Are all moms kind of lame or just my mom friends?

[Anonymous]

The best thing my husband ever did for me was arrange for my best friends to fly in and take me to NYC to the weekend. I don't think I would have gotten the activation energy up to do it myself (two kids under five, FT work/ stressful career time) but it was the BEST thing that ever happened to me.

I think honestly what prevents me from doing it more often is desire to see the kids as much as possible and a sense of the ongoing things I have left undone for work and family. When I think about actually scheduling/coordinating something like that, it feels overwhelming.

[Anonymous]

Go to their houses and hang out with them as they cook and fold laundry. That is one way to get on their level. Drinks
Afterward

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:oh Shut up. You are probably one of those people with eight willing family babysitter. I have tons of friends like you, thinking that everyone has grandparents who are jumping to come down and take care of their kids. No one in my family is willing or able to keep my kids overnight. I could hire someone, but seriously, what a pain. I’m rich, but my family sucks and my kids are young my husband works 80 hour weeks and I’m tired. (And I’m not even an “old” mom) Give me a break.

You have a DH, no? Is he incapable of watching his own children for 2 hours every few months so you can hang out with friends? Or do you not trust him with his children? Or does he charge you and you can't afford his rate? Or are you just proving OP's point--that you're lame?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The best thing my husband ever did for me was arrange for my best friends to fly in and take me to NYC to the weekend. I don't think I would have gotten the activation energy up to do it myself (two kids under five, FT work/ stressful career time) but it was the BEST thing that ever happened to me.

I think honestly what prevents me from doing it more often is desire to see the kids as much as possible and a sense of the ongoing things I have left undone for work and family. When I think about actually scheduling/coordinating something like that, it feels overwhelming.

This +1000

[Anonymous]

I only have one kid, and I have really limited energy to keep up with friends. I still do it every now and then, but if I have free time on the weekend it goes in this order: sleep, qt with family, housekeeping needs, exercise, socialize. It's at the bottom of my list and some months I don't get there. It's not how I necessarily want my life to be, but it's the truth.

[Anonymous]

I’m probably lame right now. I have two under two and a demanding job. I don’t have much energy left for seeing friends at the moment other than an occasional dinner and kid birthday parties. it’s all I can do to keep up with family and spend a little time with my husband. It’s a phase and I hope my friends understand and don’t resent me.

[Anonymous]

Maybe they don’t want to waste their time away with you.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, go away!

[Anonymous]

Not all of us are rich like you OP. Go find some friends worth a lot of money to throw around.

[Anonymous]

I work so I don’t like to take too much time away from the kids otherwise
This is just me personally ok if others want to

[Anonymous]

You might just need some new mom friends, or to wait until their kids are a bit older. My mom friends are a mix of working and at home. Each has up to two kids 6 and under, I'm the only one with three. We get together about once a month in some capacity. The best time is weeknights between 7/7:30 and 11 pm. Perfect for dinner and drinks.

[Anonymous]

Wow OP, I'm surprised by the overwhelming opinion against you here. I mean, I guess I shouldn't be after years of reading DCUM, but I am.

I'll weigh in and say you just need to find some other friends who are more like you. I have lots of friends and we go out often. Book club, ladies nights, etc. Next week a group of 12 of us (9 of whom are mothers) are going on a weekend road trip.

I work full time and I love my kids and my husband, but I need time away from them and I have no guilt in saying that. For my kids it is totally normal that some nights just mommy is home and some nights just daddy. They love to ask us what we did, who we went out with, etc. because they think it's fun to hear details of us having fun. They also love babysitter nights when my husband and I go out together.

Just want you to know that there are others out there that are like you. I hope you can find them!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I think honestly what prevents me from doing it more often is desire to see the kids as much as possible and a sense of the ongoing things I have left undone for work and family. When I think about actually scheduling/coordinating something like that, it feels overwhelming.

This +1000

Me too.

- Biglaw associate mom with 3 kids under 5.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand all these moms bitching about the cost of getting a sitter to go out. Do you not have husbands that will watch their kids for free?! Just admit that you're lame and your entire existence revolves around your kids.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, I can't relate.

I feel that my time with my children is fleeting and there's nothing I want more than be with them as a family.
My oldest is 13. Soon he'll be off to live his own life. I cherish the moments we have together.