Right - it becomes like a competition - will he treat her better than he treats me? Who "wins"? |
agree, be rational, there could be a very good reason. |
Who cares, even if hes sleeping with her its not like theyve never done it before. |
OP, I would be concerned. I have a co-worker who does this with the ex . . . and that person is full of drama and mess.
I dated a guy who had not sold the home after divorce, this, along with other issues, was a signal that he was not ready for a relationship. When he tried reconciling, I did not bother communicating all the things that were wrong because he was not in that space yet. He needed time to work through the various stages of divorce. When someone is ready to for a committed relationship again, they will tie up all loose ends. |
Or it’s an excuse to stay entangled. |
If he cared about your relationship he wouldn't have the ex stay at his house!!
Those are big red flags to get out. He had a lot of options so I'm thinking there's more going on. |
They have a kid together so they are going to stay entangled forever, just a given with someone divorced w/kid. |
OP this is a 2 year relationship, not 2 weeks. You need to find out if you both want a future. If so he needs to sell the house, or pay her the portion owed. She cannot stay at his home. If he refuses to do both you need to stop wasting time ASAP.
It sounds like he kicked you to the curb when she came to town. |
They are DIVORCED. |
It’s the ex wife’s house too so no way OP’s boyfriend has any say in whether she can stay there. OP needs to get over it. So he discusses with you, so what? Ex wife is the coowner if the house. If she showed up unannounced and wanted to move in permanently, she can. |
I think before you make a big deal about this, you need to be very clear on what your concerns are about this arrangement, and thus why you feel you should have been consulted before he allowed her to say. If you think your boyfriend is going to cheat on you with his ex, you have bigger issues in the relationship than whether she stays in his house, because if they're going to hook up, they can do it even if she's sleeping elsewhere. |
I'd be more worried that you're dating a guy who would move away from his child. Red flag on what kind of person he is. |
Sounds like it is the ex wife who moved. She still is co owner of the house. |
Haha, duh, you're right. |
Divorced mom here. I own my house with my ex. I would let him stay over. But I’d also tell a boyfriend of two! Years my plan ahead of time.
Bf is thoughtless. |