knocks right before barging, and maintains that she did nothing wrong. She is never wrong, you know.

[Anonymous]

How peaceful for your entire family to be done with those horrible arrangements! Own tv, own bathroom, hotel pool sound perfect! Long overdue!! Your MIL sounds rude and ignorant!

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Anonymous wrote:Old people gonna old.

Don't excuse rudeness because a person's gotten older.

How about don't assume all old people (in their 60s!) act like this. Sheesh!

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A long time ago, a poster on here practically bragged that she sometimes doesn't knock/doesn't wait for an answer when she does knock, because it's her house and guests should have no expectation of privacy. I wonder if she ever realized how wrong and awful she was.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you my SIL? My MIL does this too! It is so rude and it makes me so angry. She has done this in her has as well as mine. She walked in on me breastfeeding when I was in m own bed, in my underwear, in my own house. The icing on the cake was she just let herself into my house so I didn't even know she was there. When I said something about it, she said, "Well I knocked first, so it's okay." Uh, don't most people knock to get permission to enter? A knock isn't a warning, it's a request for permission.

I’m curious what your response was? Did you tell it was NOT ok? She needs to wait for someone to let her in?

Yes, I told her it was not okay, and that she needs to get permission to enter after knocking. She still insists that it's perfectly okay for her to barge in if she knocks right before barging, and maintains that she did nothing wrong. She is never wrong, you know.

Next time just make sure you’re in the middle of sexy time, if she’s gonna barge in, give her something to see.

[Anonymous]

She’s lucky you visit so often.

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OP, knocking or not, why would MIL enter a bedroom at 6AM to get a vacuum in the first place? Was she planning to vacuum in the house at 6AM? I literally have to know the answer to this because it is so bizarre.

Was is the baby in the same room as you and DH, or a separate guest room? I guess I can understand that she would not knock if the baby was in a room by itself, because she might wake the baby up that way. I suppose if she needed something urgently at 6AM, I could understand that she tried to enter a room we’re only the baby was to retrieve it. But how could a vacuum be urgent? This is such a perplexing a story.

I would never stay at the home of DH’s relatives or mine. I like my privacy. For that matter, when my kids are older & married, I will offer to put them up in a hotel if they are visiting You have made the right call. But please elaborate on that whole vacuum situation because I really want to know more.