DH is being childish or am I a b*tch?

[Anonymous]

I think you are a good match.

[Anonymous]

What was for dinner?

[Anonymous]

you are a bitch. He should be able to have a conversation with you about how he feels. Instead you react by attacking him

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband and I had a wonderful day all in all.

We sit down for dinner.

Him: I feel like my friends and I are all misfits. We're the island of misfit toys. We are always searching for something.


Me: (annoyed that her 30 year old husband is talking like an emo teen) How are you a misfit? Shouldn't we have grown out of this phase and become functioning adults who have real worries such as the fact that you aren't inclined to create a 401K account even though I have been begging you for it for years.

Him: (angry) you are attacking me like a snake.

Me: (angry) you're acting like a child. I want to hear to talk about being responsible and not about some fantasy of being a misfit like you're in high school.

Him: (angry) you don't understand me. I'm creating walls around myself to protect myself from you.

He leaves and is now in the bedroom ignoring me.

I was being mean but I am sick of him having his head in the clouds and ruminating over existential issues when we have real life to deal with. I have anxiety because of this. I am at my wits ends!

You don't have kids or own a home. Correct? How long have you been married?

He doesn't have a 401K and you treat him like a child by nagging him. Are you his mother?

It sounds like a very bad dynamic. Don't have children with him.

[Anonymous]

^don't have children with him because your marriage will not survive kids.

[Anonymous]

You sounded like his mother, OP, not his wife. No wonder the guy sulked

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Huh?

Both of you are teenagers.

If she didn’t have a vagina no one would talk to her

[Anonymous]

How old is he??

He definitely is the poster husband for how men mature at a much, much slower rate than Females.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^don't have children with him because your marriage will not survive kids.

This x100. If you are frustrated now, you will be way more frustrated with him when that first kid comes.

[Anonymous]

You were a real bitch, OP.

[Anonymous]

He was right, OP. You did attack him like a snake. My first reaction is that you were a total b***h but then I realized that there’s likely a looooong history here. But I disagree that you had a wonderful day because it’s clear you’re seething with resentment.

It sounds like you are mismatched. If you don’t have kids, it might be time to split up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a screen play?

Not for anything I’d be inclined to watch live or on screen.

[Anonymous]

Both. You are being a bitch but he sounds insufferable. I can't imagine him being a dad. What straight man talks like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both. You are being a bitch but he sounds insufferable. I can't imagine him being a dad. What straight man talks like this?

An honest man. If you feel like a misfit it means you are searching for something. Probably it's a relationship with God. This kind of talk is deep, open and true. It takes courage and a high emotional IQ to be able to handle the grayness areas of life that are right in front of our faces.

This is a man you can have a real relationship with if you want one. Some people can only handle surface issues and only desire a surface relationship. You need to put some thought into how deeply you are able to love.

[Anonymous]

You chose the wrong time and way to bring up the issue. You sensed an opening to attack and you did, ruining a nice day and telling your DH that he's childish and can't open up to you. You were being critical but not constructive and it's clear you do not respect your husband.

The time to discuss 401k is when you agree to have a talk about finances. And then you say, I'm concerned that you haven't set up a 401k. But you prefer to kick dogs when they're down, I guess.