Wedding shower - is this tacky???

[Anonymous]

do what you want. it is an unusual way of doing things, but it is an unusual situation. it's not tacky (it is not like you are asking guests to bring 2 gifts), and I don't think it will bother your friends (assuming they are true friends and not the etiquette police). you and your sister deserve to celebrate this exciting time.

[Anonymous]

Have a celebration dinner or Baby Ladies Night Out at the local casino for all it matters. Whether you call it a shower or not, whether you host, your sister hosts or Whoopi Goldberg hosts, your friends are going to bring gifts for the baby. Etiquette problem solved. Who else needs help?

[Anonymous]

Have a celebration dinner or Baby Ladies Night Out at the local casino for all it matters. Whether you call it a shower or not, whether you host, your sister hosts or Whoopi Goldberg hosts, your friends are going to bring gifts for the baby. Etiquette problem solved. Who else needs help?

I disagree. If I were invited to an event that was specifically called something other than a shower, I would not bring a gift, especially if the hostess was also the guest of honor. I would assume she was having an event other than a shower for herself and for a reason -- not to get gifts.

Of course, I would bring a present for the baby after his or her birth, but I would not bring it to the dinner or to the spa or wherever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: do what you want. it is an unusual way of doing things, but it is an unusual situation. it's not tacky (it is not like you are asking guests to bring 2 gifts), and I don't think it will bother your friends (assuming they are true friends and not the etiquette police). you and your sister deserve to celebrate this exciting time.

I agree, and I agree!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Have a celebration dinner or Baby Ladies Night Out at the local casino for all it matters. Whether you call it a shower or not, whether you host, your sister hosts or Whoopi Goldberg hosts, your friends are going to bring gifts for the baby. Etiquette problem solved. Who else needs help?

I disagree. If I were invited to an event that was specifically called something other than a shower, I would not bring a gift, especially if the hostess was also the guest of honor. I would assume she was having an event other than a shower for herself and for a reason -- not to get gifts.

Of course, I would bring a present for the baby after his or her birth, but I would not bring it to the dinner or to the spa or wherever.

What is your E.P.D. (Etiquette Police Department) badge number?

[Anonymous]

What is your E.P.D. (Etiquette Police Department) badge number?

Numero uno, of course!

[Anonymous]

OP just do it!

Reason 1 you and your sister will enjoy sharing the event
Reason 2 your friends will enjoy seeing more people
Reason 3 your joint friends will only need to go to one shower
Reason 4 Do it for the etiquette police! There is nothing that a fat old hen likes more then to be able to run around clucking about others. You are giving them a gift and letting them enjoy their sense of masked superiority and bonding experience with other hens!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP just do it!

Reason 1 you and your sister will enjoy sharing the event
Reason 2 your friends will enjoy seeing more people
Reason 3 your joint friends will only need to go to one shower
Reason 4 Do it for the etiquette police! There is nothing that a fat old hen likes more then to be able to run around clucking about others. You are giving them a gift and letting them enjoy their sense of masked superiority and bonding experience with other hens!

Let me add Reason 5: Your friends *want* to be able to give you shower gifts.

[Anonymous]

LOVE reason 4! 16:04 you are right on.

and I agree with Reason 5. I hate wedding showers but who doesn't like buying cute baby stuff??

[Anonymous]

Wow that is a lot of etiquette talk. I think your idea is perfect and I would not be offended at all if I was your friend and invited to your sister and yours combo shower. That being said my sister in law is due 2 months after me and I assume she will throw me my shower and I will throw hers. We may be related but we are also friends

[Anonymous]

sounds like fun to me! i wouldn't be offended in the slightest.

[Anonymous]

All showers offend me, but I would no more offended than usual by your plan.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is bad taste for family members to throw showers for family members. Too self serving.

"Formal etiquette dictates that a non-relative must throw the shower to avoid having it look as though the family is asking for presents."

showers for

Says who? This is silly. I have always hosted showers for my sisters o friends close enough to be a sister. What if the husbands or another friend were the hosts for both of you and you guys just provided the names after all it's not a surprise. No one has to know that you planned it.

[Anonymous]

Etiquette-wise, it's worse for a husband to throw the shower than for a sister. I mean, it's the husband's baby too, so then it is even more like throwing the shower for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Good lord - come celebrate with me and my family and our new arrival. Be happy for us. It's a good thing.