If your kids are older, when did you get rid of the "particpation trophies?"

[Anonymous]

They stopped in 2nd grade.

[Anonymous]

Travel tournaments only give 1st and 2nd in tournaments to a medal. The other 8 teams nothing as it should be.

My kid refuses the 2nd place medal. I have found them in the trash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kid was a HS and college swimmer. No participation trophies in either. As for those trophies from years gone by...garbage dump.

I don't think anyone is talking about awards in high school and college. The participation awards are almost always from recreational sports teams (rather than competitive leagues) and are usually given to kids in elementary school and sometimes middle school.

[Anonymous]

My 12yo just tossed hers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Travel tournaments only give 1st and 2nd in tournaments to a medal. The other 8 teams nothing as it should be.

My kid refuses the 2nd place medal. I have found them in the trash.

If my kid did something that showed that bad sportsmanship, they would be off the team.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:i didn't allow my kids to accept them.

Mostly true for us as well. If the adults were insistent, she accepted it, but gave them away. She still resists the hoopla over just showing up.

So rude, do you encourage her to give back other gifts she doesn’t like?

+1 So rude. Honestly what happened to teaching graciousness?

+2 Personally, I never saw the trophy as a kind of fake award, it's just a memento of the season. Accept it graciously, keep it if you want or don't.

[Anonymous]

My kid wants to trash all her actual trophies, or the dozens she won for tournament wins etc

[Anonymous]

I like The Not Its' take on it:

https://thenot-its.bandcamp.com/track/participation-trophy-2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Travel tournaments only give 1st and 2nd in tournaments to a medal. The other 8 teams nothing as it should be.

My kid refuses the 2nd place medal. I have found them in the trash.

If my kid did something that showed that bad sportsmanship, they would be off the team.

Seriously. You obviously did something wrong with your kid, pp. What a rotten attitude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Travel tournaments only give 1st and 2nd in tournaments to a medal. The other 8 teams nothing as it should be.

My kid refuses the 2nd place medal. I have found them in the trash.

If my kid did something that showed that bad sportsmanship, they would be off the team.

Well, honey, he accepts it in person and when we get to the car he ditches it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Travel tournaments only give 1st and 2nd in tournaments to a medal. The other 8 teams nothing as it should be.

My kid refuses the 2nd place medal. I have found them in the trash.

If my kid did something that showed that bad sportsmanship, they would be off the team.

Well, honey, he accepts it in person and when we get to the car he ditches it.

Still awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i didn't allow my kids to accept them.

Mostly true for us as well. If the adults were insistent, she accepted it, but gave them away. She still resists the hoopla over just showing up.

So rude, do you encourage her to give back other gifts she doesn’t like?

We give those away, too. We’re not hoarders. If you don’t want it, give it to someone who does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:i didn't allow my kids to accept them.

Mostly true for us as well. If the adults were insistent, she accepted it, but gave them away. She still resists the hoopla over just showing up.

So rude, do you encourage her to give back other gifts she doesn’t like?

+1 So rude. Honestly what happened to teaching graciousness?

+2 Personally, I never saw the trophy as a kind of fake award, it's just a memento of the season. Accept it graciously, keep it if you want or don't.

When kids are little, it's a memento. But when/if they earn trophies and medals, at least for my kids, they see the old participation trophies as meaningless. Probably because they have other mementos that are more meaningful. Like tshirts. So many freaking tshirts. At least the tshirts store easily.

[Anonymous]

My kid never got participation medals - they were never offered by his soccer league or tae kwon do studio.

[Anonymous]

My kids are young and they go in the trash after a week or so.