DH is being childish or am I a b*tch?
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Anonymous
OP is definitely not after that as he does not have 401k |
Anonymous
| Well judging from all the predictions of his eventual dramatic self-exit, you should focus less on the 401k and more on the life insurance. |
Anonymous
+1. Make sure he gets life insurance. |
Anonymous
| You did attack him. I would have been thinking the same thing but I would have talked to him about his feelings or just been nice. I def would have been thinking about it and probably have vented about it to my sister. If you don’t have kids then you should make an exit plan. This is not going to get better and he’s not going to become more responsible. Or maybe you want to manage the important stuff? You can basically set up a retirement plan for him. With his permission, you can call his HR and get open enrollment info. Fill it out, he signs, you manage, done. |
Anonymous
| You are a b!tch. And don't count on your husband trying to have a real conversation with you about his feelings ever again. You may think you want that because you think his feelings are "childish" but you don't. Not feeling heard, understood, or respected just opens the door for potential affairs. |
Anonymous
| Ugh OP this sounds like me and my DH. I sympathize. |
Anonymous
| He sounds like a complete man-baby. 30-years old and hasn't set up a 401k? Unacceptable. Time to grow up and stop worrying about being a misfit. |
Anonymous
| Why did you choose to marry a man who "always has his head in the clouds". Did he somehow trick you about who he really was or did you just not pay attention or, worse yet, think you could change him? |
Anonymous
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I am sorry to hear the communication with your husband did not go well. With communication one thing I have learned is to empathize with how the other person is feeling. I just recently read the article (https://bit.ly/2IL9P47) that references using an empathy sheet. I would recommend you read the article and refer to the empathy sheet. Marriage is challenging but we need treat each other with love when we respond. Even if we don’t agree. Also, if you continue to have communication problems you might want to consider marital counseling. This group can help you with that (https://bit.ly/2DS3v7S). Marriage is a blessing and it sounds like you love and care about each other. I will be praying for you. Hugs.
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Anonymous
| OP your husband is a child. What grown man doesn’t have a 401k? You are rightly angry with his BS. Ignore the haters. Are you’ve en sexually attracted to this overgrown adolescent? |
Anonymous
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Two days later, five pages, and nothing at all from OP.
It's time for everyone to go to bed. |